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Would you allow your DS (10) to post YouTube videos?

56 replies

GingerLeaves · 04/04/2016 21:21

DS wants to upload some videos, of him singing/dancing, etc.

I'm a bit on the fence about it...

If I control his channel/help him with everything, would it be okay?

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Sothisishowitfeels · 04/04/2016 21:24

I would as long as I was in control of the actual web side of it (my kids upload toy videos)

DragonMamma · 04/04/2016 21:26

My DD has been nagging to do similar. She's 8. I said she has to wait until she's at least 14.

I'm usually not weird about these things but it feels off to me.

Boogers · 04/04/2016 21:27

DS(12) has been posting videos on YouTube for a couple of years now, mainly of him playing FIFA and opening packs. It's all the rage apparently! Confused

If he's not giving personal information out and you're fully aware of what he's doing, including having an understanding that you can vet and veto anything you deem to be unsuitable, then it should be ok.

FlicFlop · 04/04/2016 21:28

I do.

If anything its taught them more about internet safety. They post videos of gameplay, mostly mine craft. They're very careful to hide any identifying information. Accounts are named as a username not their real names. No school uniform or family photos in the background. I disable comments and monitor what they upload.

ZorbaTheHoarder · 04/04/2016 21:29

I wouldn't. Comments on YouTube can get really personal and unpleasant. I think that if the clips are of him performing, he might be devastated to read what some people choose to write (about his looks, abilities, etc.).

That might make me sound really boring, but I would be very upset if my children put up videos of themselves and were then publicly insulted and mocked.

Isn't there an age restriction on YouTube accounts for that very reason?

BoboChic · 04/04/2016 21:29

Yes, it's fine. Frankly, any interest in technology is encouraged in our household. DD has already done a film making course and is going to do another this summer and so it would be somewhat odd not to allow her to develop her talents in her own time.

That1950sMum · 04/04/2016 21:29

No. No need for him to put himself out there. Get him to email Granny/Granddad/ Uncles/Aunties etc with his moves instead.

AppleSetsSail · 04/04/2016 21:30

My 13 year old uploads video he captures playing Lord of the Rings . Are you worried about unsavoury types contacting him?

dietcokeandwine · 04/04/2016 21:31

My 11yo has a YouTube account (carefully monitored - if it were just up to me tbh I'd have said no, because age guideline is 13, but DH felt it was ok if monitored, and he's generally my sensible techy guru so we went with it).

DS likes to post random videos (of him opening Pokemon cards etc - seriously riveting stuff Hmm). However, our rule is he's not allowed to post any videos where his face is visible.

So I'd say a tentative yes if you are helping / controlling/monitoring the account, but a no to any videos of him singing or dancing where he's clearly identifiable.

user7755 · 04/04/2016 21:31

Not a hope in hell.

Pippin8 · 04/04/2016 21:34

I wouldn't allow it. I've heard of too many kids doing this at primary school.

Then when they start secondary school other mean kids digging them up & using them to tease/bully them.

Awful.

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GingerLeaves · 04/04/2016 21:34

His face would be visible.

He's in a musical, so his face is actually on a couple of sites anyway.

Not sure if that would be a problem.

I don't think I'd ever let him use it himself, until 13.

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cantgonofurther · 04/04/2016 21:36

Yes, but turn of the comments . My dd uploaded videos of herself playing her musical instrument. You can even set the setting that the videos are not searchable so need a link to see them. (so I post the link on my facebook so family can see by clicking the link )

TheEntWife · 04/04/2016 21:39

Based on these replies I think I might be doing parenting wrong. Dd1 is 6 and has been making videos for about 3 months mostly of her doing art projects and making up narrative stories with her dolls she has begged me to let her upload them to a YouTube channel and I said she could. We were going to set it up this week.

littleblackno · 04/04/2016 21:40

No not at all. I'm a very liberal parent but I think they at that age they don't really understand the risks of strangers viewing their videos and what info they can/ cant share. They are certainly not able to cope with the comments left. Age restrictions are there for a reason. While I think it's important for kids now to learn about technology I also believe this still has to be done in an age appropriate way.

FithColumnist · 04/04/2016 21:43

No, I wouldn't. Legitimate concerns about predators aside, I would be rather more concerned avout him being bullied about them by his schoolmates, particularly given that he'll be going up to secondary soon. Kids can be vicious about this kind of thing.

OutrageousFlavourLikeFreesias · 04/04/2016 21:46

I would and I do, under the following conditions:

  • he doesn't show his face (he mostly posts videos of himself playing games - like most boys his age he idolises Stampy)
  • he doesn't have any of his friends in the videos unless we have horses-mouth permission from the parents
  • we do the uploads for him so we can check what he's sharing

He's not had any negative comments at all as mostly it's just his friends watching.

Mistigri · 04/04/2016 21:54

DD (14) has been posting videos of her music on YouTube for about 3 years now. They're on my channel and I have comments set to premoderation but there has never been an issue (and she has hundreds of views on some of them).

I'm curious what people think will happen?

icelollycraving · 04/04/2016 22:00

I absolutely wouldn't,no sorry.

longdiling · 04/04/2016 22:01

I don't allow 11 year old DD, no. I worry about bullying to be honest. She is very young compared to her peers and is very much not in the cool crowd at school. I can disable comments online but I know she'd want the account itself public enough so her friends and kids at school can see it. I'm not sure about it. She is my PFB though so I probably am over cautious with her.

totalrecall1 · 04/04/2016 22:15

absolutely no way. My eldest is 11 and still not allowed to post on YouTube, and I am usually a very liberal parent.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 04/04/2016 22:27

One of my kids does this and makes a lot of money doing so.

We do have an IT person who deals with the security side of things and have some very strict rules about what he can and can't say,
BUT what he does has very limited capacity for bullying I'm not sure how comfortable I would be with things that had a likelyhood of that

PrimalLass · 04/04/2016 23:34

Mine do. They are very boring Grin

Furiosa · 05/04/2016 00:17

No.

It doesn't matter if you disable the comments. Someone can download his video and re-upload again with comments active. It's a recipe for disaster.

By all means encourage his singing and dancing and make home movies for the family but don't put them on the internet. Especially if his face is visible.

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GingerLeaves · 05/04/2016 00:20

Actually, I don't like the thought of someone downloading it Hmm

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