to think that a potty in a trolley is a step too far?

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Saw a woman with her two small girls going into the supermarket. She casually told the smallest to pop her potty in the trolley.

I felt sick. I try not to package vegetables etc, but rather put them unwrapped straight into the trolley in a bit to do my tiny bit for the planet. But never again. The idea of residual faeces in the trolley (having landed there when a potty was left there...) ending up on my food repulsed me.

AIBU or is that utterly revolting and unacceptable? Food goes in supermarket trollies, not receptacles for human waste...?

Yanbu
Its gross
The potty should at least have been in its own bag. And idally left in the car!

John, if you only get 20 seconds' notice between 'I need a wee' and actual wee, then I think that's called 'not at all toilet-trained'. AKA 'needs to wear a nappy out of the house.

The solution is not for you to carry on as normal while your children wee and poo in a potty in a supermarket.

Very judgemental Koala and not at all true. Children are notoriously bad for telling you they need the loo until they are bursting. My 5 year old, who was potty trained at 2, is now almost 6 and he can be dancing around the living room and will still deny that he needs to pee and usually goes at the very last minute. He has not had any wet accidents for about 3 and a half years. Kids don't work on the normal boundaries of what is sensible, hence why they don't want to sleep when they are tired etc. I don't think anyone has the right to criticise how other people choose to potty train. There is no suggestion the potty was being used or had been used, it was just there.

Well sorry, but I reserve the right to be 'judgemental' when people are putting a toilet in a trolley used by the public.

Obviously, the vast majority of parents manage not to. I can't imagine it's because all their children toilet-trained with magical ease.

Most people are just more considerate of others. Luckily.

I agree with you koala

I agree with koala too.

You don't know anything about it other than there was a potty sitting inside the trolley, no one does. No one even knows why it was there, people suggesting that she might used it whilst in the trolley etc when actually we are all making it up as we go along.

I've had 4 kids..never took potty anywhere.if u get 30 second notice and they wee ,thatsCLEARLY not ready to wee out of nappies.....we went from nappies to toilet. No pottys needed....but then I wasn't expecting a 2 yr old to be nappy free.mine were much older.as I waited till they were ready.ive always thought pottys are ridiculous things and never bought one.....I was in a cafe come book shop on holiday this year and a woman had her large for age 3/4 yr old sat on one while we ate at the next table....we had plenty of lovely views of her peachy bum.....while we ate as well....potty uses in public equals a pedos Christmas come early...

This made me think of a lovely time .....not....I was with my child in a soft play area......he came down the slide with a funny look ON his face.... I called him over and he had poo on his shorts on the back.....you can see where this is going....I knew straight away it wasn't his poo....so my friend and I spend 5 minutes looking for the culprit...a little girl who was soked with wee and a huge bulge in her pants leaking down her legs.....and 5 minutes of us asking everyone ...is the little girl in stripy shorts yours????. The whole playarea was evacuated.poo everywhere. Poor staff ...kids had it on their clothes...the mum? Well she said oh she's potty training..that's it .nothing else...the mum had sat next to us on the next table and not moved once in an hour to check if her daughter need the loo.to busy gassing....total nightmare

Oh that's gross. soft play o's not the time fir experiments with queues fir the loo and too much distraction.

that's what pull ups are fir ffs. just bloody use the damn things

I wonder if the "won't use pull ups" brigade would feel the same if their friends kid shit all over their new car.

an accident due to being caught in traffic or suddenly being caught ill is different of course.

but I'm. Sure you'd all be pissed off if your friend just went "oh I'm potty training can't use pull ups"

That is revolting Petal

It's a miracle those of us who didn't take potties to the shops with us managed to toilet train our children really

I was thinking the same thing agent

And surely giles the child would be in a car seat, so the only place poo would be is in the pants and potentially car seat? All over the car is a small exaggeration, surely? In early days of being potty trained we lined the car seat with a tea towel just in case. Accidents happen, even with potty trained children.

"accidents happen" is not the same thing as knowingly being so disrespectful to other people amd their belongings by thinking your right to not use a pull up trumps someone else's to not have to have a car stinking of wee or poo and having to clear up their car.

And if it falls out the trouser legs when the kid gets out the car seat there's potential for a fair bit of mess .

Potentially yes but again all of this is a long stretch from a potty in a trolley that we have no idea why it was there! It could have been new. It could as was in my case be because whilst my dd was toilet trained she was frightened of using the big toilet, so we took the potty and used it in the toilets to get her used to it. No greater risk of an accident and no need for pull ups as she could hold it.

But there were NO toilets so it wasn't fir that reason!!

It's a piece of plastic sitting in a trolley. I struggle to be outraged.

My little man has a portable potty with lid. He's pretty good at holding on when out n about as always goes before we go out, BUT we take this potty everywhere. Yes, even foodshopping. He's scared of falling down the loo (totally normal for kids his age), so I take the potty and we let him sit on it in the toilets where they are available. You have no idea what this mum was about. So, to me at least, YABU. Sorry.

Totally agree muskateer lots of assumptions being made for something that none of us know what was happening. Hope said person is not on mumsnet to see how everyone is judging. I never carried a potty in to a shop but again no one knows why, might have been new, might just be a comfort thing, I'm really surprised at the amount of people who are assuming the parents were ready to let their child poo in a shopping trolley.

Then why would you take it into a supermarket, that had no toilets, when your chikd is reliable enough to make it back to the car or to toilets elsewhere.

the only reason to carry a pity is because your child can't

of course the natural assumption would be that there's a good chance she was planning to use it in the shop. given chikd was unreliable enough that a potty fir a supermarket trip was deemed necessary.

Agent- it hadn't been bought in the shop. The OP saw her carrying it in. Why on earth bring it and keep it in the trolley if there was no intent?

Well of course we're making assumptions. Why wouldn't we? The world runs on logical assumptions.

If I see someone bring a small child and a potty into a shop, I'm going to assume that they're planning on using the potty.

Again- potties are toilets. A couple of posters have mentioned that the potty might be 'a comfort thing' for the child. Fking seriously?! Tell your child it's not an option to bring the potty into a shop; that's not what we do with potties. Because we don't carry things we poo in around in public.

(And if you must - carry them in an opaque bag!)

giles and miss I made no suggestion it had been bought in the shop. It might be your natural assumption but it's not everyone's, it's not mine. Fact is you don't know why. None of us do. For instance, some children become very attached to their potties, a comfort thing as as I suggested before, I'm not saying that is the reason either, I'm just saying there could be any number of reasons the potty was there and a lot of people are jumping to completely ill formed opinions.

I don't see what other possible conclusion you can jump to if someone has bought a potty with them and put it in the trolley. Surely for comfort a cuddly toy is more useful? Or if she could have kept it in a bag or left it in the car?

If someone has a potty in their trolley and a small child with them, it's not far fetched to assume its there to be used the second a child needs it. If that's the case they should be in a pull up or they are not ready to go nappy-free in a food shop.

I think it's the sense of entitlement that bugs me. "My child may need a poo or wee and therefore I will do it wherever I am, even if you are trying to buy food"