AIBU to Worry that Mumsnetters Can be Too Mean and Judgemental?

[LizzyELane]

I first posted on MN several years ago (under a different name) to ask other mums what they thought of a difficult relationship situation I was in. I literally had nowhere else to turn. The replies I had were many and varied but the negativity I received over a pretty reasonable subject was unbelievable. It put me off to be honest. I'm not some do-goody prat and I like to spout off at the best of times, but sometimes reading the highlighted posts on here makes me think of how when we are all in shops and our trolley or basket bumps someone else's and we all fall over ourselves to say 'oops sorry' , but then when in our cars protected by the metal and distance we shout and swear and let rip at the slightest thing!!

Are there any kind Mumsnetters out there who can restore my faith in MN that we are here to support each other and not be evil or nasty? Constructive/helpful comments or constructive criticism is different to just being mean. BTW I'm not a fluffy wetty, I just hate pointless negativity!

Ta dah!

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Oooh.

It is a bit cliquey here (don't say it isn't because it is).

Then you get a well respcted poster like EatSHitDerek who posted a not very popular opinion (can't remember what on) and people were like "ooh really is that Derek" etc?! As it wasn't her usual style...

I will say on Relationships they're very good but also quite harsh and honest, they don't sugarcoat. Other boards are lovely. Even chat.

I will also say, anything guaranteed to get someone's goat (I posted the other week about overcrowding on Ginger line and mum with pram who got on height of rush hour and also about a child on the train at rush hour on another train who got offered a seat (by me and others) and eventually his mum let him take a seat which was offered) and you would have thought I'd killed a kitten. So best leave that to chat too.

People will fight over God knows what but the usual posters get away with loads.

Can turn in a second in here.

You know what I really, REALLY REALLY miss ?

Ready Salted Chipsticks.

DELICIOUS CRISPIES.

If anyone can still get them, I will pay you handsomely to send boxes of them to me.

I miss Cheesy Moments. you can get multipacks of Scampi Fries and Bacon Fries but no Cheesy Moments.

And no cheese Snaps. Only Tomato.

I used to love cheese snaps

And salt and vinegar quavers

I think people can argue for the sake of it in here sometimes and it's not always even honest because honest means right. I wouldn't dare post in aibu if it were sensitive but I have had mostly brilliant support in other forums bar the odd post

MrsVamos I had a pack of those the other day!

I miss Puffs. Everyone things I'm talking about the wotsit type but noooo

I liked Bacon Quavers. Shaped like a bone, for some reason.

I love Scampi & Bacon Fries. They've got a great crunch.

Aren't those grim cheese footballs you get at Christmas like Cheese moments ?

I like Cheese balls from Sainsburys and Treelets.

Some cheesy things are just wrong.

Quichey. Fo Sho.

YY the footballs have the cheese mush inside. Lovely.

It's really strange, as. There's no predicting how a thread will pan out. There could be say to similar AIBU, and on the op will be supported. On another the OP will be roasted and shared amongst the whole of Mumsnet, and absolutely. Itd hard not to take things personally.
If you're having an especially bad day. It's best not to start a thread on AIBU. As this is a public site. Which anyone can access and sadly. There are some sick people out there who revel in trolling and kicking soneone. When they're down.

Superfly I agree with what you've said entirely. When I signed up it felt cliquey too, but inclusive cliquey rather than exclusive.

Lately, however, I've seen some shocking behaviour on some boards, which resulted in my posting much less, as I didn't like feeling associated to behaviour like that via the site.

MrsV the big space is INEXCUSABLE

Really, Grays ? WHERE DID YOU BUY THEM ? TELL ME NOW. PLEASE.

I keep seeing that you can buy a box of 48 on amazon but they're always 'out of stock'.

I NEED Ready Salted Chipsticks.

I entered a comment on a post in AIBU not so long ago and was absolutely hammered!! The use of foul language from one or two posters was so rude and included all manner of 4 letter words to describe me and my views. I had offered a polite and non sweary alternative view based on my many years of experience. Mumsnet HQ deleted my post as I was reported, although one or two posters did support me and asked the OP to think on what I had said as it was sensible.
It works both ways I am afraid. In AIBU I would NEVER again offer an alternative to the majority of the posts supporting the OP even if I felt the OP was not seeing the whole picture. You find on occasions that the OP has a group of "fans" usually known to them and heaven help anyone who offers another view.
I went to Netmums and saw a similar thread to the one I commented upon where a good discussion on the same subject had been held and it contained no 4 letter words or disgraceful personal comments against anyone not completely agreeing with the OP.

Mumsnet should hang their heads in shame as they do not attract the same level of polite posters. More your Costco than Waitrose imho!!

Haha no worries! Friday night bevvy like me?!!

See, I can't do the mush, Sparks. Urgh.

Alopogies, Luis.

There's so much cheese here its no wonder its quichey.

I had a terrible craving for these with both children. At 10p a bag it was brilliant. My b and m did come in handy then as they were the only people doing them. Alas not anymore

No more cheesy nibbles

You gave to stay within Talk Guidelines Twicemarried or you risk being reported and deleted. MNHQ must have had good reason to delete whatever you said.

Sounds like you prefer Netmums. Swearing is a no no over there and it is moderated.

Honey

Completely agree.

Lizzy

Must offer as I may have also possibly contributed to de-railing your thread a bit.

MrsVamos They're all over here. NW, Greater Manchester! If I find somewhere to buy a box I'll message you and send you one

"OPs have 'fans' who are more Costco than Waitrose".

Really, twicemarried ?

Tip for you.

FOTTFSOF....TFOSM.

HTH. Hun.

Grays Would you really ? Oh bless you, that is fabulous !

Awww, you've made my day.

Thank you.