to not have pjs for DS?

[pimsandlemonade]

I recently saw a reference to an old thread about a mum who put the kids to ben in next day clothes and it was thought of as weird to say the least.
So I've been thinking if I'm weird too
DS 3.5 doesn't own any pyjamas, in the evening he has his bath then puts on clean underwear and t shirt and goes to bed. Then in the morning there is no need to change, just add some shorts or trousers and he's ready to go.
I never thought of it as odd, is it? Am i depriving him of something?

You wouldn't go to work in the clothes you slept in, so don't make your children go out in the clothes they've slept in.

It's not a massive hygiene issue at 3, but if he's always done it, he'll keep doing it as a teenager/adult when hygiene really IS an issue. You need to teach him good hygiene and self-care from a young age so it's a habit, not a task as an adult.

Yabu
I have Dds aged 10 and 7 would never send them out next day with same top they went to sleep in
Both my girls wear pjs to bed
Wear pjs without pants 2 pairs of pjs a week

Glad to hear it OP

aibu?

Collective yabu

'Ok I'm fixing it'

Happens so rarely it's very satisfying to see!

Not a crap mum but potentially setting him up for some future embarrassment- think of when he has sleepovers and other kids bring their Pj's etc and all get changed together- your DS might find this a tad difficult, socially, and also thinking how much my eldest needs a shower first thing now that they are older- separate clothes to sleep in and wear in the day are essential.

They don't have to be fancy or expensive- if he prefers t-shirts and underwear, just get some but suggest changing him into fresh clothes every morning X

My ds is almost 2 and his pjs help him to know it is bedtime. Often they are a bit smelly in the morning so we give him clean ones next night. He wears clean clothes every day, the only item I try to get more than one day wear of is trousers.

However, just do what works for you.

We bath our ds every 2/3 nights. Some people do every night. Our son is crazily careful not to get dirty! I actually try to encourage him to get dirty!

Pjs are so cute on little ones too

I think loads of the supermarkets do two pairs of pyjamas in one pack...they are good value and you can have one to wear/one in the wash.

honeybunny14 why is it so terrible to not have PJs? Why is a bedtime tshirt or just boxers not ok? I'm not saying about the OP letting him wear the tshirt the next day (although if it was a clean bedtime tshirt and he had washed, it's not that awful) but surely being comfortable whilst sleeping is what's most important.

YANBU at all. I don't accept that it sets him up for bad habits- bodies change, and the time will come soon enough that he'll need new shirts all the time. In the meantime, he is not unclean.
I accept that this is not the accepted view here on MN, but I am a hippy who actually thinks that changing sheets/pyjamas every night is a pretty crap environmental habit to get into.

Ds has a drawer of pyjamas. He uses them on sleepovers. Usually he chooses just to wear pants. Sometimes when he's ill he pinches my nighty because he says it's comforting.
Although a couple of nights ago he went to sleep wearing both dh's pyjamas and my nighty. He explained in the morning that he thought it would be funny to hide them and that was the best place t ok hide them. It was very good. We didn't think of looking there
However he missed the search as he was asleep.

You don't need to buy PJs.
I he likes sleeping in pants and tee-shirt, let him.
Just put a clean T-shirt and pants on him when you put trousers on in the morning.

We are on the scuzzy side for MN, I'm happy for DC to re-wear clothes. Only pants and socks are always clean every day. T shirts and leggings do 2 days if not grubby, PJs/trousers/shorts up to about 3. But it would never cross my mind to leave the house in clothes I'd worn all night, and I'd apply the same to my DC.

I appreciate that children don't get all that sweaty but you change his sheets don't you? One those days he's wearing clothes all day that have been in close contact, for 12 hours, with sheets you consider dirty enough to wash. So surely his clothes must also be dirty enough to wash.

If you were washing him in the morning, then he wore the same clothes all day then all night, I think I'd be hard pushed to say what the problem was, except that it's not what I'd do and it "feels" wrong, and I wouldn't want them wearing stained clothes to bed.

Someone mentioned something upthread about what is the done thing in the age of the washing machine, which I think is really interesting.

I bet few posters over the age of about 30 grew up in households where everyone changed into clean nightclothes each night. When I was a kid, pants and socks were changed daily, but vests and the rest were not, unless they were stained/really dirty. We didn't smell, nor did we get diseases from our clothes.
People's vision of what is required has shifted radically over the last few decades; it may have to shift back again in a few more decades when energy becomes too expensive to allow for so much washing (and, I presume, tumble drying) and water becomes more of an issue.
My kids have pyjamas (DS2) and a t-shirt & boxers (DS1), which they wear for anything between 1-4 nights before washing, depending on how dirty they are.
They put clean underwear on every morning and clean and clothes on almost every morning, but I recently realised that I was training them to put things into the laundry basket without stopping to think whether they needed washing, and I have started encouraging them to rethink that.

I have an extremely acute sense of smell, so much so that I can smell things my friends don't, and the slightest unpleasant whiff makes me feel queasy,. My kids don't smell any different if they wear a t-shirt for 2 days. They really don't.

Mine all have pyjamas, but unless it's cold they usually sleep (their choice) in their pants/vests. However, I do ask them to put on fresh clothes for the morning!

That said if he has a bath and puts on clean underwear, so be it. Hardly crime of the century really.

It does seem like an odd habit to have got in to, putting different clothes on for bedtime is pretty standard. I also have not got particularly high standards but dd wears pjs to bed!

Children don't need to sleep in pyjamas or anything specific as long as they're warm (not too hot, not too cold) and comfortable.

I do think you need clean clothes in the morning. Thoughout the night you sweat, dribble, fart and shed skin/hair.. So even though there may not be food stains on the clothes, they're definitely not clean!

Mine don't wear them.

They all sleep in their pants. Mine wear uniform but I would have no problems with them sleeping in a T-shirt and wearing it the next day.

The older ones sweat a lot and would smell so I would discourage that.

AuldAlliance totally agree - I'm over 40 and grew up with fresh pants and socks every day but everything else got worn for several days unless actually dirty. My Mum still rolls her eyes at DH and me for bringing "too much" luggage when we stay, because we wear a fresh top every day.

Our pre-teens also have fresh socks and pants every day (and vests in winter) but everything else gets worn several days unless visibly dirty (or smelly which is still rare). PJs last anything up to a week and are usually changed with the sheets (again, unless visibly dirty).They have a bath or shower most nights before bed.

I don't think it actually matters that much for a 3-year-old but as PPs have said it's about setting up sound hygiene habits for life. A teenager / adult going out in the clothes they slept in would definitely smell, erm mouldy...

To me, sleeping in pants at any age is rank though - even worse if the same pants are worn for the previous/next day! Private parts need to be aired - most crucial for girls, but boys too can get yeast infections (and pass them on to their partner when they're old enough).

Eh? Clean pants every morning? Does no-one else wear pants for 24 hours then? Have I been a skank my entire 42 years?

Clean pants at night AND in the morning? 14 pairs of pants a week?
Nope. Nope. Nope.

pants fir 24 hours?

em nope. clean notbing and night time. and if I have a bath in the afternoon clean ones on after that too

14 pairs of pants a week isn't excessive imo. The dc's have change every morning and evening.

I don't wear pants at night but I change after work, gym class or being at the allotment. I walk to work so don't want the same pants on when I take the dc's to clubs.

I also am over 40 if that makes a difference New pjs once a week probably although kids often shuck them off at night. Clean uniform Monday and Wednesday. Bath every other night. They are fine. For myself, 24 hour pants unless I have an evening bath in which case no pants

How many of you would be offering the same wisdom if you had to use an old twin tub?