AIBU to think this child's t-shirt is inappropriate

[westcountrywoman]

Saw this in Sainsbury's tonight . It's age 3. Seriously? Is a 'selfie queen' a desirable label for a toddler?

WTF is wrong with a Peppa Pig t-shirt for this age group?

Was there a "Selfie King/Boy/Lad" version? I bet not.

The problem with pink is that it has become a signpost to all things 'girl'. By implication it means that all toys/clothes are not for everybody. The pink ones are for the girls and the blue/primary coloured ones are for the boys. It engenders a lack of equality from an early age - and that's before you look at the fact that the pink toys are, in the vast majority of cases, all about how a girl looks and the blue toys are all about what a boy does.

Reminds me of a tshirt i saw in primark when DD1 was small

'Future footballers wife'

VestalVirgin
Because it correlates with a trend, but it doesn't, in and of itself, mean anything.
If we didn't live in a sexist, patriarchal society, it would be 'just a tshirt'.
Correlation is not causation and all that jazz

Oh well Thumb I'll just soldier on with trial and error!

I think it would be more realistic if they sold an adult version that said...

"Constantly uploading photos of my children and splashing them all over Facebook Queen. No wonder kids today are so obsessed with taking selfies".

Might cost a bit for the lettering mind

its a cheap T shirt for people with poor taste

and such is life!

food and clothes are very similar, the more money you have the better you get

As I practically live in Sainsbury's, I know they have 3 age ranges for kids, 0-2, 1-5 and 3-12. I'm guessing this was in the 3-12 range. If you want Peppa Pig, buy from the 1-5 range. 

Good point, but equally why are they making the same designs in sizes for 3 year olds and 12 year olds (I think Next do the same to an extent with their 'older girls' range).
Do people really want 3 year olds and 12 year olds wearing the same clothes, particularly when they're more geared to the 12 year old than the 3 year old end of the scale? I find it very sad but accept that I'm unusual in wanting my children to dress like children.

But what does 'dressing like children' even mean? To be honest, those slogan t shirts are VERY childish to me.
If I just saw the design, and you asked me if it were for a kids or adults Tshirt, I would 100 percent guess kids, and in guessing most people would?

I understand that people may not like it, but I really dislike the implication of 'your 4 yo DD is wearing a leather jacket, I like children to be dressed like children'
It seems rather... Sinister, what you're projecting onto that child...
I know I'm not explaining very well, I hope you know what I mean

Dressing like children to me means cute clothing rather than something you'd see on an adult/something trendy.

I don't like a lot of boys clothes because they're tops with slogans and jeans, which looks like adults outfits. I dress mine in proper kids clothing.

I was going to say the same WeDo well sort off :)

Just as adults choose to all dress differently and in different styles, so do children (or as adults dressing their children) there is no right way (despite what many on MN think), just the way that you or your child prefers.

As long as a child is clean, dressed suitably for the weather conditions/activity they are doing and is happy then everything else is just opinion or snobbery or whatever.

Some people like organic cotton gender neutral clothing, others like bling or sportswear or logos or whatever, no-one is wrong, just different.

I've had boys so the glittery frippery hasn't really impacted tough DS1 did have a start wars t-shirt that was done in some sparkly stones which he loved. I don't however like children dressed in sportswear/football shirts as leisure wear. However, it looks comfy and practical so if others like it then that's their choice. My child isn't going to catch anything by playing with them.

I'm not saying it isn't natural to make judgements about people but life's a bit too short to be sneery about a perfectly normal t-shirt that you happen not to like.

I dress mine in proper kids clothing. Like what?

One babygrows, rompers, knitted cardigans and long socks. Think Royal Children style.

I didn't mean that there's anything wrong with other clothes, I was just explaining what "dressing like kids" is to me.

To me that's uptight kids clothes that they aren't allowed to get dirty.

Like little girls wearing big frou frou style dresses everyday even to soft play for no other reason than just because they can.

To me kids clothes are clothes they are happy and comfy in and you are prepared to let them get dirty

Why would they not be allowed to get dirty? They're some of the comfiest clothes around. I think jeans are the most uncomfortable trousers for babies.

Well not really, as you've described it as "proper" children's clothing which implies that other clothing children wear is not proper.

Clearly whatever babies and young children wear has generally been chosen or influenced by their parents. Or is simply hand downs that the parents wouldn't have necessarily chosen but dress their kids in because they were free and are perfectly fine even if they aren't their taste.

Older children (and some younger ones) usually have their own minds.

I didn't say they wouldn't be able to get them dirty but it just sounds like it.

A lot of people who dress their kids up to the nines are very don't get those shorts dirty! They cost £££

It's not royal clothing so much as the type of clothing myself and my siblings wore in the 1950's and 60's. And we were brought up in poverty in a council flat and my mum made all our clothes - It's quite funny looking back at our childhood pictures and seeing us looking like George and Charlotte dress now. DHs family are the same. In one photo of his brother you'd swear it was Prince Charles.

basically you have made a style choice that you like. It's no different to someone else liking to dress their child like Kanye West or one of the Kardashians or Bear Grylls or Simon Cowell or Dame Kelly Holmes.

What I mean is that it doesn't make you a better person, you may be a better person, but not because of what you choose to dress your children in.

What I mean is that it doesn't make you a better person, you may be a better person, but not because of what you choose to dress your children in.

I don't think it does It's just traditional kids clothing. I don't mean "proper" as in it's improper (impolite) to dress them otherwise, just that it's what I associate with kids.

Need Most of my DSs clothes are really cheap! Handmade cardigans, pack of 3 romper suits for £12 from H&M, Tesco vests, a couple rompers from Debenhams that were a bit more expensive at £16.

It's only tacky if you're stupid enough to buy it.
SIL buys this sort of crap for my kids... Straight to charity shop.

I'll be seeing this on the sale rail soon.

Sainsburys used to do lovely kids clothes, it's gone really down hill, especially from 4+ such a shame.

I agree that it's naff but it's no more offensive than a lot of other slogan shirts for little girls i.e diva, drama queen etc I don't understand the obsession with selfies in general but I'm not surprised it's spread to kids, I've seen an advert for bratz dolls on TV which is called selfie something and they come with accessories to take selfies.

Not inappropriate - I don't associate selfies with anything 'sexy'. To me it means a photo on a phone you took of yourself. I've posted make-up-free up a hill hiking selfies, for example.

It's cheesy and naff though.

Yeah I agree a pretty naff t-shirt with no real meaning behind it, but my dd1 has a few of these (11) saying things like california etc but she's pretty well rounded and her pop culture is only one side to her so I let it go... I am certainly starting to notice a divide between her and the kids who were always dressed up in the latest trends from being little tots and they can appear very vacuous! 😕
I'm a bit passed buying for mine now but I wouldn't choose it for a 3 yr old, but if they asked for it while we were out topping up there wardrobes, I'd have probably said yes! 😉

I personally wouldn't buy it, wouldn't say inappropriate though.