AIBU these neighbours are complete parking wankers.

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My relative was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. She's only in her late 40's and it had been assumed that it was a kidney infection that hadn't cleared up. The expectation was that she had a kidney stone or something else that was more serious, but kidney cancer that had already spread into lungs and lymph nodes wasn't at all what was expected.

She's very unwell. The Pazopanib meds have knocked her quite a lot. As has the diagnosis as well. She's using a wheelchair part of the time already because she has zero energy, a walking stick the rest of the time for balance. All in all pretty shit.

She lives in a row of four houses. There is four parking spaces outside and extra cars have to park at the end of the road. It's quite a walk. Two of the neighbours have said that while she waits for her blue badge and a space (she's been given PIP under the special rules as she's expected to die within the next 6 months) they'll leave the space outside her door empty. They've also been doing little things like taking the bin out to just save her husband a wee job.

The neighbour next to her, who have since they moved in parked 1 car in the spaces and 1 at the end of the road (basically like everyone else) have decided to ignore the the decision made by the other neighbours because "they pay road tax" so they are entitled to park.

I get that they can do so if they wish legally, but last night rather than be able to walk from the car to her house she had to be pushed in the wheelchair the 500m from the end of the road. She can't go herself as she needs a hand on the steps as she's a bit wobbly and it would have meant leaving her car in the middle of the road to help her.

They know everything that's going on. They've seen her (she's lost around 5 stone in a month or so - she is very, very obviously ill). And yet they've decided to be that awkward. She won't let her husband or anyone else say anything to them because she doesn't want any trouble. I just think they are utterly shit neighbours. It's 500m. It makes hardly any difference to them, but it's a huge thing for her.

Arseholes of the highest order, and I speak as someone with equally delightful neighbours who sound rather pleasant in comparison! and that is stretching it.
I agree with others, can you get nice neighbours to have a quite chat with arsey ones? Also. IIRC, once the markings are in place, I think you will have more clout with enforcing it.

Sorry about your news x

Speak to them personally. Maybe there's a reason they need to park there?

Maybe they don't 'get' it fully.

Hopefully that's the case.

If our next door neighbours was poorly and needed the space for a while is give up my drive so they can park there!

Are these houses owned or rented? Can't a sign be put up legally to say one space per house, or even paint the house numbers in the spaces, that might deter them. Ask the council if this is something they can do, explain the problems with the neighbours and see if they can do this faster than putting in a disabled space. Alternatively I would play them at their own game and block them in the space. Then when they come to ask to move say yes and then take your time to get out in the wheelchair, make a big fuss, do this every time they might soon get the message.

Surro They know the case fully. I know that because I spoke to them personally when we were banging about moving furniture before getting her home from hospital.

Also if they need the space then why not just say? Especially as they've only just starting "needing" 2 spaces. Until the neighbour said they were going to leave a space for my relative, arsehole neighbours were using 'their' space for one car and parking the other down the road. So unless they've both developed illness/disabilities in the past 3 weeks then they are just being wankers.

The more I think about it the more I think its about setting a pattern for when there are no cars at her house

Rhubarb The houses are owned, but the parking spaces are not. They are just spaces on the roadside. They are obviously meant for the houses as there is nothing else on the road. There are only four because of a bend in the road. The other spaces are a bit further along. Again only used by the houses because there's nothing else there.

The spaces don't legally belong to the houses which we know because someone abandoned a car there a couple of years ago and until the tax ran out there was nothing that could be done about it as anyone can legally park there (the police took the car away so think it turned out to be stolen or something).

Yanbu. total wankers

That's lowest of the low. Even my arsehole useless parking neighbours have, without being prompted, parked more considerately and leaving me a space while I am on crutches. Obviously I, and your friend, can't help if a random member of the public parks legally on the road, but the neighbours can do their bit to help out.

They are cunts.

In such awful circumstances, the kindness of others can make a huge difference.

I am so sorry to hear about your relative OP. Cancer is an absolute bastard

God I'M fuming and they're not even my neighbours. I'm afraid they'd be thinking twice as their car would just not be safe.
Initial ideas:
Wrap their car in that humongous clingfilmy stuff for packaging.
Send them a shit sandwich followed by a glitter envelope.
Twats.
for your friend.

I agree with an everyone else. Arse holes. People were really nice when my dad's cancer went terminal. Sadly he died before he could get a blue badge. Hope nothing happens to them.....

Thought I'd update (I meant to do it before). The neighbours have finally given in and asked for a return to the 'one space per house' agreement.

We had a week or so of the other neighbours and my relatives family and friends strategically parking their cars to ensure she always got to park (and sometimes leaving the arseholes no spaces to park at the front at all) before they knocked and said they would leave the space free. I think they also got wind of the fact the nice neighbour had made enquiries about if it was possible to have some sort of allocated parking or residents parking permit for those bays.

Apparently they didn't realise that she was 'already very sick'. Given they were told about the terminal diagnosis, the short timescale expected, and have seen her with both a walking stick and a wheelchair and can't have failed to notice how much weight she has lost I think that's utter bullshit, but as long as they don't cause her anymore grief that's the main thing.

Thank you for giving me somewhere to rant.

That's great news lala really glad all the other neighbours clubbed together to sort them out.

Someone other than neighbour/husband needs to have words. Got any big burly blokes who can go round? What a bunch of twats.

Great news. Reading your thread, I wanted to go round there and guard her parking space myself!

People are that's. When my uncle died a lot of relatives went from my nans house. Her Ndn kept a car outside his house that he rarely used. They were asked if for that morning they could move their cars as a lot of elderly relatives would be going to the funeral from nans house. The young son agreed but was embarrassed to tell us his father refused.

Utter fuckin' BASTARDS!

For you and your friend

There is a disabled parking space in my street and the disabled person rarely if ever gets to park in it. The Police were informed and even shown a car not registered to a family member in the space but they said it was a courtesy. I asked the police officer are you telling me that the people here are totally ill mannered half wits. He said that just about covers it. I wish I could arrange for all the people who park ignorantly to get the nastiest of diseases.
Glad your situation has come to a good conclusion re the parking but very sorry to hear of the poor lady's terrible health problem.