AIBU about my (future)brother in law proposing to my (future) sister in law so close to my proposal?

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I'll try to keep this short, as I tend to ramble.
My oh said last April that he'd booked for us to go away for our 10 year anniversary next March (this year) to Paris.
While their hed planned lots of activities and things to do (not like him at all) and (long story short) he very romantically proposed. This is the man that got me a new mop and bucket for valentines day haha. Turns out his entire family new since last April he was going to propose.
His sister has been with her oh 12 years.
We went for (his) family get together in April and her oh proposed in front of her family, not even 4 weeks after my oh proposed! While I am happy I'm annoyed too. My oh mum knew my bil was going to propose and he'd been planning to do it for an entire 4 weeks! I don't see why he couldn't of waited a bit longer. My oh mum then calls all the aunts etc to say my sil is engaged but didn't even mention my ohs engagement (those that don't have Facebook didn't know, one aunt that did said couldn't he of waited a bit not fair on Phil and talia).
We have booked to get married next may, my sil is looking at 2 weeks after or 3 weeks before our date, because her friends are getting married later in the year and she can't be so close to theirs! Her mum and dad agree.
AIBU in

1. being miffed
2. asking her to give us a bit more time between our weddings?

To be fair, your fiancé did dick around for a hell of a long time (a year?!).

You are being a bit silly really.

Blimey, no one does things in a hurry, do they?

A year to organise a proposal, another year to the wedding.

Why not get married this year?

Wouldn't surprise me if the OP decided to get revenge on the SIL with a pregnancy announcement at her wedding...

Sometimes mumsnet makes me sad

Yabu and I think by now you know it and it could be that your future BIL was considering proposing....decided to wait while your fiance had his timely year long think about it (why... clearly a proposal is romantic regardless of where it is...no need to fanny about for a year) and thought that he would just wait until your proposal was done and the dust settled and propose himself. Regardless though just get on with wedding planning how you want it to be and don't be all bridezilla already

2 weddings in one month is a bit mad and why have they chosen that month? Her mate getting married later in the year shouldn't have an impact. Are you both doing the big white number?

My bil proposed to his gf straight after us and picked a date 2 weeks before ours. The only trauma was me and my DF having to pick him and SIL up from the furthest London airport from our house the day before our wedding, that was not fun. (DF came cos he knew the way)

Orda1 - blimey, that wasn't at all nice!

...or are you the SIL?

I've reported your post Orda1. No need!

AHEM
BIT OF PEACE AND LOVE on a wedding thread puhlease

You could get married in Maui?

Oh my God, haha I found myself trying to press an imaginary LIKE button there, then remembered this is not facebook.

Yabu you get one day to get married and the same with your engagement.

Sorry if that's a bit harsh but this really winds me up! my friend fell out with his brother because he dared book his wedding 3 weeks after theirs so bloody petty.

Just rearrange your wedding if you're not happy. Job done.

Come on people aren't we always saying on here that you can't help how you feel??

Op seems like she waited for a while for her dp to pop the question and he did it in a way that meant something to them both.

For all we know her sil could have argued with her dp about getting married after op made her announcement and he's rushed a proposal so she's not on his back anymore?
I think its needless for them to get married so close to the op as well, seems a bit odd as its going to causes faff fir the family.

You can't help how you feel op but try and focus on your wedding.

Yabu. How are you going to react in life when something really awful happens?
Have another very large grip.

Agreed Ollie - quite a lot of unnecessary piling on going on in this thread.

AIBU in

1. being miffed- no be as miffed as you like

Can I ask how old you are and how long you've been together?* #
2) asking her to give us a bit more time between our weddings?- yes, you can't dictate when people get married - in your shoes i'd get my OH to get a move on and get married this autumn or very early spring, scupper them all

if you are under 25 or have not been together more than a year or two, i'd maybe do the other way round and let them get their wedding out of the way and then you go but really if you want to marry him, no doubts etc, why wait a year?? (Genuine question).

Sorry - I'd get me and my OH ...

PS not read all comments, dd wants to get on pc!! Sorry.

Yabu. You sound like my ex's sister. The day our daughter was born her now husband proposed and she asked if we could 'keep her birth a secret for a few days so that the shine was still on them'

Wish I'd never wandered on to this thread. So many threads on MN concerned about bullying and yet it happens over and over again. By adults.

Lovely. Really lovely. I'm sure you're all saintly.

Op - bad place to post this but in the nicest possible way - yes, YABU.

You could have a joint wedding.

Sorry, it's a YABU from me.

My wedding and DHs brothers wedding were both in the same year a month apart. The world didn't stop turning. It'll be right.

I'm going to post my comment again because I was nice and reasonable and you lot are being very mean.

And ffs can we not agree that the handing out of grips is not funny anymore. Last time it was funny was when op and her man got together.

"What the fuck is wrong with getting engaged in Paris?

The wedding logistics do sound like a nightmare.

Can you all sit down and talk it through?"