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AIBU?

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To want my child in her class photo

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amysmum18 · 05/05/2016 15:56

DD has been off school today with tonsillitis. She's feeling a lot better but may not be well enough for school tomorrow. The yearly class photos are taking place tomorrow and she really wants to be in it. I'd be really disappointed if she missed it. She's in reception so this would be her first class picture.
AIBU to ask the school if she could come in just to be in the picture. She would literally arrive in the room, stand there for the photo and then be whisked back off home.

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westcountrywoman · 05/05/2016 16:54

I'd ask. I don't think tonsillitis is considered an infectious disease so I wouldn't worry about spreading it.

While it's true to some degree that if they're not well enough for school, they shouldn't be going in for photos either, there's a big difference between half an hour and a whole day. If the photos are first thing (or after lunch) could you give her some Calpol and send her in and ask them to call you when she (inevitably) starts to flag so you can collect her?

potoftea · 05/05/2016 16:59

I'd phone and ask the school.
I also don't get the idea that if she's well enough to go in for the photo then she's well enough for school.
Surely there's no comparison, she goes in, maybe sits waiting for the photo, stands, smiles, leaves. If she's off ill then she'll gradually improve and build up to health but be able for a small challenge before that.

Doobigetta · 05/05/2016 17:01

Yay to previous suggestion of getting her photoshopped in

I sometimes think if I had kids I'd stick them in a load of photos of exciting and exotic locations just to mess with their heads a big when they were older. Probably a good thing I don't have them, really.

purplefizz26 · 05/05/2016 17:24

I don't understand the fuss some posters are making. It's not a big deal atall.

Ask the school, if they say yes then great! If no, never mind. You could take her to Max Speilman and have portraits done in uniform.

diddl · 05/05/2016 17:28

I suppose some of us don't understand the fuss about a school photo.

She's either well enough to attend school on the day it is happening or she isn't.

idontlikealdi · 05/05/2016 17:47

DTs reception class photo is tomorrow. I couldn't give a monkeys of they're in it or not. The individual ones yes but the class one? I don't want a photo of 28 other kids!

Either she's well enough to go in or she's not.

IslaSinga · 05/05/2016 17:54

I have done this with my Dd - ring and ask.

Youarenotkiddingme · 05/05/2016 18:07

Id ring and ask.

When DS had tonsillitis (a lot!) the dr said he could go to school if he felt well enough - there wasn't an exclusion period for it.

user7755 · 05/05/2016 18:16

If she's to ill to go to school you can't take her in for the photo!

Plus what an earlier poster said, most school photos are terrible and you need a second mortgage to pay for them.

Andbabymakesthree · 05/05/2016 18:17

The more modern photographs are done in batches and blended together including those in a catch up photo pose.

shazzarooney999 · 05/05/2016 18:18

If she is fit enough to go in for a photo shes fit enough to be in school.

AliensInUnderpants12 · 05/05/2016 18:20

I don't think she would be excluded on the basis of tonsillitis as when I had it and needed antibiotics my GP said I could still go into work if I felt well enough.

Floggingmolly · 05/05/2016 18:30

But you'd presumably stay for the full day, Aliens; not just pop in for the tea break and then announce you'd decided to go back home again.
You're either well enough to go in or you should be at home resting in order to recuperate faster if you're not.

whois · 05/05/2016 19:17

either she is well enough to go to school or not

Oh come on, there is a massive difference between being well enough to be driven to school and stand in a photo for 10 mins, than being at school all day talking and thinking and moving about. FFS.

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amysmum18 · 05/05/2016 19:27

I do disagree with the idea that if she's well enough for the picture, she's well enough for the full day. I think there is a massive difference between being in the school for 5 mins to be in a class picture and spending a full day in classes.
TBH, I'm not sure of the incubation / contagious period, DD is prone to quite rough bouts of tonsillitis (she's on a waiting list to have them out) and usually as soon as she's on antibiotics, she perks up and she's back at school ;-) and school havwr always been fine with this.
I can understand some people's disinterest in the class picture,

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amysmum18 · 05/05/2016 19:35

Oops, pressed 'post' too quickly! ;-)

I can see why some people aren't interested in class pictures but my DD will be in the same class from reception to the end of primary school and I'd love to see how the class grows up.

I mainly want her to be able to go as she is the one that really wants to be in it and will be so disappointed if she misses it.

I'm still undecided if she's well enough for a full day at school but they are happy for her to come in for the picture if she can't do the full day. X

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AndTakeYourPenguinWithYou · 05/05/2016 19:38

I mainly want her to be able to go as she is the one that really wants to be in it and will be so disappointed if she misses it

She's what, 4 or 5? It's you that is making it a big deal, not her. No, you can't drag a sick child into school for a class photo, what a ridiculous idea.

diddl · 05/05/2016 19:39

"my DD will be in the same class from reception to the end of primary school and I'd love to see how the class grows up."

And you'll be able to do this even if she misses this pic.

Tbh it just wouldn't occur to me to consider this let alone ask the school.

I'm surprised that they would entertain it at all.

ShelaghTurner · 05/05/2016 19:44

Also don't get the drama and wringing of hands when it comes to missing a day of school and I love the class photos. Ring the school and ask, they can only say no.

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amysmum18 · 05/05/2016 19:45

Penguin - you're entitled to your opinion but you weren't the one dealing with a crying 5yr old when she thought she wouldn't get to be in her picture
Luckily I seem to have a school that has a more relaxed attitude to these things, they didn't see it as a problem at all and are happy for her to come in

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Floggingmolly · 05/05/2016 19:47

She's not missing a day of school. At least, not entirely; she'll be swanning in to have her photo taken then swanning back out again, like a Vogue model.
I can't believe the school would ok this. Ours wouldn't.

pocketsaviour · 05/05/2016 19:48

SERIOUSLY? Yes, yabu. And your DD's school sound like a bunch of pushovers.

diddl · 05/05/2016 19:52

"you weren't the one dealing with a crying 5yr old when she thought she wouldn't get to be in her picture"

HTF has this become such a big deal for her?

helensburgh · 05/05/2016 19:55

Really common for this to happen and in my experience. A.normal.request
Hope she feels better and they agree

Floggingmolly · 05/05/2016 19:55

No.it's.bloody.not.

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