To think that ds is up to no good?

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Flameproof suit on.

Ds1 is just 15.
He's pretty much constantly grumpy. He has a GCSE this year and 12 next year.

I took some clean clothes into his room. I sat on his bed as I had quite a pile of washing and sat on something hard. I moved the blanket and there were 5 phones.

I am a single parent and those phones belong to neither me or his siblings. There are 2 iPhone 5c, an HTC, a cheap flip phone and 1 iPhone 6. He has a nice life- a PS4, own bedroom, friends and doing well academically. He sees his dad EOW.

He went to school with a phone today (he was listening to music through headphones) and I assume it's the iPhone 5s that his dad pays for.

If I ask him he's going to be furious and lie. There is absolutely no way of getting the truth out of him.

I don't think he's doing drugs but I know his friends smoke weed. If I had to guess where they came from I'd say that they were stolen (from school?) He has stolen money from me on multiple occasions but stopped recently.

Aibu to drop them off at his school anonymously? Is there something else I can do?

No flaming about not being able to get the truth out of him please. He's angry, stubborn and practically in punishable since toddlerhood.

How did the dad know that you had the phones at your house?

There's usually a camera on a cashpoint, isn't there?

Sometimes the transaction does not show up until the next day, so could have been yesterday?

That's really tough op. You need to confront him and if you can't you need to call the police. In my experience if you explain the situation the police will be helpful to you. You also need to talk to his dad. Sorry you're having a tough time

It is hugely difficult for a single mother to deal with a teenage boy who is acting out - I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all this.

I do think that you must take this seriously and I am afraid that you do you need to confront him.

There is nothing good in this situation. He is stealing phones and money and you have to ask what he wants this cash for. Sadly it is likely to be for drugs. You must be quite clear with him that you intend to inform the police.

What a headache for you - I really do feel for you. We just want the best for our children and it is so painful when they let us down.

He stole 1500 before????

What did he spend it on?

Terrible situation for you OP. You did the right thing getting the police involved. If he isn't responding you to hopefully he'll respond to other authority.

Are there rules in your house?

I know you describe yourself as a disciplinarian but it really doesn't sound like it from this thread.

How did the friend & his dad know to come today for his phones? The very day you found them? Why did your ds say he had them?

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I too have an unpunishable child. He has SN. Fortunately he does little that requires punishing as he is very well behaved. At the moment. I'm under no illusion that this could change as he is only twelve.
Unless you have been in a similar situation with a similar child its unfair to pass judgment.
I have every sympathy with you OP.

good point. how dd he take money out on the way to school, yet leave the card at home fr you to use at the supermarket that day?

When the Op posted yesterday she said the money was taken at 8am in the morning, not this morning, so she probably meant one morning during the last week.

I too am wondering what he spent £1500 on......

How' are you OP?

If you can get hold of them again get the IMEI number.
The iPhone one will be on the back
The HTC probably under the battery as will the flip phone.

It starts with a 3 but the iPhones can start 012/013

Use the NMPR database to check if they've been registered as stolen. You may have to sign up. Alternatively, message the numbers to me and I can check. It's legal don't worry!

In my job as a digital forensics analysts the only people with multiple phones are dealers unfortunately.
Smart phones are for friends and family with cheap phones being for 'others'.
Maybe sync the iPhones with your iCloud or check the messages on the burner type phones for obviously dodgy messages.