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AIBU these neighbours are complete parking wankers.

42 replies

lalalalyra · 06/04/2016 19:05

My relative was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. She's only in her late 40's and it had been assumed that it was a kidney infection that hadn't cleared up. The expectation was that she had a kidney stone or something else that was more serious, but kidney cancer that had already spread into lungs and lymph nodes wasn't at all what was expected.

She's very unwell. The Pazopanib meds have knocked her quite a lot. As has the diagnosis as well. She's using a wheelchair part of the time already because she has zero energy, a walking stick the rest of the time for balance. All in all pretty shit.

She lives in a row of four houses. There is four parking spaces outside and extra cars have to park at the end of the road. It's quite a walk. Two of the neighbours have said that while she waits for her blue badge and a space (she's been given PIP under the special rules as she's expected to die within the next 6 months) they'll leave the space outside her door empty. They've also been doing little things like taking the bin out to just save her husband a wee job.

The neighbour next to her, who have since they moved in parked 1 car in the spaces and 1 at the end of the road (basically like everyone else) have decided to ignore the the decision made by the other neighbours because "they pay road tax" so they are entitled to park.

I get that they can do so if they wish legally, but last night rather than be able to walk from the car to her house she had to be pushed in the wheelchair the 500m from the end of the road. She can't go herself as she needs a hand on the steps as she's a bit wobbly and it would have meant leaving her car in the middle of the road to help her.

They know everything that's going on. They've seen her (she's lost around 5 stone in a month or so - she is very, very obviously ill). And yet they've decided to be that awkward. She won't let her husband or anyone else say anything to them because she doesn't want any trouble. I just think they are utterly shit neighbours. It's 500m. It makes hardly any difference to them, but it's a huge thing for her.

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lalalalyra · 06/04/2016 19:07

*It's quite a walk for her.

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Laidbackorlazy · 06/04/2016 19:08

They sound like arseholes of the highest order. Hopefully the other neighbours can shame them into it without it being an extra stress for your relative or her dh.
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UpsiLondoes · 06/04/2016 19:08

They are shite. And all of their neighbours will now know just how absolutely shite they are. Good luck getting any of their packages signed again.

SquinkiesRule · 06/04/2016 19:09

What wankers, the nice neighbors should say something to them. Put the pressure on that way. Poor woman hasn't got long left and they want to make it worse by having a parking war. Idiots.

MakeItRain · 06/04/2016 19:10

Have they actually been asked directly about it? If so, then yes, that's really mean. Flowers

RudeElf · 06/04/2016 19:12

Tell her to put chairs/wheelies bins/cones out to block their space while they are out. Only an absolute scumbag would think it ok to move them and park there.

Marynary · 06/04/2016 19:15

Do they definitely know how ill your relative is? If so they are total twats.

iklboo · 06/04/2016 19:16

Paying road tax doesn't entitle them to a parking space. I hope they get infected arse boils & piles so itchy no amount of scratching will bring relief.

lalalalyra · 06/04/2016 19:19

I'm just so pissed off with them. I can't imagine being that heartless.

makeitrain Yes, they've been asked directly. The neighbour who had the idea put it to the other neighbours at the same time.

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wheresthel1ght · 06/04/2016 19:20

I would perhaps have a word with the nice neighbours and ask them to speak to cockwomble neighbour. Or start knocking on their door every time and ask them to move their car so she can be assisted.

Sorry about your awful news ThanksThanks

lalalalyra · 06/04/2016 19:23

Marynary Yes they know. I know 100% because I was the one who told them. My relative wanted it explained to them before the people come to put handrails on the steps and also because there was a bit of noise that weekend because we were taking down doors and moving furniture.

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eddielizzard · 06/04/2016 19:38

i would also have a word with nice neighbours. tell them she and her dh are so overwhelmed they're not up to the fight, but you're so upset on their behalf. perhaps they'd put in a word if they have the opportunity.

who are these heartless arseholes?

ghostyslovesheep · 06/04/2016 19:43

idiots - and 'Road Tax' isn't a thing!

they sound vile x

Vintage45 · 06/04/2016 19:45

Im so sorry for your pain.
Yes they are arseholes but to be fair 1 car isn't taking up a huge amount of space.

cosytoaster · 06/04/2016 19:46

YANBU - they should be ashamed of themselves

curlywurly4 · 06/04/2016 19:49

Wow what low life cunts. Hopefully they will be shamed into decency.

So sorry about your relative. Cancer is such a bloody horrible disease. It's heartbreaking to watch people suffer Thanks

LeiasBuns · 06/04/2016 19:50

YANBU. They are arseholes !

DancingDinosaur · 06/04/2016 19:50

Yes they are arseholes but to be fair 1 car isn't taking up a huge amount of space.

It is if its the space she needs outside her door.

lalalalyra · 06/04/2016 19:55

Vintage It's not taking up much space, but they are parking 2 cars. The unspoken rule, that even they've followed until now, is that the houses have 1 space each. They are now taking 2 spaces, and have chosen this time to do it.

It's like they are staking a claim on the "spare" space when she's not even dead yet (her husband doesn't drive).

The other neighbours have spoken to them. They've basically been told that the fourth person home should leave a space and they won't be leaving a specific space free.

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lalalalyra · 06/04/2016 19:57

I'm also now worried, as is her husband, that if they are this twatty about parking just now then what are the odds on them respecting the markings put in if the council agree to put in a disabled space for her?

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UpsiLondoes · 06/04/2016 19:59

Then you will just get the fuckers towed

Vintage45 · 06/04/2016 20:01

Then they are total arseholes OP. I just didn't get the "one" car thing. If the council does agree to a disabled place for her then give a call if this happens and get them ticketed. They won't do it again.

EweAreHere · 06/04/2016 20:01

What horrible, horrible people.

I hope karma bites them big time. Possibly in the form of slashed tyres.

lalalalyra · 06/04/2016 20:04

I'll make sure we have the number to report them.

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lalalalyra · 06/04/2016 20:07

Hit enter too soon!

I'll make sure we have that number I didn't know you could do that so thank you!

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