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AIBU?

to not have pjs for DS?

220 replies

pimsandlemonade · 25/05/2016 16:13

I recently saw a reference to an old thread about a mum who put the kids to ben in next day clothes and it was thought of as weird to say the least.
So I've been thinking if I'm weird too
DS 3.5 doesn't own any pyjamas, in the evening he has his bath then puts on clean underwear and t shirt and goes to bed. Then in the morning there is no need to change, just add some shorts or trousers and he's ready to go.
I never thought of it as odd, is it? Am i depriving him of something?

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Dolphinsanddinosaurs · 26/05/2016 20:55

I do think there is a lot of hysteria about cleanliness on MN. If a child is changing their clothes daily that is not neglect. It is just a matter of different standards. I wouldn't send a child to school in clothes they'd slept in, but for knocking about the house, or playing in a park I can't see it as something to get worked up about.

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ChangedDays · 26/05/2016 20:45

I don't think it's the end of the world, especially given that he's only 3. Sometimes I wear a tshirt to bed but I'd never then wear it out all day without changing. Each to their own. When he's s sweaty, smelly teen then you might have an issue. until then whilst I wouldn't do it I don't see an issue

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Sleepyjean70 · 26/05/2016 20:41

Pjs

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Sleepyjean70 · 26/05/2016 20:40

My 3 year old DC won't wear anything in bed bar a pull up so not against no PS. However, not sure about wearing T-shirt previously slept I .

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Waterhill · 26/05/2016 20:36

Your child doesn't have clothes for sleeping in. That's really odd. They sleep in their next day clothes... Confused I don't get it. DC have clean pyjamas after 1-2 nights - I couldn't imagine them not having any at all.

Do they not have a coat/hat/gloves/scarf/swimwear, etc.? Odd...

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BorisJohnsonsHair · 26/05/2016 20:20

You don't have to buy PJs, just put him in clean clothes the next morning. At 3 he doesn't sweat, but as he gets a bit older he will, and will be in the habit of wearing stinky clothes the next day.

And I don't think that arguing that it's better than putting your children to bed in day clothes is great either. Are parents really so lazy that they can't be bothered to get their children ready for bed?

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kerbys · 26/05/2016 19:37

So 3 kids on a 2 week holiday will need 42 pairs of pjs if there's no washing machine available. Crikey.

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irregularegular · 26/05/2016 19:15

My DS only has pjs for sleepovers etc. He just wears pants. He changes them either in the morning or evening. Hopefully one or the other anyway, but not usually both. He's 12 now and has done it for years. It's not what I would do, but he's happy, healthy, and not doing anyone else any harm. Not sure what people are getting quite so horrified about!

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CheerfulYank · 26/05/2016 14:52

But his underwear are changed every day. Confused

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Gileswithachainsaw · 26/05/2016 13:37

only on MN would people trot out "environmental impact" as an excuse to not change their kids underwear Grin

this is precisely why my kids are bathed and have clean clothes fir school every day cos they come home smelling of school and other people's unwashed clothes and icky washed once a week kids

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Marmalade85 · 26/05/2016 11:38

Grim

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Artandco · 26/05/2016 11:21

Super - but surely pants are better than duvets against them? Again how can people be 'airing' their bits at night Under a duvet or blanket?

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CheerfulYank · 26/05/2016 11:14

I don't know Super, I don't wear underwear to bed! :) But we always did as kids so my mother just must think it's the done thing.

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SouperSal · 26/05/2016 08:07

My mother was horrified at me not putting underwear under DS's pajamas so it's all what you're used to

Is it? Vaginal health is affected by so many things, and heat can encourage the growth of bacterias etc that can cause soreness and imbalance. Having fabric against that area 24/7 must have an effect, surely?

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waitingforsomething · 26/05/2016 05:39

Op I think people are being a bit hysterical! If everyone sweats at night and sheds skin then you should all be showering and washing the hair of your kids before you get them dressed every day as they will be covered in sweat and have dirty hair.
He's your child op, it's hardly the crime of the century, do what works for you

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FixItUpChappie · 26/05/2016 05:31

I can't believe all the hysterical responses FFS

...as my children have a bath at night, get changed into clean pjs and knickers and then carry on with the knickers the next day.

^^This is what we do too with our young children

My kids bathe every night, have clean clothes every day, brush teeth twice a day.....hardly disgusting rank little dirt bots Hmm

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CheerfulYank · 26/05/2016 05:09

My mother was horrified at me not putting underwear under DS's pajamas so it's all what you're used to :)

I don't think it's that bad really. Everything gets changed every day, so who cares?

My older DS wears athletic shorts or sweatpants to bed. He doesn't like pajamas or tops while he's sleeping. He rewears these. The little two (1 and almost 3) are still in diapers so they get new pajamas every night because theirs always smell like pee.

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pilpiloni · 26/05/2016 04:40

I think it's fine! I don't understand what there is to be judgey about - it's not like others are changing pjs every night. And, yes, I'd have no problem wearing the t shirt id slept in the next day. I shower before bed, I'm clean, why not?

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shadowfax07 · 26/05/2016 00:22

I'm sure it's not good to wear pants all day and all night. Your bits need fresh air! I wouldn't put DD in pants for bed.

Just how much fresh air are your bits getting under a duvet? Hmm

What do you think will happen if your 'bits' don't get an airing?

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softjellyjunglecustard · 26/05/2016 00:11

I certainly don't think you've done anything wrong, you're definitely not a crap mum. He's clearly comfortable and if he was getting cold or whatever he's old enough probably to tell you.
Little ones don't really sweat much so at this point it's okay for him to wear that tshirt the next day, i probably wouldn't do it but he's not my son, he's yours, and you know what works for you :)

as long as he's in a fresh shirt in the morning by the time he's adolescent. I couldn't wear my pyjama tshirt out the next day. not knowing it's got all my stink of the night on it. festers

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xinchao · 26/05/2016 00:08

No PJs here for any of us (hot country) and ewwwwwwww at the thought of wearing pants to bed. We change our bedsheets once, sometimes twice a week.

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SouperSal · 25/05/2016 23:55

I'm sure it's not good to wear pants all day and all night. Your bits need fresh air! I wouldn't put DD in pants for bed.

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SouperSal · 25/05/2016 23:51

My 5 year old daughter sleeps naked most nights. Blush

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Vickyyyy · 25/05/2016 23:49

DD sleeps in knickers by choice. She has PJs though.

I have been known to put them to bed in the clothes they have worn that day but only if they are knackered and already asleep...then in morning I bath them and change clothes. Wouldn't leave them in something they had slept in...

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Obeliskherder · 25/05/2016 23:44

Perhaps this is the way to stop all those grownups wearing their PJs on the school run or to the supermarket - head teachers could advise them all to dress the night before Grin

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