to think that a potty in a trolley is a step too far?

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Saw a woman with her two small girls going into the supermarket. She casually told the smallest to pop her potty in the trolley.

I felt sick. I try not to package vegetables etc, but rather put them unwrapped straight into the trolley in a bit to do my tiny bit for the planet. But never again. The idea of residual faeces in the trolley (having landed there when a potty was left there...) ending up on my food repulsed me.

AIBU or is that utterly revolting and unacceptable? Food goes in supermarket trollies, not receptacles for human waste...?

Potty in a trolley

How vile

Yet to witness this personally.

I managed to potty train three children without putting a potty into a supermarket trolley. And life still went on, without hiding in the house.

Of course YANBU, it's totally gross, but there are many people on AIBU who would argue black is white just for the sake of it.

Goodness, times must have changed (and not for the better imo). I potty trained two and always used loos available, would never of dreamt of taking a potty with me, old glimmer. YANBU.

I am surprised at how many people think that it's actually OK to have a potty in a full view in your trolley. I don't want to look at used potties while I shop for food. This is just bad manners.

Agree with lealeander- if a child can't hold on long enough to get to the toilet theyre not ready to be out without nappies.

Mine never used a potty, i never took one out with me, and they didnt have accidents. I had them go toilet before we left, and again when we got where we were going, and just made sure i knew where the loos were in those first few weeks. I didn't potty train until i knew they could hold it though.

There was a woman at a toddler dance class potty training. She would follow the kid around with the potty, constantly asking. Then the kid would piss on the floor anyway. There was a toilet attached the the hall the class was held in too, less than a minute away.

Micah

I'm the same I don't think I ever actually took a potty anywhere.

"Having a child do what's urgent is better in a potty than running down the legs onto the floor."

How about just using pull ups, like the rest of us?

Yeah yeah rats piss in trolleys dirty hands blah de blah but putting a toddler toilet in a trolley is grim yanbu

Legoisforlosberts - pull-ups are the ultimate mumsnet sin, far worse then having wee everywhere.

Yuck! Horrible to take a potty into a supemarket anyway.

Yup - have seen potty in trolley in supermarket twice. Have also witnessed a woman let her kid use a potty in my local library. There are no public toilets there but the librarian will always open the loo for you if you ask. I thought that maybe the woman didn't know that but nope - she asked for the key to the loo so she could empty the potty...

I have never in my life encountered a potty outside someone's house.

People bring potties out?

When dd was toilet training I just brought her to the nearest toilet. Bringing a potty around is grim.

Although I see by the OP there was no toilet in the Supermarket.

Don't you wash the fruit and veg before cooking/eating them?

I do. And never put any stuff into the trolley that I will eat directly without wrapping it. But I would never put a potty into a shopping trolley. It's disgusting. There are limits to child-led whatever training it should be. World doesn't revolve around precious little darlings and their potty training. If the child is still only learning to use potty, use a nappy when outside where you know you'd be having a problem finding a loo quickly.

I toilet trained mine, over 15 years ago, when there were public toilets and it was still usual to see children weeing in the gutter (and sometimes pooing).

It's only just got out of fashion for boys to wee, wherever they are, thankfully we now fine men for doing it.

I don't agree with children 'going' in public, if there's alternatives.

However, OP, if your all about 'doing your bit for the planet', surely the men that you know are pudding on your compost heap and your growing your own, with a nice layer of horse/cow/whatever shit, anyway?

I managed to toilet train a kid with SN without taking a potty to the supermarket. If your child cannot hold their wee, they're not ready for potty training

Surely the point is that if the potty is in the trolley, there is every expectation that the child is going to use it. In the supermarket. That's grim.

Does anyone else remember the thread that bloke started to try and drum up support in his complaint to John Lewis about his wife being remonstrated for whipping out a potty for their child to take a shit in the middle of the curtain department? That was brilliant

I last toilet trained 15 years ago still didnt take a potty into tesco

If it was unused and mum had disinfected it prior to coming (I do after use!) then it may not be any worse than what's already on the trolley.

Yanbu when I potty trained my dd the potty was always in a plastic bag im not sure why she didn't put it in a plastic bag and just hook it on the trolley instead

I don;t see an issue with a clean potty being put in a trolley. Its not like the kid took a shit in it whilst being wheeled round is it?

Its still a toilet in a trolley children dont shit roses

YANBU. It's inappropriate to put a potty in a trolley that is used for food shopping. I don't care how much its been disinfected or how many rats have peed in the trolley, it's just not nice. If you wouldn't put a potty on your dining table next to food, don't put it in a trolley.

Proper toilet training is "I need to find a toilet" not "I'm going to pee myself in the next 30 seconds unless you magic a potty out of your handbag NOW"

But I will says thumbs down to any supermarket that doesn't have toilets. That's just wrong.

But the question surely is why is the potty there? If she wasn't expecting to use it, why bring it?

You are possibly BU because you don't know the circumstances. My DD went through a phase of about 2 weeks during potty training where she was too scared to sit on a toilet seat with me holding her and asked to take her potty everywhere. It was always washed and Dettol-ed. Admittedly I always kept it in a bag and never took it to the supermarket, but I took it to bathrooms in cafes/shops a couple of times. Is that weird? Everyone says never to go back to nappies once you've started toilet training so I didn't, except for car journeys. Though like I say this phase only lasted a couple of weeks.

But, yes she could have and should have put it in a bag discreetly, not put it in the trolley.

YANBU. I don't think that the fact that vegetables grow with the aid of manure, or animals piss on shopping trolleys, cancels out the inappropriateness of a child pissing or shitting in a food shop.