AIBU about my (future)brother in law proposing to my (future) sister in law so close to my proposal?

[TaliaTalksAlot84]

I'll try to keep this short, as I tend to ramble.
My oh said last April that he'd booked for us to go away for our 10 year anniversary next March (this year) to Paris.
While their hed planned lots of activities and things to do (not like him at all) and (long story short) he very romantically proposed. This is the man that got me a new mop and bucket for valentines day haha. Turns out his entire family new since last April he was going to propose.
His sister has been with her oh 12 years.
We went for (his) family get together in April and her oh proposed in front of her family, not even 4 weeks after my oh proposed! While I am happy I'm annoyed too. My oh mum knew my bil was going to propose and he'd been planning to do it for an entire 4 weeks! I don't see why he couldn't of waited a bit longer. My oh mum then calls all the aunts etc to say my sil is engaged but didn't even mention my ohs engagement (those that don't have Facebook didn't know, one aunt that did said couldn't he of waited a bit not fair on Phil and talia).
We have booked to get married next may, my sil is looking at 2 weeks after or 3 weeks before our date, because her friends are getting married later in the year and she can't be so close to theirs! Her mum and dad agree.
AIBU in

1. being miffed
2. asking her to give us a bit more time between our weddings?

YABU

It isn't a big deal. It's only a party.

embrace it...have a double wedding, WHAT LARKS!

Oh for goodness sake, can you not just be happy for them? Have you not got enough on your plate having just gotten engaged yourself?

DH and I had a friend who flipped out because we decided to get married whilst she was on honeymoon. We hadn't even thought about her! Needless to say we are now ex friends. Think long and hard before you embarrass yourself by vocalising these feelings.

YABU.

What the fuck is wrong with getting engaged in Paris?

The wedding logistics do sound like a nightmare.

Can you all sit down and talk it through?

Lol YABU

Can I edit to title to say the engagement and wedding lol

He was planning it for 5 weeks cos he had text to his mate to prove it (showed it to my sil to show when he'd decided to propose)

They don't know where I'm annoyed about the engagement. But I think the wedding is a bigger problem

No Thirsty I think that Phil is the op's oh

Talia and Phil are the Op and her fiance, I think

Op your posts make little sense.

Chill.

They might have had a massive row, with her complaining that you were engaged and she wasn't, and he's doing it under pressure.

Regarding organising your own wedding, just concentrate on your own family and friends. If your SIL books her wedding before yours, great: enjoy the day, and learn from her mistake.
If it is after, enjoy the day (providing you are not on your honeymoon) and keep your smile inside about all the things she will have copied.

Honestly, it's your wedding, don't make it into a competition. At worst, It's hugely annoying when you can't choose your favourite wedding dress because it is too similar to your SIL's dress, but it's not worth getting worked up about it.

But they'll have to pay for all that twice regardless of how far apart your weddings are. The only solution to that is you have a joint wedding, maybe you could suggest that if your concern is for his family.

YABU, and a little ridiculous.
Watch out, she'll probably get pg at the same time as you, and call baby the same name.

Oooh, what an interesting thread!

Oh Good God. Pull yourself together woman!

Joint wedding

Congratulations to you, Talia (who I presume is 31 years old or so) and Phil!

Might want to edit your op...... I'll report my post if so!

yeah i say joint wedding.

YABU about the proposal. It's just a proposal, not an event, ffs. No reason why people can't do it whenever it suits them.
Not sure about the weddings being so close together. I suppose it depends on how big they are, how far guests have to travel and how much money they are expected to shell out.
As far as stealing your thunder, or whatever, if that is your concern then just grow up and get the fuck over it.

Blimey, that makes me feel really old. Someone born in 1984 is 31. I was thinking it was really young (not that 31 is old, mind you)

😂

Planning your Wedding three weeks either side of a sibling, is odd, unless pregnant/seriously ill, or you've always wanted to get married in that particular month.

OP, stop sharing plans with them, or you're going to have a lifetime of this. Don't take her dress shopping with you.

Don't let it sour your Wedding plans/day.

God you sound bonkers

Who, except for the couple themselves, gives a flying fuck about engagements?

You're getting married, that's lovely and I'm happy for you. Don't expect the whole world to revolve around that fact though. Be happy for your in-laws and stop being such a princess!

Look on the bright side. If guests are annoyed about attending 2 weddings so close together, it will be your BIL they'll be annoyed with, as it's the second one.

You should get married somewhere amazing abroad so she can't top it - I've heard Maui is spectacular

You could get married in Maui?