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To wonder why people insist on posting about 'MN Royalty'?

511 replies

BIWI · 02/04/2016 20:37

Because it's always an insult.

But no-one is ever named.

If you do it, what do you mean? Why do you do it?

Does it ever cross your mind that long-standing, non-name-changing posters might be very hurt by your accusations?

If you're going to do it, have the courage of your convictions and name names.

OP posts:
MitzyLeFrouf · 03/04/2016 00:29

Yeah before she was 80 she had her shoulder to the coalface, slogging away.......

bolleauxnouveau · 03/04/2016 00:30

Just waiting for the mumsnet spinoff soap opera. wondering who plays each username.

paxillin · 03/04/2016 00:31

I dislike clique accusations. People meet on mn, some are on here for years. They form some sort of virtual friendships, some even meet in rl. I such posters meet on a thread, they should be able to acknowledge each other. This goes for rl, too. Why belittle other people's relationships like this?

bolleauxnouveau · 03/04/2016 00:33

Angelina jolie will play me obvs. 'Cos we are like twins innit.

BillSykesDog · 03/04/2016 00:35

I'm the Princess Di of Mumsnet. The incoming ingenue. Who secretly wants to destroy you all.

AlleyCatandRastaMouse · 03/04/2016 01:25

But I think for the majority of relatively new posters (I am on and off for 4 ish years which is still pretty recent comparatively) it is simply too big a site for 'royalty' at this stage. Lots of posters can operate completely oblivious
of 'cliques?' especially if they are not interested in it. I take most posters at face value for the opinion they express on a particular thread and I think most posters do the same. I do see a lot more trolls recently than I have ever seen before on here so while I would not see royalty as even a remote issue but trolls really are.

betsyderek · 03/04/2016 06:16

I don't think it's a bad thing. There are 2 or 3 posters who jump into every thread in the first few posts. They aren't necessarily nasty although there are a few years but I do wonder why they don't go out and do anything else. I assume they need MN more than most people for their own reasons.

LarrytheCucumber · 03/04/2016 06:57

This is all completely over my headConfused.
I think I'll hide this thread.

ihatethecold · 03/04/2016 07:18

I don't think it's a bad thing. There are 2 or 3 posters who jump into every thread in the first few posts. They aren't necessarily nasty although there are a few years but I do wonder why they don't go out and do anything else. I assume they need MN more than most people for their own reasons.

This ^

I often wonder how they have the time to be so prolific.

Are they retired?

Throwingshadeagain · 03/04/2016 08:30

Why so snarky you ask BIWI?

Well because these threads are toe curling. 'Have the courage of your convictions and name names' you cry!

As I said upthread this is not the Hunger Games (alluding to your long winded, serious account of the Moldies), nor is it Mallory Towers with little girls and their squad goals. This is just a chat site, it's really not important. If you make friends on here - fabulous, that's great. But if you start to believe it's some kind parallel society and that posters reputations and hearts are being ripped out by being called 'royalty' which they love really it's time to take careful side steps away from your laptop. These threads are started every week or two - WTF!

I don't think it's a bad thing. There are 2 or 3 posters who jump into every thread in the first few posts. They aren't necessarily nasty although there are a few years but I do wonder why they don't go out and do anything else. I assume they need MN more than most people for their own reasons.

I also agree with this ^ though not particularly in relevance to the thread. I'm gobsmacked at the amount of time some people spend on here.

Sparklingbrook · 03/04/2016 08:43

People who namechange every 5 minutes could spend all their time on MN you just wouldn't know.....

Plus you can MN from outside the house too Shock

OnYerBikePan · 03/04/2016 09:01

Throwing - I agree with lots you say but...it is quite an important site to many people who have particular needs and/or at specific points in time. So I'm thinking of bereavement threads, dealing with SN children and adults, property and DIY section, cats and dogs, life limiting illness and lots of health-related sections.

So it's more than just a 'Chat Site' to many people, and overall to those who are otherwise socially isolated in RL.

So you're being a bit harsh, I think. Though I get completely that some posters seem to be on here 24/7 and it invites one to do the head-tilt thing and wonder whatever is going on in their RL.

OnYerBikePan · 03/04/2016 09:04

fwiw I used to be accused of being MN royalty tho' I think that was partly because there were very few blokes on MN at the time. Now I'm just the embarrassing relative wandering round the grounds who looks in at the window of the palace before retiring back to the summer house.

Throwingshadeagain · 03/04/2016 09:10

OnYerBike yes I agree, and I did think about that before I posted. Relationship board, SN board and others can be a lifeline. But I think that is a whole world away from the squad goals of AIBU and these ludicrous threads with faux hand wringing over the 'royal' posters' hurt feelings. 'Royals' are predominantly mentioned on AIBU so it's really about this board. It's just so silly and embarrassing.

OnYerBikePan · 03/04/2016 09:14

Think we're saying the same thing, aren't we?
Prior to MN, if some minor incident happened on a bus, for instance, one would just deal with it in some way etc. Now it's topic for a 500 post discussion, where hours and hours of person time is spent unpicking it and squabbling. Rather pathetic, I judge. Smile

Conniedescending · 03/04/2016 09:15

GrinGrinHmm at people claiming to be royalty! That all ended with Moldies. Before this the site was quite different and there was a lot of sycophantic behaviour. As the founder of the phrase I do indeed have a list of who it was but the site is too big now

HapShawl · 03/04/2016 09:15

What does "squad goals" mean?

Sparklingbrook · 03/04/2016 09:17

No idea Hap but i am guessing that's a sly dig too.

usual · 03/04/2016 09:18

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hettyGreek · 03/04/2016 09:21

MNHQ often just act on reports. They have deleted things before that they think read fine.

I've seen long standing posters say snide nasty things that everyone lets slide. If someone else said them they will pile in, chance sentiment and get it deleted.

OnYerBikePan · 03/04/2016 09:22

squad goals - I know what it means and Throwing was using it in a satirical fashion. Which I liked.

Sparklingbrook · 03/04/2016 09:24

Please explain OnYer.

usual · 03/04/2016 09:26

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Throwingshadeagain · 03/04/2016 09:27

Oh sorry 'squad goals' means 'friendship group aspirations' among the yoofs. I have three teenage daughters so I obviously think it's a more mainstream expression than it is!

HoneyDragon · 03/04/2016 09:28

It absolutely is meant as an insult

If you call someone "Royalty" you are saying that they think they are better than other people

Not that you think they are better, but that they think they are better

Oh I absolutely need to be called royalty more often then. I'm quite content with my huge superiority complex and ego the size of Hampshire.