I mean, really?! *warning: first world problem*

[LittleLionMansMummy]

I have resorted to this. The whole pile can stay there until dh moves it. What is so difficult about putting dishes in a dishwasher, rather than stacking them beside the sink for me to do it?

The dishwasher is currently empty, it is not full of clean or dirty dishes, so that can't be used as an excuse.

Note - I am pregnant, so may be overreacting. But in my defence this happens all the bloody time.

Much simpler to kill him.

That is profoundly stupid. Why put dishes next to the dishwasher, rather than actually inside it?!

Drives me nuts i am often roaring like a loon at my lot to put stuff in or maybe empty the dishwasher so there is no dishes

We have a rule in our house. Kitchen surface has to be completely clear before we go to bed.

Loving your note btw just leave it is it laminated

YANBU

I know for 100000% sure this would happen in our house if we ever had a dish washer. It's the main reason why i don't want one.

I left a really rude not above the dishwasher once . It was for my DH and older DC.
Unfortunately my cleaner scribbled sorry on it as she thought it was for her. I felt awful.
She did see the funny side when I apologised.

My note would have been a lot less polite than that and more to the point.

But then I can't complain, I'm the lazy twat that doesn't put things the dishwasher in this house

I hate this. Every morning dh gets up from the table, walks PAST the dishwasher and wanders off to do whatever. It gives me the rage. The only reason he survives is that he is very good at bringing in coal and wood for the fire from the place formerly known as the shed, know known as the home of the great big hairy what the fuck is that! spider

Yep, my note - currently unlaminated. I got downstairs, saw there was no bread left for a slice of toast, turned around and saw this pile! I was raging.

So, should I LTB?

I tell my kids to put stuff in the dishwasher after every meal. They are 13 and 10, how many times must I have said it?
Tbf the 13yo pretty consistently does, but the 10yo?
Is there a dishwasher fairy? No - he has to come back and do it. So why not do it when you take them there in the first place!

And as for emptying it when it's been on and finished and they have breakfast dishes to put in.

Argggghhh

Ds1 gets up first and empties the dw everyday. Then he gets to fiddle with his phone for a while before school. (not allowed in bedrooms) Who says gadgets are all bad

Oh yes, emptying it is another matter entirely. I've tried leaving it but the dirty dishes continue to stack up beside the sink because the dishwasher is still full and he can't be arsed to empty it first.

It infuriates me because he's not usually a useless prick when it comes to housework but he's seemingly completely deaf on this subject.

My DH does this and then infuriatingly claims he doesn't. I think he forgets, genuinely believes he's done it and is validated by the fact that they are always gone by the time he goes back in the kitchen (I put stuff in every time I walk past...)
It's infuriating but it is better than doing the washing up myself so to the poster with no dishwasher don't be put off!

Dried in weetabix could build houses

Get him to read the blog 'my wife left me because I left my dishes by the (google it). It might do the trick.

YANBU Sadly your note will only work for a short time before the family get a sort of notice blindness. I tried to train my family with notes many years ago. Success was short lived.

by the sink

God, my DP does this too! I've started saying "the dishwasher's empty/dirty now" as if I'm doing him a favour, but honestly! We leave ours open so he can SEE it's possible.

What is it about the way we (as a society) raise boys that they can't cope with things like this?

My mum has always refused to have a dishwasher. My gran had a very early one in the 1960s. Prior to that, the washing up was the only "housework" the men in that very working class northern family of it's time ever did. After the arrival of the dw, they didn't even do that. Were apparently unable to learn how to load it so things came clean (which wasn't easy as I recall)

Anyway, mum wasn't going to make that mistake..

fortified I have a two-pronged approach to deal with that. First, I have posted it to his Facebook news feed. Second, I have posted here to enable him to comprehend the stupidity of his actions. My theory is that I can humiliate him into putting the fucking dishes in the dishwasher.

Capriniha your cleaner thinking the note was for her reminded me of one time my mum was having a party for her bible study group. She set out a brand new bar of soap and new fluffy white hand towel in the downstairs loo. She didn't want us kids messing them up after getting filthy in the garden before guests arrived so she put a note next to them stating "Don't you DARE touch these! "
At the end of the evening after guests had gone she realised the note was still there ... and the guests had obediently left both soap and towel untouched.