to think that a potty in a trolley is a step too far?

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Saw a woman with her two small girls going into the supermarket. She casually told the smallest to pop her potty in the trolley.

I felt sick. I try not to package vegetables etc, but rather put them unwrapped straight into the trolley in a bit to do my tiny bit for the planet. But never again. The idea of residual faeces in the trolley (having landed there when a potty was left there...) ending up on my food repulsed me.

AIBU or is that utterly revolting and unacceptable? Food goes in supermarket trollies, not receptacles for human waste...?

But surely it was clean Home? So only like pushing a trolley with the hands you use when wiping after going to the loo? (And I bet many people pushing a trolley don't wash their hands after using the loo )

I think I'd be seething at the supermarket that doesn't provide toilet facilities, rather than a Mum trying to avoid having a toddler pee on the floor.

And don't portable potties have liners, so as to contain everything, and mean the potties stay clean?

I agree about supermarket trolleys being covered in rat's piss, bird poo, and all other manner of germs. The potty was probably cleaner than the trolley, ours get cleaned after each use, usually with bleach. As long as the child wasn't taking a shit in it whilst her mother wheeled her around, YABU.

If there are no toilets, where was she planning on using it in the middle of the crockery aisle?
I can understand bringing out a potty so your child doesn't have to squat next to a car door (although, that's surely a rite of passage) but leave it in the car.

squiggle you mentioning the bag made me think of river of sweet corn in classics

Our potty is disinfected after each use. I take it out with us for ds. I also would put it in a trolley. Probably in a bag for ease of carrying but still, it wouldn't be unclean!

If a kid needs a wee that urgently it either needs to be home near its pot or in diapers. You don't get to toilet the child in store aisles or other public venues because that happens to suit your routine/convenience.

My god, does anyone really need to be told that? Are people really that thick and oblivious?

If there are no toilets in supermarket what was mum going to do with it after it was used? Push it full in trolley? Run out shop to pour it down curb with kids in tow?

Grim.

I remember reading a thread about a woman who put a potty out for her dc in a shop and her dc did a pooh in it 😨

Well, I wouldn't put a potty in the trolley.

But, DD's potties are cleaned with disinfectant every day. And if I take a portable loo seat or potty out with us then it gets cleaned with disinfectant wipes after every use before going back into the bag. I imagine a lot of people do this, surely? So the risk of germs would be pretty low.

I bet it's not much different from children standing in trollies in their outdoor shoes. Which I also don't approve of but doesn't seem to garner quite the same disgust.

LeaLeander and Akire agree with both your posts.

I did shoot her a death stare but it glanced off her entitled face... Made me laugh.

It's not germs as much as decent public behavior. Civilized humans do not subject others to the sights, smells etc of their toilets. Train your kids at home.

Firstly, I had to read some of these posts twice as I couldn't believe what I read the first time.
Secondly,I'm a mum to a 6 year old girl and she was in nappys then pull-ups and would use the potty at home in private then eventually didn't need the potty or pull ups as she went to the toilet.
I would never take the potty out of the house and I have never seen in all my days and I'm 44 any potty in a supermarket trolley and a child sat on it .
That's the whole point of Toilet training and pull ups and no potty .
Every Supermarket unless it's the corner shop has public toilets and baby changing facilities and I'm sorry but in my opinion it's not acceptable to stop in the middle of a super market or in fact any store and bring the potty out and put your child on it and think it's acceptable.

We never took a took a potty with us. Nappies out and about until actually toilet trained. I don't get the desire to toilet train when kids aren't capable of holding til a toilet.

A) there were no toilets in the supermarket
B) there is nothing from your posts, not one detail, that suggests the child actually did anything in the potty. Had you posted that she whapped it out and did a poo alongside the organic mangoes and papayas, I might have been with you.

C) I disinfect the potty after every use, the trolleys are kept outside anyway

D) YABU.

YANBU OP, it is not okay to have a child shitting in a trolley in a supermarket! The sense of entitlement some people have is astounding. Just because you're potty training your child does not mean everyone else has to tolerate faeces/urine potentially ending up on their shopping. It's vile, I'm shocked that people think it's alright

Do they have a self scan option? I scan as I go, veg etc all go into bags and so avoid the bottom of the trolley altogether. If for any reason I don't self scan then there is always a layer of bags at the bottom. I don't really think about the cleanliness but there wouldn't be contact anyway.

Beyond that, no I don't think that you do need to take a potty into a supermarket. Isn't that the time that online/ late night/ oh shopping is for. I guess that the only justification might be if they hadn't arrived by car and were out and about all day - e.g. 'Let's walk to the shop, get our picnic and go to the park, must bring the potty.' with no intention of using the potty in the shop.

Oh god, there was no shitting in any trollies!

seething ? death glares calm down op.

I can't know her intentions

Exactly that, OP. You don't know own her intentions. For all you know the potty was brand new and had never been beshitted, I often pop anything I'm carrying into the bottom end of the shopping trolley because I go to supermarket last. Or it might not have even been her child, a CM friend had a mindee who was potty training and the mother sent him every day with a portable potty. It was never used because the CM put the child on the toilet but child still insisted on carrying it everywhere with him. Maybe mum has morning sickness and is bringing the potty as she might urgently need to run outside/around the corner and needs something to be sick into. Maybe they're preparing for potty training and the DD is carrying the potty around as she gets used to it. Or maybe she was planning to do a shit in aisle three because she's such an entitled cow bag and should just fuck off with her shitting children.

You don't know her intentions so YABU.

If only supermarket trolleys could talk, their stories would turn our stomachs. The parent putting their child complete with outdoor footwear in the body of the trolley, the shopping bags previously placed on the ground, the shopper who used the toilet but didn't wash their hands, the crows picking food scraps up in the car park and sitting on the trolley to eat the scraps, the rats running through the trolleys after dark searching for food, the list goes on.

I'm not sure it's any worse that people who let their children stand in the trolleys with who knows what on the bottom of their shoes. It just a more blatant way of showing it.

I don't consider trolleys to be clean enough to eat of anyway. So, whilst I might raise an eyebrow I wouldn't be any more/less vigilant about ensuring what I provide for my family to eat isn't washed, stored and cooked properly than I am already.

All you people suggestion the woman potty training her toddler should stay at home - don't be ridiculous! You soil have to but food and do school runs etc. Life doesn't stop! And it can take a long time to train a child. My DS has been training for over 3 weeks not and still gets 'urgent' calls. What am I supposed to do, refuse to take him to nursery or the park for a month?

Having a child do what's urgent is better in a potty than running down the legs onto the floor. Having said that, it would be wise to sit the child on the loo before you start shopping. Even then it's not foolproof though.

Having said that, YANBU to say pooing in a trolley is not ok.

Id have to grab the child and the potty and run to the nearest exit or toilet and at the very least it outside!