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to still be annoyed over something that happened when I was 8?

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CharlieJamie · 15/05/2016 22:15

This is so small! However, I seriously can't stop thinking about it.

I admit, my record for losing money was awful. I'd drop notes/ leave my little purse at the arcades, etc. I was awful, so I don't blame my parents!

We went on holiday to Spain, the only time we ever went away, we weren't the richest of families. I took £100 of my birthday money with me; we stayed in a fancy hotel which had a safe. I remember putting my money in this safe (I found it sooo cool) and never wanted to remove it, so I just never spent it. One day, I saw something I loved in the shop, I said to my mum, I'll make sure to bring my money tomorrow so I can buy it. I looked in the safe and it wasn't there. Gosh, I was shouted at for losing so much and till this day, they all can't believe I "lost the money" I didn't, I'm telling you now, the cleaner took it. No one else could access that safe, but her... Not being mean, but it was!!! No one believed me and no one does! Gosh, I still get annoyed by it

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wasonthelist · 15/05/2016 22:19

Yes, it would be pretty significant to me to have had £100 at age 8 - my life savings then were £5 - so I'd probably still recall it.

Move2WY · 15/05/2016 22:20

Yeah that is annoying. But get over it

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CharlieJamie · 15/05/2016 22:20

I really need to!

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Caravanoflove · 15/05/2016 22:21

Yes that would still annoy me as an adult. It's the injustice of not being believed. I have things that still piss me off 30 odd years later too!

CakeNinja · 15/05/2016 22:21

Haha! Sorry, it's not that funny but I still remember being indignant that my grandparents gave me £150 in cash for my birthday one year, I was about 10.
Left it on the table. My mum had been saying she was getting me a bike for my birthday. The following day, the money had disappeared but a bike was at home when I got back from school. She said she bought it but the money from my grandparents never materialised.
To be fair, we were pretty skint when I was little so she obviously couldn't afford a bike at all, but I'm still petulantly indignant about her passing the bike off as her own present!

0phelia · 15/05/2016 22:22

I still remember not being believed about something important when I was around that age. These things hurt!

Do try to forget about it though. Forgive and forget!

Timeforabiscuit · 15/05/2016 22:23

Yup, I hold a similar rage for my mum borrowing my savings money (£120) to buy my bedroom furniture. Well what kid doesn't want a solid pine wardrobe!

My brother spent his on illicit bubblegum and match attacks cards

Never been much of a saver since...

haveacupoftea · 15/05/2016 22:23

You cant stop thinking about it?

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CharlieJamie · 15/05/2016 22:27

No! Every time I look at my money, I think of it! Every time I go to a hotel/look at my DSs wallets, etc. it's not letting me forget

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AndYourBirdCanSing · 15/05/2016 22:27

I remember not being believed about a huge phone bill as a teenager. It had premium line charges that was definitely not me! Worst thing is it must have been my then stepdad who still blamed me. Bastard.

Feilin · 15/05/2016 22:30

I understand the phone bill thing. My mother made me pay for everyone's use of the phone as the bill was always around £200 . Somehow it was my fault. My dad got pissed off and set up a seperate line for my use and guess what? Yes my bill was only £60 from then on...

fakenamefornow · 15/05/2016 22:33

I believe you op, thieving fucking chamber maid.

UntilTheCowsComeHome · 15/05/2016 22:37

We were poor growing up and remember my mum asking telling me if she could borrow my £35 post office savings to pay a bill.

She promised she'd pay me back but never did.

I bought the subject up a couple of times but got shouted at and told I was "lying, that never happened"

Still annoys me to this day.

CakeNinja · 15/05/2016 22:41

I must say, I don't think about it often, I haven't thought about it in years
I'm not annoyed really, my indignance is really in jest!

Mov1ngOn · 15/05/2016 22:45

I remember my dad itemising the phone bill when I was about 14. I only earn money on a paper round and later a Saturday job. He only gave me half the money for bus fares too. He never bought me clothes. He had a good job but hadn't a clue what to do with children. I'm still sad about that kind of thing now.

BertieBotts · 15/05/2016 22:48

Maybe you should go to therapy

Or, start playing the lottery. At some point you'll win £100 (it's fairly common) and then you can feel like you got the money back and feel vindicated.

You'll have spent more than £100 on it at that point probably but that's not the point!

AdoraBell · 15/05/2016 22:50

Write a letter, Maybe two. One To your parents explaining how you felt at being told off. One to the cleaner explaining how hurt/angry/upset you are at your money going missing.

Do not send either letter to anyone.

You should find it helps.

ThoraGruntwhistle · 15/05/2016 22:50

I was accused of stealing something when I was a child. The person found the item later, but I never got an apology, either for the accusation or for the fact that in the meantime they told a lot of people that I had done it.

allowlsthinkalot · 15/05/2016 22:51

I still feel angry that a girl at school accused me of biting her. I hadn't but my mum and teacher believed her. She eventually admitted she was lying but nobody ever apologised to me.

Chippednailvarnishing · 15/05/2016 22:51

I was saving up for a cabbage patch doll when I was eight, unfortunately mortgage interest rates were 15% and my parents had to use my savings to pay the ever increasing mortgage.

The bastards.

I'm still cross.

SnuffleGruntSnorter · 15/05/2016 22:55

Yes! Someone broke our toilet roll holder off the wall and my parents decided it must have been me using it to climb on. I honestly didn't break it but I got punished for lying about not breaking it I suspect one of their friends drunkenly broke it at a dinner party and balanced it back on the wall to be discovered at a later date.

They still don't believe me.

Fluffyears · 15/05/2016 22:57

I git blamed for a high phonebill once. I got a highlighter and highlighted my usage on the itemised bill-£3 something. Turns out all the premium rate numbers dialled when I was at uni/work was my mum calling the competition line on This Morning. Still never got an apology for being roared at.

Puffinity · 15/05/2016 23:01

When I was about 10 the local pond had frozen over and we all went ice skating. There were a lot of people there, including the older boy from down the road who I was a bit scared of and a teacher from my school. Some of the older boys started throwing snowballs at the teacher from a distance. I threw one for fun too but was no good, so there was no way it could have hit the teacher. Anyway, one of the boys managed to hit the teacher in the face and break his (teacher's) glasses in the process. Everybody said I had done it, but I knew I wasn't good enough to throw a snowball that far. The teacher was looking for someone to blame and it was decided that my parents would claim it on their liability insurance! I was so annoyed/ upset that no one seemed to care that I couldn't physically have been the culprit. Thinking about it years later, of course the teacher would try to blame (and claim from) the child who was a) at his school and b) there with parents, but still!

Puffinity · 15/05/2016 23:03

This was over 20 years ago and I'm still indignant about it!

grumpysquash3 · 15/05/2016 23:13

Do you think your parents might have spent it rather than the cleaner stealing it? I doubt the cleaner would be able to get into the safe. Normally you set your own number when you put your things in.

Was your purse there but empty, or had the whole thing disappeared?

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