AIBU about my (future)brother in law proposing to my (future) sister in law so close to my proposal?

[TaliaTalksAlot84]

I'll try to keep this short, as I tend to ramble.
My oh said last April that he'd booked for us to go away for our 10 year anniversary next March (this year) to Paris.
While their hed planned lots of activities and things to do (not like him at all) and (long story short) he very romantically proposed. This is the man that got me a new mop and bucket for valentines day haha. Turns out his entire family new since last April he was going to propose.
His sister has been with her oh 12 years.
We went for (his) family get together in April and her oh proposed in front of her family, not even 4 weeks after my oh proposed! While I am happy I'm annoyed too. My oh mum knew my bil was going to propose and he'd been planning to do it for an entire 4 weeks! I don't see why he couldn't of waited a bit longer. My oh mum then calls all the aunts etc to say my sil is engaged but didn't even mention my ohs engagement (those that don't have Facebook didn't know, one aunt that did said couldn't he of waited a bit not fair on Phil and talia).
We have booked to get married next may, my sil is looking at 2 weeks after or 3 weeks before our date, because her friends are getting married later in the year and she can't be so close to theirs! Her mum and dad agree.
AIBU in

1. being miffed
2. asking her to give us a bit more time between our weddings?

And FWIW Op, there's no rush to get married if you're going to spend the rest of your lives together anyway. Why not wait until they've had theirs and then start planning? Lots of people have really long engagements, for lots of reasons, so it's entirely up to you when you do it and no-one else's opinion matters, at all.

If it's a competitive situation then let them get on with it, and just be happy that you're getting married to the person you love. Whether that's in 6 months or 6 years, it doesn't matter.

A few years on and I doubt it
will matter so much.

Haha not a troll a real person. I've not acted in anyway unpleasant but this is how I feel.
Turns out my feelings are unreasonable and I'll just get on with it

Is this a good time to lighten the mood and tell how someone announced their engagement at my sisters funeral?

Some of you are just being batches about pregnancy, I had a hysterectomy due to cancer and adopted my son. So I really think you should consider your comments about joking about competitive pregnancy

Bitches not batches. auto correct.

I've been the Sil in this instance - we got engaged a bit close to my sil/bil engagement. It had been planned by DH for six months and then brought forward as a result of something awful that happened.

And my brother was already engaged...

We just made sure the weddings had three/four months between them. Is your wedding date set in stone? Is theirs? Could you have a chat about giving a bit of a breather between them?
Your wedding day will still be special regardless (I think that might sound a bit sarky - its not meant that way )

I went off to New Zealand for a year when I was in my 20's and had to cut my year short as a close cousin got married in the August, another close cousin in Sept (in Scotland) my middle brother in Oct and my youngest brother in Nov (both brother married 4 weeks apart in same church in London. Most of my family were at all 4 weddings and yes...I do remember one of my s-i-l's being a little peeved that her thunder had been stolen and it was an expensive time for everyone travelling the length of the country a few times and buying gifts etc but it was also lots of fun. You cannot organise weddings/pregnancies etc around everyone else. I had another friend announce her engagement at one of my brothers weddings. That was seen as a bit odd by most of us but she was very excited and could not contain herself!

Will your wedding guests be required to donate cheques for attendance?

Life happens to everyone and sometimes it synchronises with someone else's. That's all. It's a lot of fuss for something that should only really be relevant for the two people involved.

Engagement - no big deal.

Wedding - not ideal. If it is 2 weeks after will you still be on honeymoon?

However - there are advantages.....

You know all the random relatives that appear out of the woodwork when you get married and suddenly need an invitation? Meaning that you don't have space for your best friend from uni who has been a massive support to you for the last 10 years? ("Of course you've met Aunty Eileen darling - she was at your christening" said my dad.)

Well...... make sure they get the other invite first!

You can't help how you feel. I don't know if it helps, but my brother and my sister got married within a month of each other and both weddings were wonderful and not compared in any way. The second one didn't feel any less special than the first.

I agree that his sister was probably annoyed that, after being together for longer than you two, she put pressure on her DP to propose.

I think you should consider your words befote you speak. I had a hysterectomy due to cancer, so can't get pregnant as much as I wanted too, we are however blessed to have welcomed our son to our family through adoption.

Don't let it get to you. Yes it sounds a bit annoying but if the BiL was pressurised into the engagement or whether he had meant to plan before but waited for your other half since he did faff about for a year.

The wedding thing could be a logistical problem but only for his family, all your family and friends will be there so don't worry about, enjoy the planning and don't share too many details with her. Enjoy the planning and the run up to the wedding its all very exciting, you dont want to ruin it for yourself by getting annoyed. Maybe send out a save the date before she sets her date. Or if it really is going to get to you so much then I would change your own date, bring it back earlier, why wait a year?

"Turns out my feelings are unreasonable and I'll just get on with it"

You can't help how you feel & I know that I'd be upset/disappointed if my sibling did this.

It's how you deal with it that's important now.