To think this isn't something to brag about?

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Acquaintance has posted pics on FB today of her 5 year old daughter. Apparently she's "so proud" of her daughter for being "so brave" while recovering from having 10 teeth removed due to decay (the kid lives on junk food and Coke). Surely this isn't something to brag about? I'd be mortified if my child needed such treatment due to parental neglect!

My cousin's daughter knocked her front 4 top teeth out when she ran into a post aged 3. She's still gorgeous, but her mother didn't put a photo on FB of her with a mouth full of gauze.

Sorry, I'm confused. What is it you have a problem with exactly?

Because first it was the dc's diet, now it's the photo.

I know you do MrsD and I have seen before that you always ask the question and usually get the raisey eyebrows look followed by the lovely statement "don't special needs children deserve the same protection as other children"

I have also figured out that you are intelligent enough to keep asking it because the vast majority of the time children with SN's obtain the same protection by having professionals involved who have a decent understanding of the needs they have due to the SN not by some base line criteria.

Yes if someone is not qualified enough to make a valid decision then reporting is the answer but report what you actually see what you actually have knowledge of don't appoint yourself as an investigator and use fluff on your referal if you wouldn't report or inc something in a referal if it was the naice family down the road then don't if it's the lone parent a few streets away. (And that bit was not aimed at you Mrs D)

I am uncomfortable with the notion that it is poor people who are sending their kids to bed with a bottle full of juice and a handful of haribo. Poor does not equal stupid!

I have 2 DDs. Both had their teeth checked and brushed regularly from infancy. Both breastfed until about 12 months. Older one was not bothered by sweet foods at all in infancy and had awful teeth requiring several extractions and much attention. Younger one was v sweet toothed and ate as much sugary stuff as she could get (not much at home but would never decline anything offered when visiting). Now in her twenties she has never had a filling. Some people just have stronger teeth than others. It is not just down to diet and oral hygiene.

No NN of course it does not but people always pay far more attention to how poor people parent and when other families fuck up they are far more likely to have excuses handed to them on a plate, and families with better incomes can avoid a lot of attention by using paid for treatment where they may have access to more reactionary fixing methods or staff far more willing to deal with it

I agree with the sentiments of "a 3 hour training course and they think they're a social worker".

MrsD yes I will stand by my poor areas comment. I don't expect it to be popular but it is accurate. Dental decay is far more common in areas of social deprivation than in affluent areas.

Because wealthier people can afford dental care to fix their children's teeth at the first sign of problems and poor people are stuck with often shoddy provision from the nhs. It's not because richer people are intrinsically better parents, feeding their dc fewer sweets. I am getting fed up with the assumption that being poor equates to being stupid or lazy or just generally crap at life.

I'm poor my dd is 17 and doesn't have any fillings now or in her baby teeth. I did not let her drink cola from a bottle or call her Chardonnay or have her ears pierced. She has very good teeth so do I. We are poor because her Father left us and things have been difficult. I am poor but I don't wear kappa trackies or smoke or drink.
Stereotyping is hurtful and the media love to demonise us because we don't have spare money.
My dd has what I can give her so I taught her to clean her teeth and floss. She has no issues whatsoever and did not need braces.

Do not judge people by the amount of money they have, that's very shallow

Yes it was the same kind of thing the other day when someone started a thread asking what are council types.
Goadiness to the extreme, why do people think they are better than others? I suppose money talks but I was brought up not to look down on others otherwise I'd have an almighty fall

I didn't actually make any statements about rich or poor. The mum that I was talking about works hard in an administrative role but admits she has no idea how to cook. She lives on takeaways and cider and so she's not cooking for her kids either. I don't know about dental hygiene. My DD is a total fruit and chocolate monster so we're quite careful with her dental hygiene (and dried apricots are basically nature's fruit gums). She DD seem to have inherited DH's good teeth rather than mine though!