I see, Liesel, I obviously missed some information along the way. I guess that if he's done it before (overnight), then he can do it again. Or take the baby to SIL/Parents in the morning, if he prefers.
I think the first two years of a baby are really draining. I wouldn't make life-changing decisions unless abuse or violence were involved. It takes adjustment from being a childless couple to having children, especially if you were used to going out at night. Communication is the key but at the same time, communication cannot be achieved at all times or on demand, because each of you might be overtired, interrupted sleep or no sleep is incredibly hard (and a form of torture!), and I know I'm not myself in those circumstances, for example. Do get time together, if you can, and try to remember how it was and what you loved from each other. Even if you just stay in bed until noon and watch TV afterwards, the bank holidays when my children are in nursery are a great date day for me, even if all we do is go back to sleep and go out for lunch. The extra rest is worth every second in gold, as it makes both human again. That said, we have no support / help other than nursery, no family around and friends willing to babysit ! We get moody, impatient and miserable every now and then, but usually it's sorted with extra sleep and TLC.
I don't know, I guess what I mean is don't rush it, do give time for things to settle, for both of you to get a new routine around the baby and I wouldn't expect life to be the same as before but with an extra tiny baby, I personally think that some things give in exchange for other things to come, and children bring lots of joy, parents-friends and weekend birthday parties.
I used to resent a lot of things in the first year, from him being able to go to work and have conversations that didn't include nappies, to being able to be dressed and clean the whole day, to his time off with the console or his nap after tea. Then I realised that I also monopolised everything that had to do with the children because I wanted done "my way", I constantly questioned how he did things and to some extent I didn't think he was as capable as I perceived I was. It took talking and some arguments, I still monopolise but it doesn't bother me, he still falls asleep after lunch but I see an opportunity to switch football to Cbeebies and have a cup of coffee, Idk, I think things haven't changed a lot "per se", but we did change the way they affected us and stopped resenting them. I'm more accepting of the fact he's a different person and has his own way of doing things, whilst he helps more and now we have two we have to divide ourselves sometimes (when I don't monopolise!), but unless we had a rough night or the kids are I'll, we tend to be reasonable and support each other. Now, don't ask me when I have only 4-5h of interrupted sleep, because I might say a different tune, yet I don't act on it because I know that when I'm rested, I'm again the old me who loves this family to bits.