Aibu me or DH regarding all day and night drinking

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I recently had my DS 4 weeks ago. I also have a DD who's 2 and a DS 7. Currently DD is out at her aunties and I'm home with DS1 and DS2. DH went out last Saturday all day and night for friends birthday. This Saturday he went to the Middlesbrough football match. I was expected him home but now he's decided to stay out all night to celebrate with his mates. I'm furious as this will be second week in a row where he's been gone all day and night. The following day he is no help as he's hungover. I feel like I'm left holding the baby whilst trying to look after the other DC. I'm shattered from doing all the night feeds during the week and want some help on a weekend. Aibu to be pissed off? I went out for dinner with the girls during the week but waited until all the children were settled and was out for a few hours. It's not the fact he's gone out with mates that I'm so annoyed it's the length of time and the reoccurrence and disregard that I'm home caring for our children. DH thinks it's ok as the toddler is sleeping out but I have a demanding baby who feeds none stop and can be a challenge to settle.

You know what actually? Good on you. I suspect this is indicative of a general disregard for your role as mother of his kids and life partner so I hope you've taught him a valuable lesson x

Hi everyone he returned home. I made him take me food shopping as we were in need of food ( I don't drive) so saved me ordering it in. He tried to be intimate but I was not having any of it. I've insisted he pulled his weight in regards to the two youngest who needs extra help getting ready. I've also informed him he will be taking us to flamingo land for the dcs birthday treat. I intend on having a night out when i finished breastfeeding and will leave him with the DCs only my night out will be a weekend away to my friend who lives in Leeds. I said I don't think it's registered the fact that we have another child who requires constant care, he agreed. He's been more hands on since he's return.

Good luck, OP. I hope he steps up.

Well done, OP. Fingers crossed he's got the message. I would also make it clear if he's bought a season ticket that that's not an excuse for full on boozing every other Saturday.

He tried to be intimate

WTF?

You seriously got into a car with him driving. No way in a million years would DC and I have got into a car. He was still over the drink drive limit.

Just goes and show how selfish he was, or didn't he release food shopping needed doing.

We went shopping constanbly later on in the day. It wasn't first thing in the morning.

He almost certainly would still have been over the limit if he'd been till the small hours.