To ask you to arbitrate on a dispute about laundry etiquette?

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So, dh and I disagree. He is clearly wrong but thought I should put it to the Mumsnet jury because I'm putting off doing bedtime

So, you live in a house where the adult children wash their own clothes and one adult (for the sake of argument we'll call this adult Mrs Overall) is responsible for washing everything else that is in the laundry box including kids clothes and towels. Mrs O hangs out, sorts and folds and Mr Overall does putting away, leaving a pile for adult children of anything that has worked its way into the shared laundry box by mistake.

If you got up just before 10 after the school run and saw there was an open washing machine with about 4 unwashed items inside would you

a) Take no notice
b) Add your own items to the laundry and put it on running a half load
c) Ask the only adult in the house if they had finished with the machine because you want to do some laundry
d) Assume someone is using the machine and come back later if you want to do some washing yourself.

Just to reiterate dh is wrong. Some details have been changed to protect the feckless

Over to you.

Hard to answer because I'm fully in charge of our washing machine process. But I would C check with the other adult first. E.g wouldn't want my delicates in with pee pants.

C or B.

The way you phrase it about the door would make me do c because I would assume that the other adult was currently looking for clothes to add to the load.

B

Mrs O owns the washing machine.

You are a house guest.

I'm going with criscrosses option if e - grab a bat!

I'd pick (b) and assume I was doing a favour for whoever had put the previous 4 items in.
Do I win?

I'm too scared of you to even answer...

I wouldn't trust what was in the machine already though, I'd have to check (probably take it out and check pockets for toothpicks and drill bits, inside out socks for lumps of grass and mud, check for highly coloured items)

A.

Wow this is getting overly complicated.

If the children are grown-up, where do the weed-on pjs come from?

I'm a house guest?! I thought I was Mr Overall! This changes everything!

Surely you'd ask if there was anything else to go in and top it up with whatever you had and off you go?!

Actually, scrap that. It's too complicated for me, I don't even know why I bothered replying.

F, make it up to a full load, as there is ALWAYS laundry to be done and put it on!

A house guest?! I thought this was between mr and Mrs o!

As a houseguest I would not be going near Mrs O's white goods without prior authorisation.

No Mr O is blameless

On this occasion

Now in our house, I'd wonder who had put clothes in the machine and double check that Very Important Things were not hiding there. Then I'd fill up the machine with whatever needed washing and life would continue as normal. I do all the washing, except DH's sports gear which is too disgusting to touch after three days in the boot of his car.

In Mrs. O's house, as a guest, I'd ignore it, presuming she was in the middle of something. Then I'd make everyone a and offer around my delicious gift of home-baked cookies

If the children are grown-up, where do the weed-on pjs come from? I assume there are both adult and non adult children in the household. Same as here.

If I was a house guest I would definitely ask so C twice over.

DH is wrong but blameless?

I'm so confused.

Oh ffs who's house and washing machine is it? I haven't got a pad and pen to work it out. Who has wee' in the pj's and/or left four things in the machine.