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AIBU?

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To drive an hour away to family with LO for a few days?

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GoodCompanion · 19/05/2016 21:06

Hey there Newbie here.

Just wanted your opinion on this subject.
So I'm an hour away drive on the motorway from family as the title says and I know nobody in my town . OH is at work until 5/6 and he does do his bit when he comes back but he takes his time sometimes that I end up doing stuff that we've agreed he does. AIBU to suggest that I take LO to my mothers tomorrow morning to get a break. I'm tired, lonely, feeling down, bored and lo is feeling it all. Plus if I go away she can play with her cousins which are a similar age.

If I do suggest going away I know he will say no because he doesn't want me to drive on my own with lo. Would I also be unreasonable to just go anyway? Or would that be a rubbish thing to do. I just need some support iv been a stahp for 2 and half years now in an area I don't really have anyone close to me. We are planning to move but I just need to be around people now because I'm going crazy and not myself anymore.

Thanks x

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Charley50 · 20/05/2016 12:37

Yep criticizing her driving was one of the many ways my cunt of a dad belittled and intimidated my mum. She was a shell when he left, and although she looked 20 years younger almost immediately, she has never really recovered from his abuse and enforced isolation. Its very sad. I'd have a really good think about whether you have a loving future with this man.
Anyway have fun this weekend though!

GoodCompanion · 20/05/2016 12:38

Sorry about the delay. I was driving. I am at my moms now yes. Im just going to relax for a bit here and chill out. I know things aren't great. I don't really want to move the post over to relationships you've all driven me the advice I needed which is great thank you.
I'm just going to do what's best for me and my daughter now. X

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Alisvolatpropiis · 20/05/2016 12:39

Bloody good for you op!

Enjoy spending time with your family.

LagunaBubbles · 20/05/2016 12:45

He's a great dad

No hes not OP, hes really not if hes treating you the way he is. Good luck.

averylongtimeago · 20/05/2016 13:05

Have a lovely time at your mums, and get your confidence back.

ExtraHotLatteToGo · 20/05/2016 14:18

Enjoy the break 💐

You know where we are IF you want to talk anymore.

Look after yourself

ohtheholidays · 20/05/2016 14:39

Glad you've done something nice for yourself and your DD OP,hope you have a lovely time Smile

GoodCompanion · 20/05/2016 14:49

Thanks for the support SmileDD is asleep now so I'm just going have some chill time xx

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