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AIBU?

To dislike nicknames?

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Amy214 · 12/04/2016 21:51

I dont like nicknames, never had one myself and have never called anyone by their nickname. I just dont like them. Anyway recently dds dad has been calling her soph, instead of her full real name sophie. I just think her name is too nice to be shortened to soph and her gran has started calling her sophie bubbles? I havent said anything as its what they want but its annoying. Is it unreasonable to ask if they just call her sophie?

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Amy214 · 12/04/2016 22:41

She doesnt answer to it, she honestly just frowns at them a really horrible frown. But they think its hilarious

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 12/04/2016 22:43

Start a thread, outline your problem and people will come flocking I don't personally don't have any experience of your situation but have seen plenty of people post here in similar situations and so many posters are there to offer advice and support.

corythatwas · 12/04/2016 22:46

There are two separate issues here:

your dd's father does not have a good relationship to her- this is sad and must be very upsetting for both her and you

and

as your dd grows you will not be able to control what other people call her: she will have to form separate relationship with relatives and friends and negotiate those things on her own

Alisvolatpropiis · 12/04/2016 22:59

Um...how old is your daughter? Just a bit about the screaming and crying when you're not there unless she's actually a baby?

Yanbu to not like people shortening her name but you're totally deluded if you think you can stop them.

Bert is Sophie a diminutive? I thought it was just a variant (French) form of Sophia, so not a nickname.

Amy214 · 12/04/2016 23:28

Shes not a baby it does get a bit upsetting to see her double breathing, but she does express her dislike by frowning. I dont tell them to stop i keep it to myself i know i cant control it

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Only1scoop · 12/04/2016 23:29

Does she know you don't like the Nn thing.

You keep referring to her frowning.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 12/04/2016 23:38

I think you sound a bit stuffy and uppity to be honest. I can guarantee its highly likely her friends will be calling her Soph.

Amy214 · 12/04/2016 23:53

No i dont say anything to her i dont talk about it i have kept it to myself. I am far from a 'snob' we live in a rubbish part of town drunks drug addicts etc.. And if her friends call her it when shes older it'll be up to her whether or not she tells them no. I just grin and bear it

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EmmaWoodlouse · 16/04/2016 11:09

YANBU to have a preference for what your own DD should be called, as long as she isn't old enough to have an opinion of her own (and when she does, I think you should repsect it). However this:

and have never called anyone by their nickname

seems unreasonable to me. If by nickname you mean short form of their name, some people really dislike being called by the long form and I don't think it's up to you to decide they have to be.

MrsJayy · 16/04/2016 11:15

I have a very long name its shortened 3 ways mum hated it think vicky for victoria (not real name) I dont mind really but my mum would go mad i guess you just like her full name but the short version is just an endearment really.

QueenArseClangers · 16/04/2016 11:25

Start a thread on the Relationships board OP.
Lots of help there that'll be tailored to your situation

MrsBobDylan · 16/04/2016 11:42

How old is your daughter? .

I think you need to forget about the nickname thing which sounds as harmless as it is irrelevant and concentrate on your DD reaction to being left along with her dad.

Alisvolatpropiis · 16/04/2016 12:14

Does your daughter have additional needs?

I'm really struggling to get my head around you being more concerned about people calling her "Soph" than her reaction to being left alone with her father.

wheresthel1ght · 16/04/2016 18:47

My mum chose a name for me that she bought no one could shorten. She was wrong!

Her peers will shorten it - I think judging by the comments about her dad you have it really upside down over what is important

BlueJug · 16/04/2016 19:10

How old is she - this is relevant

Medusacascade · 16/04/2016 19:51

I use lots of different names for my children. Sometimes it's easier to use a quick shortening when trying to get attention quickly. Learned quite quickly I can't do that with dd - Astrid.

Pixienott0005 · 18/04/2016 12:03

Nicknames can be endearing. But they also do my nut in. When DS was born a couple of family members decided to call him T. His name is Thomas. He was a week old and people were doing it is is so rude!

Amy214 · 18/04/2016 21:46

I have tried to sort things out with him but even when i do take her to see hin hes always interested in something else mainly his phone or car, she never gets left alone because of her reaction (ok i use the toilet even if i try and take her with me they say she'll be ok and to trust them) i have limited contact as much as i can, hes only seen her once in the last month and im going to try and keep it that way, dd seems a lot happier shes settled into playgroup and into her new toddler bed (only took 3 nights to get used to, bit surprised) i dont call people by there nickname if it isnt related to there name at all (someone i know is called mark but gets called smokey and he doesnt even smoke ) he never minded me calling him by his real name and actually preferred it. I am waiting for the 'if shes fine at playgroup just let me take her' speech. Shes 2 and understands a lot of sign (my mum is profoundly deaf so it helps there communication) she signs and talks at the same time

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