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To hate it when people refer to dc as 'sexy'

111 replies

Unicorn1981 · 19/05/2016 16:53

Recently I went to a party and a guest posted a picture of their child with the hosts child along with some pictures of other kids including my dd on Facebook so I got tagged. Lots of this woman's family were talking about her boy as 'gorgeous' and 'so sexy'. Obviously this is none of my business what they write but it is not the first time I've seen this. I just think it's really inappropriate to describe a child as sexy. Does this annoy anyone else or AIBU?

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AlwaysWashing · 20/05/2016 10:18

It's gross, I hate it.
Lots of my Mummy friends are a good 10 years younger than me and I think it's a bit of a generation thing because they all use "sexy" as a term of endearment. They use lots of expressions (like lush, smashed it, rinsed it etc) that would never come out of my mouth at 41!!!

DuckAndPancakes · 20/05/2016 10:20

I always thought lush was a really Bristolian/Somerset thing. Gurt lush innum.

DuckAndPancakes · 20/05/2016 10:21

Though tbh, I'd quite happily call a baby gurt lush but not refer to my friends that have children as my "mummy friends". Think that makes me much more cringey and I'm in my 20s.

shins · 20/05/2016 10:36

Never ever heard that before, horrendous! Confused

Alisvolatpropiis · 20/05/2016 10:46

Lush is commonly used in Wales by people of all ages too

KittensandKnitting · 20/05/2016 11:21

In my part of the world being a lush means you get drunk a lot :) or like the wine a bit too much on occasion.

But also more commonly since Gavin and Stacey I think used in a "that's proper lush innit" sense meaning nice, good or proper mint!

But sexy to describe a child, no no no - wrong on so many levels.

suzu1982 · 20/05/2016 11:30

It turns my stomach when someone calls a child sexy. Lush, gorgeous, handsome ect all good, I call ds gorgeous boy, but sexy is just wrong.
There was a time a friend referred to my ds as sexy and I nearly puked. She was told straight away that I didn't like that, and she looked at me like I was being unreasonable.

StableButDeluded · 20/05/2016 12:36

Yep, people often say 'that's lush!' or 'he/she is lush' in South Wales to mean great/fab/lovely/beautiful/handsome/etc. It's a common colloquialism, but again used more by some than others. I never use 'lush' in this way and I'm South Wales born and bred. It just wasn't an expression my family or anyone I grew up with used.

StableButDeluded · 20/05/2016 12:39

Totally different to saying someone is A lush, which obviously means they like their drink very much!

Euripidesralph · 20/05/2016 12:40

YADNBU ergh it's totally inappropriate I cannot imagine what is wrong with the mind that calls a child sexy in any context

EnjoyTheSimpleThingsInLife · 20/05/2016 14:33

YANBU. I hate it when people say this. I've heard the same woman, in Aldi of all places, calling her grandson sexy a few times. Also "give me a snog". Totally unacceptable.

ThunderboltandLightening · 20/05/2016 16:33

My mum used to tell us not to be saucy when we were answering her back. It means cheeky or being sassy to me.

I remember when DD1 was a baby, my mum said she was having a dirty dream as she was stirring and fidgeting in her sleep. I immediately told my mum it was a creepy thing to say and not to say it again! Why would you even think something so weird let alone say it out loud.

Cagliostro · 20/05/2016 16:42

YANBU. Gorgeous, cute, pretty, handsome etc, fine, but sexy, erm no.

Peridotisinvalid · 20/05/2016 16:43

"Why would you even think something so weird let alone say it out loud."

Exactly. It's really disturbing that anyone thinks in such a sick and perverted way. How did your mum react when you told her what you thought of her disgusting comment?

Asprilla11 · 20/05/2016 16:50

I don't want to lower the tone even more but this thread has just reminded me of something;

24 Hours in Police Custody on C4.

A few episodes ago was about a paedophile, he had been facebook messaging what he thought was a 12 and 13 year old girl (turned out to be people pretending to be young girls in order to trap people and tell the police), anyway he kept saying they were 'Sexy' in all his messages to them, the police asked him why he called them 'Sexy', he said it was he couldn't spell 'Pretty'! Shock

ThunderboltandLightening · 20/05/2016 17:07

Invalid she said it was just an old saying and she didn't mean anything by it. She does have form for speaking before engaging her brain though!

Onlyicanclean10 · 20/05/2016 17:09

Yeuk horrible

shinynewusername · 20/05/2016 17:10

Don't know if it means anything different down south where she lives, but I think of saucy as 'sexy'

'Saucy' means cheeky where I"m from, Becca. Wouldn't suggest anything sexual unless it was paired with 'wench' Wink

KittensandKnitting · 20/05/2016 17:49

Saucy is cheeky - I am from down south

Sexy - something you find sexually attractive and appealing

StableButDeluded · 20/05/2016 18:15

Asprilla I saw that programme too, and yes you're right, the guy being questioned was asked several times if he thought it was appropriate to tell a 12 year old girl she was 'sexy' and he kept trying to pass it off that it just meant she was pretty in a non-sexual way. It was then that they asked him why he didn't just use the world 'pretty' then...clearly the police certainly didn't think it was an okay thing to say about a child.

Clare1971 · 20/05/2016 18:28

Slightly off topic but I blame Jamie Oliver. Couldn't find the recipe for his prune and other stuff breakfast recipe in the index until I realised it was under s - sexy stewed prunes.. Wanker.

StableButDeluded · 20/05/2016 18:30

And as for a baby 'having a dirty dream'....eew, no no no no! Shock

KittensandKnitting · 20/05/2016 19:28

WTF stable

Did I miss a post

Peridotisinvalid · 20/05/2016 19:37

Kittens look at the post @ 16.33.39.

RainbowInACloud · 20/05/2016 19:41

It must have a different meaning to those people that use it though?
I've never heard it used in relation to children before and I agree it's weird but surely the people that say it don't mean it as sexually attractive?! Otherwise they'd be paedophiles. I think it must be one of those words that has become used to mean gorgeous by certain groups.