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Why are police so useless and dont try prevent things

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Kitty3E · 15/05/2016 03:55

I'm having an issue with upstairs, im on my phone typing this so excuse mistakes.
Phoned police after last straw of upstairs who kicked my door three times as he left to go out.
He purposely stamps on the floor, walks arlund in boots 24/7 on laminate and makes noise whilst he knows im in a particular room. I understand perfectly these things arent a police matter

I called police for him kicking my door three times earlier and just as he came in at 2am

I called police at around 7pm, they just turned up at 3.40am woke me up to say they dont think its harassment
I said my partner who doesnt live with me is loosing his cool and they said to ask my partner to have a word with him Hmm
I said my partner will prob beat him up due to it beig clear he is a coward who is only picking on me cause im a young lone female with a baby.
They said its the cluncil duty of care but said they will notify intelligence due to him smoking weed n dealing

I honestly feel like its going to kick off very soon
Im trying to prevent this but it is very hard this man is trying to upset me and nobody will help me

What should i do

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JapaneseSlipper · 16/05/2016 13:04

"The point is certain males feel brave when it comes to a female."

Then your problem is with your neighbour, not the police

limitedperiodonly · 16/05/2016 13:06

And I've also had awful harassing neighbours but without proof nothing anyone can do.

But the police can do something if they want to baconyum. I had no proof that my neighbours were harassing me. The police listened to me and decided that I was probably telling the truth. They asked me to not to react to my neighbours and to call 999 or the non emergency number and let them deal with it.

Then they went to the neighbours and asked them their side of the story and mentioned the things I said they'd done. My neighbours denied it and accused the police of taking my side. The police said they weren't taking sides and advised us both to try to stay away from each other. That included refraining from going on to each other's property without permission and causing intimidation and damage. They said that if that happened and they knew about it - they mentioned that I now had CCTV - they would take action.

That method of harassment stopped. It's simple.

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Kitty3E · 16/05/2016 13:20

He scratched my car. Conversation done.

But i take bk wgat i said bout police had a very nice one rouns who was concerned

On my phone

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limitedperiodonly · 16/05/2016 13:20

I asked if the OP had seen her neighbour scratch her car because she stated that she knew it was him.

It could be strangers, it could also be the person she's feuding with portia

I was pretty sure who wrenched the door off the shed when I was at work and wrecked the things inside and threw weed killer over the garden. The police had their suspicions too. We couldn't prove anything but when they told my neighbours and no one else that I had hidden cameras, magically the damage stopped. It could have been wicked fairies. I don't care. All I wanted was for it to stop and it did.

Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 16/05/2016 13:21

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PortiaCastis · 16/05/2016 13:23

Well that's why I asked limited but the OP has not responded.

AndTakeYourPenguinWithYou · 16/05/2016 13:25

You think he scratched your car. Maybe someone else did?

limitedperiodonly · 16/05/2016 13:25

It's a possibility though, wouldn't you say Myinlaws? Why's it so important to you? It's not like he's going to be carted away in the night and banged up on OP's say-so, is it?

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Kitty3E · 16/05/2016 13:28

I saw him near my car this morninf as did neighbour across the road
Very nice police man went n knocked to others n woman across the road said sge saw him near as she was emptying bins

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PortiaCastis · 16/05/2016 13:32

That's good OP

AndTakeYourPenguinWithYou · 16/05/2016 14:20

It won't matter if anyone saw him near your car, unless they saw him scracth it.

MardleBum · 16/05/2016 14:47

The only think they can do is suggest you set up CCTV for future filming bother, or in the hope that it will act as a deterrent. They can't and won't take any action over a scratched car without witnesses.. Hundreds of things like this happen between warring neighbours every day and there's nothing they can do without concrete evidence.

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Kitty3E · 16/05/2016 15:44

I am gonna set a camera. I brought one ages ago because i had a feeling something would happen but stupidly did not set it up. They said they will talk to him which at least something

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Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 16/05/2016 15:59

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LikeDylanInTheMovies · 16/05/2016 19:43

It was him um telling u it was

I could tell you the moon was made of blue cheese or I shot JKF, but without evidence, it means nothing.

Looking at the picture, that scratch looks small (slightly shorter than the length of the door handle) and not that deep. It looks more like accidental rather than malicious damage. When anyone I've known has had their car keyed, it has been far deeper and longer (usually a door width) than that and takes it right down to the bare metal where that looks to have scratched the top coat.

I've driven my car around for weeks with surface scratches like that and not noticed them. It may well be a case of you putting two and two together and making 500.

WeAreTheOthers · 16/05/2016 20:18

And how, precisely, do you know it was him? Personally I'd be less concerned about the police and more worried about the fact that your boyfriend is likely to beat this guy up, not a man I'd want anywhere near me or my child.
Like others have said this sounds very familiar and you sound like the eternal victim, your posts here show that even if this is your only thread.

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Kitty3E · 16/05/2016 20:21

Like no it is malicious. It goes all the way across the panel no way an accident. It was him and you wont change my mind. I live here i know him and i know how he has behaved in the past.
As i said i will get evidence he has also written die in another language on my door which i saw about hour ago.
And b4 u try say it wasnt him only me n him have a key to the communal area where my flat door is. It is also in his native language

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Kitty3E · 16/05/2016 20:23

Weare nice victim blaming. Sure your 'boyfriend' who is a 'man' is proud of you.

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Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 16/05/2016 20:30

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 16/05/2016 20:33

Sure your 'boyfriend' who is a 'man' is proud of you.

The fuck are you on about?!

PaulAnkaTheDog · 16/05/2016 20:35

And b4 u try say it wasnt him only me n him have a key to the communal area where my flat door is. It is also in his native language

Well there's your proof of harassment. Call the police, problem solved.

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Kitty3E · 16/05/2016 20:36

Was i talking to you paul? Nope so mind your business and go moll somewhere else.

Getting off this thread now the victim blaming here is just embarrassing and shamful.
Thanks to users who have common sense and arent nasty molls.

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Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 16/05/2016 20:37

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Baconyum · 16/05/2016 20:37

How on earth is voicing concern for the fact you've stated your boyfriend thinks violence is a solution victim blaming?

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