To remember NNs of MNers posting unpleasant things most clearly?

[Just5minswithDacre]

Is it a recognised psychological phenomenon? Do we remember bad things better?

I've just realised I still remember which MNer said women should pick partners more carefully to avoid DV (years ago), the types who always sneer at tenants, or seem to have it in for the disabled.

But when I think of compassionate MNers that I like and clearly have a range of life experience informing their empathy, I mainly remember biographical details and great posts but not NNs so much. (DawnDonnaAgain, HelenaDove and maybe two others that I'm not even completely sure of pop into my head as exceptions.)

Is there something wrong with the way my memory works?

[bumbleymummy]

Ovary, I agree that people should speak up more when they see that happening - even if they don't agree with the poster themselves. It's perfectly ok to have a different opinion to someone but there are ways to say that you disagree without personally attacking them or ganging up. It's all very well to say that those types of posts should be reported but if the opinion being expressed is unpopular then many people will just stand back and let the horrible posts continue while reporting every post of the person that they disagree with.

I think saying 'it's just words on a screen' is minimising cyber bullying. I doubt very much that they would say that if the words on the screen were targeting their son/daughter.

[WorraLiberty]

All you need to do is remove the first paragraph really.

Or remove all of the OP, except the first line?

[Just5minswithDacre]

So I guess,, YABU as it may well be damaging you more, but it is part of the human condition to remember those taht have hurt us.

Funnily enough, I forget stuff that's aimed at me personally, or that applies to me. Maybe because a straightforward squabble is all fair and reasonable.

It's more impersonal things like snobbery, bigotry and kicking posters when they're down that stick.

I think I have my explanation now, though. A lot of posters on this thread are making a lot of sense. It's evolutionary innit?

[ovaryhill]

This thread will be deleted
What a surprise

[lovelyandnormal]

That's a good suggestion from ThumbWitch I think.

[AyeAmarok]

I really think this thread should go as people just can't seem to help posting about how certain other posters are dicks and dropping clues as to whom that poster is.

It's not nice.

[Just5minswithDacre]

Iona - I'm completely happy to have the OP edited to remove specifics. It was a slightly hungover post TBH.

[bibbitybobbityyhat]

I rather liked the old who is your favourite poster threads. Never seem to see them any more.

[bumbleymummy]

Bibbity - are you joking? I think they're horrible.

[Just5minswithDacre]

There are so many quiet but wise women on MN, though bibbity. Name checking only ever highlights prolific posters who don't NC.

[BIWI]

I think I remember nasty posters more because in the main people here aren't nasty. But the ones who are really do get on my shitlist

[IonaMumsnet]

Hi Just5. OK - that sounds like a good compromise. We'll give the OP a bit of a tickle and remove the first par. Thanks! As you were, everyone.

[ovaryhill]

I see them more as "who's arse would you like to lick" threads bibbity

[bibbitybobbityyhat]

I am honestly not joking bumbley. I don't have a problem with anyone saying "I really like poster x". It's much nicer than hinting darkly that you don't like poster y.

[Just5minswithDacre]

Thanks Iona

[Clare1971]

What's TAAT please? Just googled it and I don't think 'Theatre as Architecture - Architecture as Theatre' is what you're referring to.

[lovelyandnormal]

Thread about a thread.

[AyeAmarok]

It's much nicer than hinting darkly that you don't like poster y.

Which is what this thread is doing in places, so it should go!

[Just5minswithDacre]

Thread about a thread Clare. MN speak

[bibbitybobbityyhat]

It stands for thread about a thread Claire. Generally frowned on on MN.

[lovelyandnormal]

Report the posts you feel are doing that.

My pet peeve is posters accusing other posters of being goady, when they are not!

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

What Ayeamarok said

[Stratter5]

Why are they horrible, it's just reminiscing.

WRT thinking a popular poster is a cunt, depends who the poster is. Some are cunts, I can think of a few who have gone now, but definitely fitted the 'popular yet cunt' definition, others I think maybe the offended need to take a good look in the mirror, as their posts are generally spot on.

I have a spreadshit, my memory is crap and needs a bit of extra help.

[bumbleymummy]

I guess if you see them like that. I tend to agree with ovary though. They come across as a bit arselicky to me and I think Just5 is right - A lot of the quieter, less prolific posters are often overlooked.

[ThenLaterWhenItGotDark]

There shouldn't be a problem with saying 'I really like X' but there always always is.
I've got a list though, and the first person on any of the 'favourite MNer' threads who says 'I love that " like they think it's the first time anyone in the history of MN has ever said it, goes on it for being terminally unfunny.