To think this isn't something to brag about?

[FuckSanta]

Acquaintance has posted pics on FB today of her 5 year old daughter. Apparently she's "so proud" of her daughter for being "so brave" while recovering from having 10 teeth removed due to decay (the kid lives on junk food and Coke). Surely this isn't something to brag about? I'd be mortified if my child needed such treatment due to parental neglect!

[GreatFuckability]

saying your child has been brave when having something traumatic happen isn't bragging though, is it? its just being proud of your child.
like i said up thread, my eldest had lots removed. she now has all her adult teeth and they are perfect, no fillings etc. despite having very wonky teeth which are very hard to brush. so having bad teeth as a small child, doesn't mean bad teeth as an older child.

[FreshHorizons]

There will be some children who have health problems and extractions are not anyone's fault BUT there is no doubt that there are huge problems with decay in children's teeth and it is down to too much sugar and incorrect brushing.
However, this is an unpleasant thread and should be removed.

[gamerchick]

It's like an echo of the media this thread. Usually it's the other way around. Mint

[ClopySow]

Severe dental decay may well be a sign of neglect. Giving a child coke isn't.

[FuckSanta]

Of course there's a difference between dietary decay and non-dietary. In this case it's dietary.

[FuckSanta]

You wouldn't have known that if you met me at the school gates tho FuckSanta and you would have judged and assumed.

Would I? I think it's you making assumptions actually.

I was very poorly as a baby/small child and had to have a lot of medicine, which in the 70s was provided in a sugar syrup. Between the ages of 4 and 6 - which is when I finally had my tonsils out - my front teeth were brown through being weakened by the drugs and rotted by the constant sugar. None were removed. My parents had no choice but to give me the medicine. Perhaps that's why I judge those who play fast and loose with their children's teeth.

[FuckSanta]

Whatever OP
what caused the decay is totally irrelevant.
You are narked that the mother is proud of her child for being brave.

No. I thought it an odd thing to put on FB.

[FuckSanta]

You would have looked, assumed, and judged me

Oh fuck off. I wouldn't. I'm judging it happening from her choice to feed her kids crap (she's admitted it) and posting a photo of her bruised and her bruised and battered child on FB!

You're assuming that I would do the same in totally different circumstances with no legitimate cause to believe that.

[PrincessPeachy29]

Agree with you, awful.

[FuckSanta]

OK so you would look at a child at the school gates with brown rotted teeth, hear the mother talking about extracting 9 the next day and you wouldn't judge?

Well, where I live schools are pretty small. So I'm sure I'd have talked to you several times and know what had gone on. I don't judge on appearance alone.

If you picked your kid up every day with a happy meal, Coke, icecream and haribo you might get a from me, yes.

[FuckSanta]

Today 22:28 MrsDeVere

The mother put on FB that she was proud of her little girl, not proud of her tooth decay!
You have some weird Victorian shame thing going on.

. Didn't really need the picture, did it?

[SpringerS]

I always think that some children must be more prone to decay I have NEVER been overly pushy with my kids teeth and yet they have somehow escaped decay and yet other people I know who are really on top of it all have had to take theirs for fillings!

Genetics is a huge part of it. I'm 37, am super laid back about my teeth and have never had a filling. The only dental work I've ever needed has been to have some stubborn baby teeth removed as they weren't going to fall out by themselves. I had 3 removed aged 12 and 1 removed last year when I was 36.

[FuckSanta]

I didn't want to discuss, nor did I discuss, details of my child's medical conditions with some random person at the school gates. you would not have known a thing.

Parents at DD's school must be far friendlier and more open then. We've had chats about birth defects, grommets, tonsils, deafness, ASD, ADHD, allergies, speech therapy, lip ties, chicken pox, scarlet fever etc at the school gate.

[FuckSanta]

We don't consider other parents to be "random strangers" either!

[FuckSanta]

Fair enough. But don't assume everyone is the same as you.

[FuckSanta]

I never said there weren't.