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To hate it when people refer to dc as 'sexy'

111 replies

Unicorn1981 · 19/05/2016 16:53

Recently I went to a party and a guest posted a picture of their child with the hosts child along with some pictures of other kids including my dd on Facebook so I got tagged. Lots of this woman's family were talking about her boy as 'gorgeous' and 'so sexy'. Obviously this is none of my business what they write but it is not the first time I've seen this. I just think it's really inappropriate to describe a child as sexy. Does this annoy anyone else or AIBU?

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FlowersAndShit · 19/05/2016 20:12

My dad called me sexy when I was 12 and tapped me on the arse. So wrong but he has form for being inappropriate. I think he may be on the spectrum.

SheDoneAlreadyDoneHadHerses · 19/05/2016 20:18

My auntie called her first grandson sexy on facebook.

I've never recoiled, catbummed, and deleted someone as fast.

Utterly revolting.

Helmetbymidnight · 19/05/2016 20:22

What would happen if you asked, 'in what way sexy?', do you think?!

Rarotonga · 19/05/2016 21:53

YANBU. I follow a page about a local little baby (17m) who has recently passed away due to cancer. I have been ShockHmm by many users referring to her 'sexy eyes'. Wrong.

Alconleigh · 19/05/2016 22:20

Is it, snobbery klaxon alert, more prevalent in certain social groups? Because I have never, ever heard anyone do this. And can only imagine the epic tumbleweed which would follow in my social circles if anyone did.

FuckingMother · 19/05/2016 22:42

Is wrong, pathetic and agree with ALIS that is often used by dimwits.

Flowersandshit - describing you as sexy at 12 is no indication of having ASD. Unless you are referring to the trait of making ruthlessly honest and sometimes socially inappropriate comments which some people with ASD may show. In which case he did think you were sexy and that is far more of an issue, don't you think?

I find more and more females seem to use the word in relation to their baby sons. As though it is acceptable. ConfusedHmm

Also the word "saucy" used to have a much more innocent meaning. My granny and her friends used to use it to mean cheeky and inclined to answer back. Perhaps a bit like "sassy". It was a nice word. I don't think anyone uses that meaning now though.

WhitePhantom · 19/05/2016 22:48

Ewwww! That's gross! "Sexy" means "sexually attractive" - HOW can anyone think it's ok to refer to a CHILD as sexually attractive???

ForgetTheHighCourtJudgeTest · 19/05/2016 22:53

Wow! Have never heard this and can't even imagine anyone doing this. How bizarre.

Alisvolatpropiis · 19/05/2016 22:53

Alcon in my experience, yes it is.

ItsMeTheMummy · 19/05/2016 22:57

i once worked in a day nursery and we had a senior member of staff who regularly called the children 'sexy'. If they had a new outfit on, if we were all dancing around the room etc. I didn't like it.

Yanbu, it's inappropriate.

Tiggywinkler · 19/05/2016 23:11

Someone on FB that I know once referred to her 5 year old son as her "li'l sexy bubs."

He's going to be so pleased with that description when he's older.

blimeyalldecentnamesaregone · 19/05/2016 23:14

YANBU at all. I have one friend who does this, she genuinely doesn't realise it is inappropriate nor does she mean it in a yuk way. It just is though.

GirlOverboard · 19/05/2016 23:20

That's just all kinds of wrong. I imagine if a man called his daughter his 'sexy little girl' he'd be reported to social services.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 19/05/2016 23:23

I call my DD Gorgeous girl and my nephew Handsome boy all the time, but sexy. That's almost perverse

billyg0atgruff · 19/05/2016 23:31

Yuck. It makes me cringe when I hear that. I also don't like hearing people say "give me a snog" meaning kiss, to children. Grosses me out and is inappropriate IMO

Only1scoop · 19/05/2016 23:33

It's Grim

peacefuleasyfeeling · 19/05/2016 23:51

DD1 has a very distinctive, husky voice. The HV who did home visits after DD2 was born once commented on DD1's "sexy" voice. She'd just turned 3. Daggers. A month or so later, when we went for a walk-in weigh-in, the same HV (who, in fairness, was lovely in every other way) summoned her colleagues, in a room full of people, to "listen to Peaceful's DD's sexy voice". This was when I realised this is a "thing" that some people think nothing of saying, and that, however cringeworthy, stoopid and plain wrong, it just doesn't mean the same thing to them as it does to me. off to wash mouth out with soap

mammmamia · 20/05/2016 00:27

I am Shock at some of these examples. I've literally never heard anyone say this about a child.

softboiledeggs · 20/05/2016 03:38

Ah here's me thinking it was just my SIL ... Don't know if it's better or worse that it's more common than I realised .. Freaks me out Confused

Beeziekn33ze · 20/05/2016 03:49

Eugh! And if a 3 or 4 year old asks what it means what would these people respond? Oh dear.

madmomma · 20/05/2016 10:10

fucking vile

Only1scoop · 20/05/2016 10:12

'My sexy Lil'man'

I heard this recently.

Vom

bitofaconundrum · 20/05/2016 10:17

Ugh who does that? I have never heard that one, thank God.