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Mother sues for £20k for being discouraged from bf while the wave machine was on

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sizeofalentil · 02/05/2016 12:54

Daily Mirror link to the story here.

I'm totally for breastfeeding wherever and whenever, but I wouldn't want to eat my sandwiches in a swimming pool - they are so germy, like a human soup, so not sure a swimming pool with a wave machine on would be the best place to bf. Plus, obviously in this case there was the waves.

I realise that getting out of the water, especially if she had other kids, with a hungry baby would be a massive faff, but wouldn't the wave machine splash the baby and make it choke?

Serious question: AIBU to think this? Is bf in a swimming pool a done thing? Genuinely curious.

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NeedACleverNN · 03/05/2016 12:04

So maybe you should all just be discussing that, whether you think the actions of the pool were ok.

Perfectly OK actually. Good on them!

OrangesandLemonsNow · 03/05/2016 12:05

You are evading the question orchidnap

Where you there?

joannee78 · 03/05/2016 12:05

There's no law broken. If a pool user is doing something unsafe then staff are mandated to ask them to stop. Poor baby could've drowned. I don't think babies would be allowed in a pool when the wave machine is on anyway?

Roversandrhodes · 03/05/2016 12:06

She's an attention seeker clearly

orchidnap · 03/05/2016 12:09

I didnt actually see the question. No, I wasnt there.. it is possible to know someone, without being there at the time soomething happened? do you take every single person you know swimming with you?

orchidnap · 03/05/2016 12:09

The wave machine wasnt on.

or are we just going to blindly believe the daily fail is good and right because they ALWAYS tell the truth?

CoolforKittyCats · 03/05/2016 12:10

or are we just going to blindly believe the daily fail is good and right because they ALWAYS tell the truth

No one has quoted the Daily Mail

Treeroot · 03/05/2016 12:11

I remember having to wait at the council offices when ds1 was a couple of weeks old. It was really busy, I was sat in a corridor with seats down both sides. DS was screaming for a feed, I'd never breastfed in public before, I was still really struggling and I couldn't get him to latch on. To make it worse, there were two horrible men sat opposite me staring.

I was sitting there, flustered and bright red when one of the officers walking past said that if I wanted to go around the corner where his office was, there were some seats down there where I could sit on my own and he'd let me know when I was called. I was so grateful I nearly cried.

I really hope that cases like this don't deter people from offering bf women support.

OrangesandLemonsNow · 03/05/2016 12:11

The wave machine wasnt on

You weren't there how would you know.

Jasonandyawegunorts · 03/05/2016 12:13

The wave machine wasnt on.

And yet:

No, I wasnt there..

Hmm Which is it are you a witness to the event or are you, like the rest of us relying on hearsay.

specialsubject · 03/05/2016 12:15

babies eat where everyone else would reasonably be allowed to eat. That does NOT include a swimming pool, wave machine or not.

she should have got out of the pool and fed the kid on the side. Not hard.

sounds like she thinks she can earn a quick buck for 'hurt feelings'. No, sweetheart, that's NOT what you were given the vote for.

mishmash1979 · 03/05/2016 12:19

I am not allowed to feed my children food in a swimming pool so don't understand why bf'ing or bottle feeding would be any different. The whole point about the other children is ridiculous as if one of them was in difficulty how likely is she to have been able to adequately help them with a baby feeding or in her arms? Ridiculous story and gives bf'ing mums bad press IMO.

unimagmative13 · 03/05/2016 12:19

*Orchid,
*
This lady dedicates her life to slagging off and commenting on people.

How do you think that swimming pool worker feels after she went to the newspaper about him?

How do you think Tesco staff feel after they innocently mark down cartons of SMA?

That person who linked 'bath, bottle, bed' at Aldi?

The hospital staff where she publicly shamed them?

The women who she tweeted about painful breasfeeding?

She's also made comments to the paper about the women who BF in Claridges!

And your in here moaning that we are commenting on her PUBLIC tweets.

Divathecat · 03/05/2016 12:23

Orchidnap maybe your friend should also sue Daily Mirror for misquoting her? £20K or maybe should aim higher this time?

Please do pass your friend the link to this thread, she can't sue Mumsnet btw

NeedACleverNN · 03/05/2016 12:23

She also seems to be the type of woman who would happily have a comment to you about bottle feeding instead of breast feeding as one of her tweets actually says it is detrimental to a child's health

Divathecat · 03/05/2016 12:24

Unimagnitive13 maybe she should sue Twitter, Orchid are you going to suggest it?

likeaboss · 03/05/2016 12:27

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FattyMcFatFace · 03/05/2016 12:33

If she's so private, why have her social media pictures open for all the world to see?

honkinghaddock · 03/05/2016 12:40

I feel sorry for the lifeguard. All he did was offer to provide somewhere more comfortable and possibly safer if the wave machine was on. When we are out with our disabled ds we are sometimes offered help that we don't need but we say we don't need it politely rather than kicking off about discrimination.

MrsMonkeyHanger · 03/05/2016 12:42

Apparently the best way to rationally consider whether you have discriminated against a mother is to deny everything, lie, ignore the legal process and submit the mother to trial by media, make her life so intolerable she give up and go away.
Would any of us come across well if the if the tabloid press decided to do a hatchet job on us? And if this was someone you knew was in this situation wouldn't you want people to wait until the full truth was revealed in court?
This site was created so that mums were given support, so please can we take this opportunity to do that instead of fuelling the hate campaign. One day it might be you on the receiving end.

CoolforKittyCats · 03/05/2016 12:44

This site was created so that mums were given support

Actually it is a parenting site.

Gileswithachainsaw · 03/05/2016 12:46

Surely you can support a cause without having to pretend the parent in question isnt just a nutcase who got lucky and thanks they invented the shit they are spouting on about.

Buckinbronco · 03/05/2016 12:46

Orchard I do support what you're saying in a way, because the daily mirror make
Things up or twist them all the time-
Like all papers. But twice? Twice she's been in the media for being told not to breastfeed in circumstances which turn out to be untrue/ inaccurate? A set up both times?

Buckinbronco · 03/05/2016 12:47

And btw I can well believe the poop company in question got the daily mirror involved to scare her off court action/ bad mouthing- preemptive bad publicity. I've seen it done many times. But this woman really does seem like she's the antogonist here

Jasonandyawegunorts · 03/05/2016 12:47

This site was created so that mums were given support, so please can we take this opportunity

Which doesn't mean blindingly supporting mums when they are totally in the wrong.

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