Ever since we got married, which largely equates to - ever since our kids were born - (they are now 13 and 10), my husband has spent a fair amount of time with other women. At the moment, he has a colleague who is about 7 years younger than him, who he spends a lot of time with. They go out cycling together at 6 am, they go for runs in the afternoon (they are both teachers and have free periods) and they go swimming together regularly. They have done a couple of sporting events together, e.g. a triathlon at Eton Dornay. She regularly posts things on his Facebook page about sporting events such as swimming in a lake in the north of Scotland, saying "hey, we should do this together" (which would clearly involve at least a week-end away). One of our kids has autism and, as a result, we have rarely left our children with babysitters. The knock on consequence of this, is that we have had zero one - to - one time together in the last 13 years. Our marriage has, at times, felt like it was falling apart, although interestingly, we did actually have sex once last week for the first time in 6 years (and probably for the third time in 13 years!!). Anyway, for the last 8 or so years, he has spent a good deal of his time with other women. They are his friends. I don't think there is any more to it than that. This other woman is very persistent in asking him to do stuff, such as go cycling, running, swimming and indeed, go away for holidays with her. I have always said nothing and let this happen but now I am starting to resent it. I think to myself, he's my husband and I don't get to spend any one to one time with him (because we can't leave our autistic son with anyone) and yet this colleague of his gets to spend one to one time with him several times a week, let alone, considering the week-ends she has been proposing on Facebook. AIBU to think she needs to fuck the fuck off and get in the queue (behind me) of people who would like to spend time one to one time with my husband?