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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Or do other people have THAT PERSON as well?

493 replies

EverySongbirdSays · 24/04/2016 01:39

That Person who you irrationally dislike be they a celeb, someone you know, or a family member, the criteria being they are harmless and have done nothing to warrant your dislike of them except their very personality?

And you know that the fact you don't like them is really unreasonable but they make you absolutely seethe?

Or AIBU?

OP posts:
theigloohaslanded · 25/04/2016 11:00

Shit, yeah.
Christine Bleakley.

suzu1982 · 25/04/2016 11:03

Fucking Biggins!
I hate Christopher Biggins. No particular reason why, he just grinds on me. Oh, and Russell Grant, because I had a dream where he said I look like a fat hooker. cos that's a totally sane reason

AgentPineapple · 25/04/2016 11:04

YANBU I think everyone has a person or persons they dislike for no justifiable reason. I have a couple, I mostly find that eventually I was right to dislike them, some people just give you a vibe!

SulphurMan · 25/04/2016 11:15

Reading this thread gives me proof, if proof be need be.

glowfrog · 25/04/2016 11:17

In France, we call this phenomenon "tête à claque" - literally translates as "slap-able face." Meaning someone you just want to slap because they give you the rage on sight. Grin

MattDillonsPants · 25/04/2016 11:22

Ha! I like that! "Ooh she's got such a tete a claque!"

What's the way to say it completely in French please?

Beeziekn33ze · 25/04/2016 11:22

Jeremy Clarkson
Russell Brand

Hang on, nothing irrational about it!!

MrsJorahMormont · 25/04/2016 11:24

Everybody has at least one of these people and is one of these people for someone else.

The funniest one I had was a senior in an old job. We didn't like each other at all but we tried really hard to. We would have long conversations where I would see her desperately trying to like me and I would be willing myself to like her. But actually she was a conniving cow and I wouldn't trust her as far as I could throw her. Ah well, we tried :o

OnlyLovers · 25/04/2016 11:33

I've got a few. Blush

Colleagues. Acquaintances. Friends of friends. People working in my local shops/cafes. Slebs. Can't even start listing the slebs, there's so many. Grin

I do like and love lots of people too, though; I'm not a total misanthrope.

wheelofapps · 25/04/2016 11:33

I know I AM that person for some people.

I have a list, as long as my arm, for people whose 'personalities' (behaviour) I dislike.

Really irrational dislike is rarer. When I have met people in the past and just 'reared back' (internally) I have always regretted it if I didn't trust my instincts at the time.
It is not irrational, it is your senses telling you something.

LifeBeginsNow · 25/04/2016 11:35

This is exactly how I feel about my NDN! My husband thinks I'm crazy (although he can see many of the problems when I point them out).
He's just too annoying. He whistles all the time (I hate whistling anyway as it goes right through me) but he only starts when there's someone else there (other neighbour, postman, window cleaner, etc). I've come to the conclusion it's like a cocky thing to show he's all nonchalant and confident in himself. It doesn't come across like that to me and makes him look like an idiot.
The other thing that winds me up is that he belittles me at every opportunity. Having manners myself, I wouldn't dream of being so rude but this means I never answer back and annoy myself once he's gone. It's not just me though, he does it to a lot of women and tries with the men (although my husband is the opposite of me and really puts him in his place - which I love).
I hate talking to him as a result. Last year he spent ages telling me about my job (I've been doing it for 7 years) and how it's basically easy to do if you're passionate enough. The reason he bought this up was that he was offered a similar type job (different field) but with something he does enjoy. He was actually giving me tips (before he'd started even)! You can imagine my face when I find out that he's packed it in 2 weeks later as its not for him. Ha ha - maybe it's not so easy after all!
Blimey this is cathartic! I might come on here every time he talks to me.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 25/04/2016 11:35

Oh yes.
There's this one mum who uses an adult scooter, she and her DCs scoot together. I see them almost every morning and I know there's actually nothing wrong with this and DH tells me adults scooting in London is becoming quite popular, but it just looks weird and makes me irrationally annoyed to the point I feel like punching her. Blush

She's done nothing wrong, ever, very smiley and friendly so I don't know where this passionate dislike is stemming from.

I tried to imagine if I felt that way if I saw one of my friends did that, I'd still think it's weird but wouldn't get annoyed.

OnlyLovers · 25/04/2016 11:36

wheel, yes, that happened to me recently at work. Someone who would try to engage me in innocuous enough chat if we met in the kitchen etc; but I was genuinely and physically repulsed – could feel myself putting up a barrier between us.

She didn't last long in the job and left, but not before putting her assistant (my close colleague/friend) through some godawful stressy and ridiculous things. She was an emotional vampire, I think; she gave off 'needy' vibes and I just wanted to push her away.

Beachcomber123 · 25/04/2016 11:42

Kim Car Crash Kardashian. In fact all the Kardashain and Jenner clan members. And of course Kanye......

Roseformeplease · 25/04/2016 11:50

Mine is someone I only see occasionally (friend of friends) who doesn't have to work and has a teenager in private school so long days and no need for much "work". She posts endless status updates about how hard she is "working" on her fitness. Lots of pictures of her "loving my job" of "working on my fitness" at the top of hills. Or "trying out my new office wardrobe" (picture of brand new trainers) or pictures of her fucking horse (My co-worker).

I feel bad because she is actually lovely. But she has absolutely no concept of what work actually is and I wish I could treat my figure, my pets and my fitness drive as "work" but really, they don't actually happen at all because of, you know, work. I have stopped reading her feed and try to keep off topics about fitness etc when we meet.

Titsalinabumsquash · 25/04/2016 11:50

I most certainly am that person for a few people. I'm not sure why though but I'm way to old to care.

I don't like dolphins, they act all friendly and playful but I bet they'll surround you and drag you down under the water and maul you when no one is looking, and then blame sharks. those bottle nosed bastards

I hate Angelina Jolie, her face causes me rage.

wheelofapps · 25/04/2016 11:53

Only it has happened to me many times.
Once, when I was quite young, first job, I sat next to Nicolas Van Hoogstraten at a Lunch with my boss at work. He was well dressed, well spoken, we were eating in a very good London restaurant. I was dazzled by that sort of thing at the time, being a country mouse just up from the sticks. But - he had a sort of blackness around him. Really really creepy. I wanted to sneak under the table and back out of the door - it was really hard to stay seated. Then, years later, I saw a news article, and saw what sort of person he was. I was right!

UhtredRagnorsson · 25/04/2016 11:58

Judi Dench.

lilywillywoo · 25/04/2016 12:03

Patrick kielty, no reason, just find him incredibly annoying, have to turn him down if he's filling in for Steve Wright. Same with Chris tarrant. Also myleene klass. I sure there's more, if I think about it. All fairly irrational.

TheDuchessOfArbroathsHat · 25/04/2016 12:05

God I agree with SO many on here but the one I agree with most of all is Caroline Flack and her bloody buggery shorts. Fuck. Off. With. Your. Fucking. Shorts.

Fucking shorts. Who makes fucking shorts their trademark. Fuck off!

PennyDreadfuI · 25/04/2016 12:09

Anthea fucking Turner

That is all

Niaus267 · 25/04/2016 12:10

Loads. And I know I'm repeating what others have said, but Ronan Keating. Mostly because he parades his new wife like his pet project & seems incapable of holding a conversation without mentioning her and how much he looooooooves he and how ace she is.....no Ronan. It makes you sound controlling, micromanaging and like you own her. REALLY harshes my mellow.

Oh and I want to smack Elton John & Paul McCartney in the face. Just because.

Binkermum29 · 25/04/2016 12:10

I CANNOT believe no-one has mentioned Fiona Bruce - does that mean ( yuk ) that I have her all to myself?
I can't comment on her performance on Antiques Road Show - I haven't been able to bring myself to watch it since she took over and this is a shame as I used to enjoy it.
But reading the news? She doesn't read it, she interprets it. With an infinitesimally discreet raise of that perfectly arched brow, and a subtle inflection of that beautifully modulated voice she makes it so clear what her view is of the subject in hand. She is paid all her £££££ to tell us the facts and let us form our own opinions not to guide them. God, it annoys me.
BTW, why is Alison Hammond?

Niaus267 · 25/04/2016 12:11

He loves HER, I mean. Though, to be fair....

Thingiebob · 25/04/2016 12:14

Yes yes yes. I'm sure they are nice people so I never let my dislike show. Often though I have found that if I get to know them, my reasons for dislike are perfectly valid! So perhaps I'm a good judge of character. I'm sure people probably dislike me for no reason as well.