to not have pjs for DS?

[pimsandlemonade]

I recently saw a reference to an old thread about a mum who put the kids to ben in next day clothes and it was thought of as weird to say the least.
So I've been thinking if I'm weird too
DS 3.5 doesn't own any pyjamas, in the evening he has his bath then puts on clean underwear and t shirt and goes to bed. Then in the morning there is no need to change, just add some shorts or trousers and he's ready to go.
I never thought of it as odd, is it? Am i depriving him of something?

You don't need to feel like a crap mum but you do need to teach him good hygene habits, to most people that means clean clothes in the morning and not going out in stuff they have slept in.

But he's a 3 year old kid, why is it "yuk"
What do you think happens to his t shirt at night?
Like i said he's not sweaty.

I actually don't get it. But im trying to.
So regarding pjs, do your kids wear them more than once? Do they have underwear underneath?

It's a bit skanky imo it's not really setting them up for good personal hygiene when they get to teenagers is it.

Everyone sweats at night. Not buckets. But everyone does, especially now it's getting warmer.

I wouldn't go out in clothes I had slept in, nor would I wear a top for 23 hours a day. So I would expect my kids to either.

Yabu I'm afraid.

We have clean pj's every night.

You don't need pjs. Dd has a ridiculous amount, she only wears them around the house she likes to sleep naked.

The issue op is not pjs, it's he needs clean clothes every morning. Not underwear he slept in.

It's not about whether he is sweaty or not, don't you want to teach him good hygiene ?
When do you think he should be wearing night clothes and changing into new ones in the morning. Once you teach him bad habits how will you undo it later on? It's lazy what you're doing.

Even little kids get a bit sweaty and his clothes probably smell slept in. It's not hard to change his clothes in the morning, it takes very little time do why not do it?

You don't need clean pyjamas every night, or even pyjamas. My children like sleeping in soft old T-shirts of mine and their father's sometimes.

But I do think separate clothes to sleep in is important. The bed needs to be a clean environment so going to bed in what you've worn all day seems a bad idea. And anything worn in bed will not be (or smell) fresh enough to be worn through the next day.

You certainly are not a crap mother for doing this. I had a primary school friend who had to wear the same clothes, including knickers, for about 10-14 days. Now that was crap parenting!

I don't care what they wear to bed, (usually amid of today's tshirt/PJ bottoms/ old shorts/undies) but I would definitely make them put clean clothes on the next morning. It's might not be too bad when he's 3 but he'll be starting school in a year or so. You're not going to put him in his uniform the night before are you? It's a good time to set up good habits.

My dd changes her pjs every week (spills excepted) but she wears them with fresh knicks every night. By which I mean not the ones she's had on during the day and not the ones she wears the following day. Fresh knicks to go with her pjs.

The issue op is not pjs, it's he needs clean clothes every morning. Not underwear he slept in this, it doesn't matter what he sleeps in just that he is in different underwear and clothing the next day. DD1(16) was a sweaty monster at night from a tiny age.

I agree with oswin - it's not the lack of PJs, it's the lack of clean clothes in the morning. Just seems a bit odd to me.

I think yabu. He might not sweat now but what about when he's a teenager/adult? It really is the done thing in the age of the washing machine to have clean next to skin later every morning....my DS has clean pjs every day, which I think it's unnecessary but DP does the washing and insists on it, so it's his labour

I let DD sleep in the t shirt she's already spent the day in if she cant be bothered to change but she'd never get out the front door in slept in clothes.

DS1 eschews full pyjamas in favour of just tshirt and pants (says he gets too hot at night otherwise) but he does have clean pants morning and night, his sleeping tshirt is changed every couple of days and he always has a fresh, clean top for daytime.

So your DS must effectively wear the same clothes for the whole 24gr period?

Why wouldn't you get him cute little PJs? My son generally wears his for 2 nights, he's now 12.

Wearing the clothes he slept in isn't nice, and will get less nice as he gets older and sweatier.

Ok i get it

However to me it would be way worse to send him to bed in day clothes, and to me the "night" clothes are still clean in the morning i guess thats a family thing from when i was a kid

I have relatively low standards compared to some people on MN and even I think it's beyond grim to sleep in a t shirt all night and then wearing it the following day.

In terms of pjs, mine have clean ones every 2/3 nights and one sleeps with underwear and one without (just their personal preference).

You don't go out in clothes you've slept in do you? Why should he?

I let DD sleep in the t shirt she's already spent the day in if she cant be bothered to change

I think that is a terrible habit to get into. Actually find it quite shocking.

Just buy him some PJs and deal with the extra laundry. A top and some trousers will hardly break your back.

Also in the low standard club, and I think this is ick. His nightclothes won't be dirty as if he'd spent the day in the park with them on, but waking up, washing and dressing in fresh clothes is pretty standard and sets a good habit...

What's your personal hygiene like op?

Genuine question not a piss take, just trying to see where you are starting from.

Do you shower everyday? Clean clothes? Teeth brushed twice daily?

If you weren't brought up doing this Italy be hard to adjust?