to still be annoyed over something that happened when I was 8?

[CharlieJamie]

This is so small! However, I seriously can't stop thinking about it.

I admit, my record for losing money was awful. I'd drop notes/ leave my little purse at the arcades, etc. I was awful, so I don't blame my parents!

We went on holiday to Spain, the only time we ever went away, we weren't the richest of families. I took £100 of my birthday money with me; we stayed in a fancy hotel which had a safe. I remember putting my money in this safe (I found it sooo cool) and never wanted to remove it, so I just never spent it. One day, I saw something I loved in the shop, I said to my mum, I'll make sure to bring my money tomorrow so I can buy it. I looked in the safe and it wasn't there. Gosh, I was shouted at for losing so much and till this day, they all can't believe I "lost the money" I didn't, I'm telling you now, the cleaner took it. No one else could access that safe, but her... Not being mean, but it was!!! No one believed me and no one does! Gosh, I still get annoyed by it

The whole purse was gone... I doubt my parents stole my money...

I'm annoyed on your behalf, op. Nothing worse than not being believed - that indignation lives on for a long time!

Maybe this is first incidence of a wider pattern? Perhaps you're reminded of it / can't let it go because things like that still happen. Perhaps on a less conscious level you feel that things that are due to you get overlooked, that people dismiss your concerns, that no one hears you, that people take from you unfairly? Generally the things we cannot let go of are sticking around with us for a reason. It might even be useful and cathartic to go tell a therapist about it if it really is on your mind this much. Not in a negative way, I think therapists/therapy is a wonderful thing, but if you don't share that view my apologies & no offence intended etc!

Oh, I too thought your parents had taken it!
Who else can break into a safe? Pointless if staff can get into it surely?

I found out my mum cheated on my dad and wrote about it on my diary when I was about 11. My mum read my diary, pretended she had accidentally read it when she was tidying my room, and made up a really transparent story in which I had misunderstood everything, which I most definitely had not, especially as this was the second time I had found evidence.

Must have been a difficult situation for her, I guess.

Since we're sharing, I mean. Sorry to sound of about my own bad memories! YANBU to still be annoyed about this.

If your parents didn't take it (I do believe you btw), why were they so shouty about you 'losing' it? You put it there with their stuff, they must have seen your purse. They must have closed the safe, with your purse in there.
I would feel cross about the lack of support.

I do think you have to let it go, or it will become a bigger thing, but it is hugely frustrating on many levels :(

When I was 12, I was given my mom's star sapphire ring, which was a tradition in my family. One morning, I put it on my bedside table because I was going to help in the yard - I forgot to put it back on, so it stayed there for a week or so. We had a cleaner who came every two weeks, and after she came that week, the ring was gone and the cleaner resigned with no warning.

I got blamed and to this day, it is brought up by my mom and grandmother. Nobody would believe me that I never moved it and it must've been taken! I'm still bitter.

When I was 12, my nan gave me an engagement ring which was a family heirloom. (I think it was her grandma's or something). My mum promptly took it off me because I was not to be trusted. I was never allowed to wear it. Apparently it was hers by rights(my mums). Mum never wore it.

I believe you!

I remember at school a teacher accusing me of throwing a scrunched up ball of paper at him, it wasn't me and I said so but he demanded I picked it up and that he had SEEN me throw it!! I was outraged I said "Well you need glass then you bastard" and stormed out! I was so worried about getting into trouble but apparently all he said was "is that child emotionally unstable"? after I left and said no more about it. It still makes me angry to think about it though because he said he'd seen me when obviously he didn't grrr!

I would be annoyed with your parents. You were only eight so they were responsible for noticing whether or not the money was in the safe. If the money went missing they should have reported it to the police as if the maid was a thief, no doubt there would have been other incidences. The fact that they didn't report it and tried to make it seem as if it was your fault makes me think they took the money. Sorry!