To find my family a bit common and embarrassing

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Or am I just pretentious?

They love the cakes at pat Valarie and go on about them. When I think these are vile made off site factory cakes that are frozen.

They played the sam smith album and went on about how good his voice is and all that. Sounds like music for people that dont like music IMO.

They are wolfing down cadburys chocolate saying how delicious it is. Over sweet waxy stuff - give me Mr Roth any day.

I just don't feel on the same level as them. Really average lives and I just have nothing in common with them.

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Goldblend yes of course. Cheap chicken oooooo nooo

OP have you considered booking a trip to Maui?

It's not at all funny, unless you have a thing for first time goady threads/

Velvet I've gotta say, the chicken from Iceland is grim. And I am by no means well off- quite the opposite. I once had a frozen ready meal from there with chicken in it and the chicken in it and the chicken was rank.

Agree re Ritz. I think Claridge's is better

Fuck sake I messed up there,

*and the chicken in it was rank.

Ignore the the extra "and the chicken".

Exactly Buzzard.

I don't think I've bought meat, or even poultry there, but you get what I meant.

Whenever Iceland is mentioned i think of their fab Cider ice Lollies and that hilarious thread one Christmas about the Baileys Dessert not being up to scratch.

Its OK OP, they probably think your a cunt. I know what id prefer

Hahahahaha

Oh wait.

You're serious?

I don't think you know what "common" means

Your family dont sound 'common' but i dont think you are unreasonable to feel a certain way about them.
I am kind of embarrassed by my family, when they get together they will scream and shout in the street or like my cousins kids went in a neighbors garden without asking to get her cat after banging down the ladies door and she was an old woman. It made me cringe how my cousin did not say how wrong that is and her little girl runs in the street naked shes two.
Or my cousins will sit there and talk bad about someone in their face and do it to me to try get me involved.
Certain members of my family lack manners or respect for others.
Your family dont sound bad though with you its more different taste in things.

It's really quite usual for tastes to evolve away from those of one's family when one grows up, moves away and encounters other people and places. And, yes, sometimes one's family can be embarrassing!

I don't even know what Patisserie Valerie is but I'm from Hull and we are all common here....

Whenever Iceland is mentioned I'm always envious, a friend lives there and I love the place.

I think it's perfectly fine to feel you have outgrown your family a bit, most people do I think. I assume you have gone out into the world and made your own life that you are happy with, surrounded by friends that share your values? If so, maybe just accept that in some respects you are different to your family, and then start appreciating them for what you do like about them.

I thought pat val was a posh place too .. Dh and myself thought we were treating ourselves on a recent visit there 😆

Both our families find DH and me poncy and snigger about us for our fancy Dan ways.

We rise above it.

Patisserie Valerie is a chain now? I used to go there when it was a patisserie, in Soho. They made me a disappointing birthday cake once, though.

OP approached this thread all wrong. If she'd asked "Am I middle class?" it would have been a seething torrent of brand names & snobbery

Patisserie Valerie sounds like a posh café in the centre of Paris.

I might ask my DD, as she is living there until mid May.

What a hilarious thread. Has to be a wind up surely. Nobody could be serious about that?? Could they???

Anyway, I am common as muck and proud of myself.

Your OP is full of SPAG errors and you are a twat

What strikes me about your post OP is how very rude and judgemental you sound in it. I have no idea if you really are those things but that's how I perceive your post.
I've been lucky enough to have afternoon teas at the Ritz, Claridges and most recently the Shard. They were lovely. However when my children presented me with a slice of cake in a box from Valerie Patisserie after a recent 20 mile road race, I was equally delighted and it was delicious. My mum (who you would consider super common) buys me a Cadbury buttons egg every year (I'm 40) and I'm thrilled she never forgets or deviates from this tradition.
I suppose what I'm trying to say is that your views on "popularist" things do seem very unreasonable and I suspect you'd enjoy life a little more if you gave them up.

I hope you realise that family can be gold when you have a problem nobody else can help,you with but I don't think yours will want to know you. You sound like the worst kind of snob with no time for others. Everybody is different.

I am common as muck and proud of myself.

It's nothing to be proud of, and nothing to be ashamed of, either. It just is.

I don't go in Pat Val any more. They used to do a smashing custard tart with cherries, but it's gone downhill. I would go in Iceland, but where I live is far too posh to have one. I even have to take the bus to Lidl.

' I just have nothing in common with them.' You are related to them and that is what you have in common.

Unless they are force feeding you cakes and chocolates and making you listen to Sam Smith YABU! I am not sure who you are feeling embarrassed in front of? Arte family members coming to local town square, eating those eggs and cakes and telling everyone they are related to you, if yes, YANBU!

Those cakes look lovely... www.patisserie-valerie.co.uk/

If you need your family, are they there for you, are you there for them? That's the real question......