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To dislike nicknames?

43 replies

Amy214 · 12/04/2016 21:51

I dont like nicknames, never had one myself and have never called anyone by their nickname. I just dont like them. Anyway recently dds dad has been calling her soph, instead of her full real name sophie. I just think her name is too nice to be shortened to soph and her gran has started calling her sophie bubbles? I havent said anything as its what they want but its annoying. Is it unreasonable to ask if they just call her sophie?

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gamerchick · 12/04/2016 21:57

I don't mind if people use affectionate variations of my kids names. It's nice that other family members have that closeness.

However you don't like it and you can ask but I would roll my eyes at you if you were my family member.

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Amy214 · 12/04/2016 22:00

They arent that close to her so i just think its weird. I dont mind names like billy for william but i dont like it when someones nickname is completely irrelevent to their real name so much so that people dont have a clue who your talking about

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BertrandRussell · 12/04/2016 22:02

But Sophie's a shortening!

Don't say anything. You can't control other people's relationships with your children.

Gwenci · 12/04/2016 22:02

I like that different people have affectionate names for my DC.

I suppose you can ask other people not to call your DD anything but her full name but not sure your preference for no nickname should trump DD's dad's preference for an abbreviation.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 12/04/2016 22:04

You can't tell her other parent not to give her a nickname. It's not on.

SheDoneAlreadyDoneHadHerses · 12/04/2016 22:05

My DS has several nicknames depending on who's talking to him.

I call him a hugely extrapolated nickname, his dad calls him something else, his school friends something else, his sports mates something entirely different.

I don't mind - that's their relationship with him, not mine.

AllPizzasGreatAndSmall · 12/04/2016 22:05

They arent that close to her so i just think its weird

He's her dad, I'd call that pretty close!

LindyHemming · 12/04/2016 22:12

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 12/04/2016 22:18

Sophie Bubbles/Soapy Bubbles/Trouble. Cute! I had a friend who was nicknamed it for those reasons, mischievous wee thing she was. Smile

Purplepixiedust · 12/04/2016 22:21

It is not unreasonable for you to dislike nicknames but it isn't on for you to try to control what other family members call her. Especially her dad and gran! Ultimately it is up to her. For now let it be. They are just familiar and affectionate. Most people use/don't mind them and often they kind of evolve. You don't always plan on them, they just happen!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 12/04/2016 22:23

You'd hate our family, no one is known by their given name.

You keep calling her Sophie. Let other people give her a nn. When she's old enough she can correct them if she wants to.

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Amy214 · 12/04/2016 22:24

Yes hes her dad but he doesnt have a close relationship with her. He barely sees her and when he does see her shes terrified, screaming if i even leave the room for a bathroom break. So i wouldnt call that a close and loving relationship. I havent said anything to them, i just dont like it i prefer not to call her anything other than sophie. She doesnt answer to them she just gives them a funny look Hmm

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RedToothBrush · 12/04/2016 22:24

Its her dad.

What else, perfectly nice and normal, are you not going to allow because you don't like it?

Don't be so straight laced and po faced. Its affectionate. Do you have a problem with signs of affection?

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 12/04/2016 22:24

Her dad isn't close to her Confused

PaulAnkaTheDog · 12/04/2016 22:26

Ummmmm, why are you allowing this contact if she literally screams at being left alone with him? Nicknames seem like a bizarre thing to fixate on when that's the case!

Only1scoop · 12/04/2016 22:27

I love shortening everything

Nn are fine with me.

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Amy214 · 12/04/2016 22:28

No i dont have problems with affection im open to anything i just dont like nicknames. No he isnt close to her, we dont live together but we live in the same town about 5 mins apart. I gave up asking him to come and see her, now he only sees her when he wants even then hes preoccupied with something else.

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Amy214 · 12/04/2016 22:31

Because if i even say or hint that i want to stop contact i get threatened with 'i am taking you to court and i will make sure you never see her again' i know it will never happen but i always have a 'what if' in the back of my mind

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whois · 12/04/2016 22:32

A school girl friend had a younger sister called Victoria. Her mum used to get really pissy if you called her Vicky or vic or anything. I thought she was a bit mental to come wading into a game of tag to have a go st children for calling Victoria vic...

PaulAnkaTheDog · 12/04/2016 22:34

Well perhaps getting advice on that rather than nicknames might be helpful? Because that really doesn't sound healthy for you or your daughter and I'm sure there are plenty of people here who could offer advice. Smile

Only1scoop · 12/04/2016 22:36

Whois

I remember a girl at school called Sarah Louise we used to call her Sar etc....

Her mum told her not to reply to anything but the whole ensemble....

I always chuckle when I hear similar now

BertrandRussell · 12/04/2016 22:38

Oh for goodness sake!

BackInTheRealWorld · 12/04/2016 22:39

Does your daughter actually mind? It's her name not yours.and yeah, yabu.

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Amy214 · 12/04/2016 22:40

I dont even know where to begin with asking for advice on that situation.

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BackInTheRealWorld · 12/04/2016 22:41

She is SCREAMING at the hint of being alone wIt's him and you have the arse over z nickname?

Ffs. Worraloadashite.