My lovely DM (64) was left by her husband for another (younger) woman 3 years ago - not my DF, he left when I was tiny. She has taken a real knock to her self-confidence and it has taken real work to get over the 'why does everyone leave me' thing. Recently she signed up to an internet dating site, with one of her friends, I think they signed up after a few glasses of wine.
Anyway. She went on a first date with a man who seemed lovely: they had chatted on the phone, he seemed interesting, cultured everything. On the date, all seemed to be going well until he said to her "Ah, I want you to know, I have never been in a relationship with someone who isn't slim. And I guess that with your shape, even on a diet, you'd struggle to lose weight. You are really big boned, I can see that". He then rang later that evening to say that it wasn't going to work out, because he couldn't find someone her shape attractive and that she 'lacked energy'.
Info: my Mum is a size 18, far from obese and dresses really well for her shape. She is full of energy and does sport, classes, travels etc. She looks great! Anyway, since this date she has been in floods of tears and she confessed to me this morning that she didn't get out of bed at all day yesterday because there was no point and no one was ever going to find her attractive again.
I HATE him. I want to Google him and call him up and say "you IDIOT. Have some MANNERS. Don't tell a woman that she is fat! Find some other reason to refuse a second date if you think she is hideous". And PS Didn't you see her profile photo (which is a full length shot of her).
WTF is wrong with people?
AIBU?
AIBU?
To want Google this man, TEAR his ears off and make him eat them?
BoccadiLupa · 11/05/2016 16:15
Please do what Ouriana says, and then write about it on here (with his pic) so it ends up in Daily Fail.
I hate myself for agreeing with this 
How did you respond to that Mooey? I would have Lost My Shit at him.
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You're not a biased daughter at all. The man's a twat, plain and simple 
If your Mum eventually gets herself back 'out there' so to speak, have a look at her profile photo and make sure it's up to date and a true representation of what she looks like.
I'm not for one minute suggesting that it's not btw, but I have read a lot of Mumsnetters saying they've been on dates with men who don't look like their photos.
Not that it would give him the right to be a wanker in any way.
I'll offer my services as another to help you hold him down. What an utter tool.
I can only begin to think that he is so pathetic as a man that he needs to get his kicks from making other people feels like shit - I think we've all known a few.
all to your DM. I'm sure she's friggin' fabulous!
Oh, how horrible! Everyone is right - this is totally his twisted shit and is nothing to do with your poor mum. Now you have got your understandable anger off your chest, try and forget that mysogynistic twat and focus on building up your mum's self-esteem again.
Sounds like she is feeling very vulnerable, and a really good book on that, as part of the human condition, is Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. Includes stuff on believing you are worthy of love.
I hope she feels better about things soon.
are you showing your Mum? yay sorry for my swearing Mammy bocca 
Or you could always post his number/email on a for sale or swap claiming he's selling 2 Beyonce tickets for an amazing price 
What a vile human being!
If only your mum had had the presence of mind at the time to tell him it was such a relief to hear since she'd been struggling with how to tell him she could not commit to a second date with a man who is ill-mannered, ignorant, narrow-minded and has such appalling breath!
Or rubs hands together... Do you have a size 10 uber gorgeous niece who you could bribe with cash convince to contact him to express an interest in a date with him... She could pile it on about how she loves an older distinguished-looking man...then, when she turns up to meet him she could very publicly rebuff him with 'Ugh, You're (insert name here). You look older than my dad in real life!' and run out dramatically?
Your mum sound beautiful! Tell her that she at least didn't waste time on the loser! She's worth ten thousand of him! Onward and upwards!
You should go and do something nice together to cheer her up if you can...eg a lovely manicure or something.
Pity him...wondering why he's still single after all this time...
Big hugs to your mum. She sounds fab
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Depending on whether he's skinny or overweight, she could throw in that beer guts and triple chins/ craggy necks and wrinkles are such a turn-off for her!
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