To be annoyed with DH for taking the wind out my sails

[voluptuagoodshag]

I've never been much of a runner but had been doing the odd 5k. I've signed up to do a 10k in Autumn so have been trying to get out more. Today, for the first time ever, I actually covered the 10k distance. I took a couple of rests and walked quickly up the steep bits but I was well chuffed with myself and feeling great. I shared this with DH when he got home from work. His response when he asked how long it took me was 'well done, gives you something to build on'
I was duly pissed off at this but he went on to say that my time was a bit slow. FFS who cares, I ran the distance, and half of it was up a fairly steep hill. Prat! Felt the need to vent.

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Disappointing. My husband would have given me Strada kudos for that (but complains he gives me more kudos than I give him but I'm just less of a Strava addict.)
Well done.

Well done from me!

My DH does this. He thinks he's being kind and because he's super fit he genuinely didn't see my comparatively small triumphs in the world of athletic endeavours as comparatively big ones for me. But I tell him to piss off and we move on!

Good luck for your 10K!

Well done OP!

I'd be a little too.

Well done i never got 5km and waa chuffed at that.

Mines the same, I've just worked my ass off for an hour running around fetching logs, fit bit is cheering me, OH oh well maybe we (he means me) will be faster tommorow.
Its like they don't even hear what they are saying sometimes.

DH is very fit, but I'm hardly a fecking threat to his sporting dominance. Arse! Feel like swearing a lot. Next time he swans in from a long bike ride I'll raise my eyebrows and say 'is that all'. Twat

Good plan re bike ride Well done!

Rude. Sorry OP. You're amazing

My DH always does this and pushes me on when we run together I fecking hate it. Tossers both of them

It's a real achievement, progressing from 5 to 10k. Your dh's comment was daft (a bit slow for what?).

LTB.

My OH was a bit like this when we first met. He's a former semi-pro triathlete, has completed numerous ironmans, and is now a cyclist, so he has a very different idea of fitness to me. After getting annoyed a few times, I changed tack and use his experience now and he coaches me.

Could you get your OH to do something similar?

Well done you! My Husband also pisses on my chips with regards to running. I told him in no uncertain terms to pack it the fuck in as he was upsetting me. I've not heard a peep since I've just done my first 10k as well, so unless it took you two hours or something tell him to do one!

sallyhas has the perfect answer!

Well done OP! I can barely run a mile and am always impressed with anyone who can run.

Ignore the fool!

YANBU

but yay for the 10k, that's terrific.

Loving Sally's response! Well done Op.

Acht this is the kind of thing my runner dh would say and think he's bring encouraging.

Yes to Sally's response.

Well done OP - I did a 3k when my OH did a 10k a fortnight ago and we both have our medals up in the front room. I'd want to drop kick your so called husband for that one.

Well done you!

I learnt to swim as an adult, and was so thrilled with number of lengths completed etc. EX who couldn't swim at all and was frightened of water, often used to tell me that my style was poor, and was always pleased to point out any little failures.
He was glad to suck the joy out of it, and try to keep me in my place, he wasn't so cheerful when I divorced him though!

Not that I'm suggesting you should do that of course, but it was one of the last straws for me.

My DH is the same about my feeble efforts to get into running - unimpressed. He is not at all fit himself though because he says he works too hard to have time for the gym!

When I ran my first 5k he was just grumpy when I got home because he had had to watch the DC on his own for 2 hours. He is such a curmudgeon. On the upside he expects no praise from me either if he does anything of note so he is at least fair!

It sounded like he was being encouraging.....

He said well done? Something to build on? What's wrong with that - it is true.

Brilliant

He came across as being a bit dick, but (obviously I don't know him) probably meant it in a encouraging way.
Most sporty fit types I know are always wanting to improve their times, they're quite open and honest about if it is a good time / result or not.
He still is a bit of a knob head though.

Well done.

Sorry that was meant to Sally's reply but to you op a massive well done !!!

I don't see the problem. He said well done. Saying it's something to build on is positive. It's saying he believes you can do even better in future. It's how I feel if I cycle up a steep hill. "Well done. Now aim for that one. It's bigger."