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We have got TWO fucking bathrooms!

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TheWizardOfOs · 28/05/2016 21:50

Main bathroom is used by me and DDs. En-suite mainly by H. Not exclusively. There is no law or family rule banning anyone from using any of the bathrooms.

We have TWO bathrooms. TWO.

So why in the name of all that is sane, reasonable, holy, unholy and right, does fucking stupid H just barge in to the fucking bedroom to use the en-suite one when I am in bed? Whether I am asleep or not.

WHY? Why would you do that?

He works stupid hours so is in bed at 8 on week nights. Perhaps I'll start banging in to the fucking bedroom loudly at 9 and use the fucking SECOND bathroom. Even if the first one isn't being used. Just because I can. And I am a stupid, thoughtless, uncaring, loud fucker.

OP posts:
SoThatHappened · 28/05/2016 22:44

if the second bathroom is 10 steps away, that would surely wake you too?

The bathroom in my flat is 10 steps away from my bedroom and is not ensuite. Should someone use it during the night it would wake me up. That is life.

ExpandingRoundTheMiddle · 28/05/2016 22:45

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CallMeDollFace · 28/05/2016 22:45

Xpost.

Thought so! Right, gauge away.

BloomingAzalea · 28/05/2016 22:45

We have this bathroom situation too. Under no circumstances would I want DH to use/share the main bathroom. Prefer to be disturbed.
Ugh! Bad enough on holiday.

BlackeyedSusan · 28/05/2016 22:45

sorry that should say if he is the sort to sleep through an earthquake..then you are too tired to so... x, y or z

DoinItFine · 28/05/2016 22:46

There is no "high ground" with a cunt like this.

There is only making your point crystal fucking clear.

If waking people up for no good reason is fine, then it's fine.

CallMeDollFace · 28/05/2016 22:47

*gouge!!

leelu66 · 28/05/2016 22:48

YANBU, OP. He sounds like a selfish twat.

Can you get a lock for the ensuite bathroom?

BlackeyedSusan · 28/05/2016 22:49

My ex was like this. waking up deliberately with alarms would have made him feel the victim and he would not have seen anything wrong with using the bathroom, modelling his behaviour back to him and him taking the consequences was what fixed things, though he was a really slow learner. he just did not care enough that things upset me or were a danger to the children to learn to do anything different unless it had a direct consequence for him

inlovewithhubby · 28/05/2016 22:52

*sothathappened can you honestly not see how bursting through a room where someone's sleeping is far more likely to wake sleeping person who has to work tomorrow than using a separate bathroom? You must either be very relaxed or really fucking annoying to live with if you think those two things are comparable. It's so obviously unreasonable I think you must be joking. Or mad. Or one of them.

Pagwatch · 28/05/2016 22:52

If he is waking you up when you are asleep he is being a dick.

You are entitled to be angry with him.

Why would anyone wake someone up - it's inconsiderate.

I have loads of bathrooms. If DH is asleep I wouldn't dream of going in to our en-suite. It's deeply inconsiderate.

Only a twat would do that and think it's ok.

SoThatHappened · 28/05/2016 22:57

*inlovewithhubby

I am frequently woken up by my flat mate using the bathroom 10 steps away, hall light on, bathroom light on and extractor fan, toilet flush. Sometimes in the wee hours.

Meh. dont have sleep issues, will stir roll over and then go back to sleep. That is why it doesnt annoy me. The OPs rage is keeping her awake now rather than being woken up

RufusTheReindeer · 28/05/2016 22:57

I am with you op

I have never said this before but i honestly wasnt expecting some of the answers you have received

Yanbu

HermioneJeanGranger · 28/05/2016 22:58

Thing is, if you know someone is going to bed and you know you need a shower/bath, surely you have a quick shower while they're getting ready, or grab your shampoo etc. and move it to the other bathroom?

We have two bathrooms - one with a shower, one with a shower over a bath. I mainly use the shower room, but if I want a bath, I just move my shampoo, body wash etc. to the other room. It takes two seconds.

Alternatively, get two loads of toiletries and stock both bathrooms.

Why is it acceptable for the DH to continously wake up the OP? He knows she's asleep, it's not coming as a surprise to him. There is another bathroom, he needs to use it and be a considerate human being. I don't blame her for being angry, he's been doing this once a week for 20 years - I'd have buried him under the patio by now!

MajesticWhine · 28/05/2016 22:59

We have two bathrooms. DH and I only use the ensuite. DC use the other one. If one of us is asleep I guess we just be quiet as we can. It's never been an issue. However if you have asked many times for him not to then YANBU.

Pagwatch · 28/05/2016 23:00

Honestly. I think people on this thread are just being dicks.

If there is no necessity to wake someone up then most normal, non dickish people try not to.

FrancisdeSales · 28/05/2016 23:03

Can't you just put a lock on the door?

GissASquizz · 28/05/2016 23:06

Kill him.

Pagwatch · 28/05/2016 23:06
inlovewithhubby · 28/05/2016 23:07

But sothathappened would you be fucked off if you DID have an ensuite and she CHOSE to come and piss in that room instead? Of course you would. In your scenario your flatmate has no choice, hence you aren't angry. OP's hubby both has a choice and has been asked numerous times not to do it. I am not bloody surprised the op can't sleep, I think my carotid artery would have exploded if my oh did this.

Fridayschild5 · 28/05/2016 23:07

You are being very reasonable. I remind DH of my finely honed dissection skills if I am ever woken up. He knows I have skinned a pair of testicles at uni. and I would not hesitate to do it again. Although given the sharpest knife in my house wouldn't cut butter, I'm not exactly sure how I would do it.

StatisticallyChallenged · 28/05/2016 23:08

Surely whether the 10 steps away bathroom would also wake OP depends very much on the layout - if it's on the opposite side of the hall with the plumbing on the furthest away wall then it could be considerably quieter. Our bathroom is through the wall from our bedroom but because of the layout it doesn't disturb us unless someone is showering

On the other hand someone coming in, opening the bedroom door, letting light from hall in, wandering through in the dark and probably tripping over something, turning the en-suite light on, opening the door and letting that light in to the bedroom, extractor probably coming on, loo seat up, noisy tinkly man piss, loud fart or two, maybe a smelly dump, loo roll unravelling, flushing, sink running, door opening, light back off, stand on the same damn thing on the way out, bedroom door opened, hall light coming in, door closed again...that would damn well wake me. There's no need. Pee in the other loo!

MammaTJ · 28/05/2016 23:10

You are perfectly reasonable and he is being a dick, as is ThroughThickAndThin01 with their responses to you!

No need for either and I would put them both at the top end of the 'totally unnecessarily being annoying' scale!

Notso · 28/05/2016 23:11

And this is why I wouldn't want an en suite. It's bad enough in a hotel.

newtscamander · 28/05/2016 23:12

Do you not share a bedroom?

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