AIBU to want dp to look after himself?

[PeppasNanna]

Dp is massively over weight. I don't know by how much. His XXXL are now getting tight.

Im a size 10. None of the dc ate overweight.

We eat fairly well as a family. Hes lazy & eats take aways at any given opportunity. He also eats a ridiculous amount of chocolate.

His job is driving so sits all day. Does no exercise. Won't come out to the park or for a walk with the dc & I.

Hes a walking heart attack/stroke.

AIBU in expecting him to look after himself? 4 dc. Youngest is 2. Hes 48...

For me living with a dh who is so unhealthy would be a massive concern. Concern about the future and the effect on the kids. I would issue an ultimatum. Give him 3 months to make some changes. Not only changing his weight but his general attitude and laziness. A kick up the arse might be what he needs to re-focus.

I could've basically written your post. Don't get me wrong i'm hardly the image of fitness but i'm working on it - at slimming world, and i'm 13 stone so not massively massively overweight but I could certainly afford to lose a couple of stone. DP, on the other hand, will never be tiny as he's 6ft 4 and very broad shouldered, but he was 15 stone when I met him, wearing L/XL clothes and he was healthy at that weight. He's now pushing 22st, wearing XXL clothes, and he's just had to buy a new suit this week in a 44" trouser and a 52" jacket. He says he wants to lose weight and eats the same meals as me but his job involves sitting in an office all day and it's all the extras he puts in when we shop - crisps, chocolate etc. I respect him too much as an adult to tell him 'no you can't have them, put them back', and I don't want to be his mother, but it's really tough when you're worried about their health and the future. Nothing overly constructive to add but I feel you OP!