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Aibu to be worried about where my daughter is.

169 replies

Moxiechick · 25/03/2016 20:24

My ex has taken our dd who is 2 to a museum for the day. He mentioned yesterday that he was going to introduce her to the woman he is seeing.
He picked her up at 1 this afternoon and it takes roughly an hour to get there on the tube. I asked what time he'd bring her back and he answered 'dunno it closes at 5'. I checked and it closes at 5.50 so tried to guess what time they'd get back. He has form for not being able to give times when having her. So I just asked him to text me when they were on their way back.
I text him at 18:30 to ask if he knew what time they'd be back and he hasn't been online to read it which I get as he could be on the tube. I've called since then and it just says this phone is unavailable.
I'm sat here really worried as I have no idea where she is and when she'll be back. Maybe I'm being pfb please be gentle with me if you think so.
I've just been thinking how long do I leave it? And what do I do when that time comes?
He's on the birth certificate and had never not returned her before but has form for lateness.

OP posts:
beatendown · 25/03/2016 22:06

Glad she's back. Unless he had a VERY good reason I would be asking for set times from now.

LaConnerie · 25/03/2016 22:06

I am so happy to hear that op 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷

FlowersAndShit · 25/03/2016 22:06

So glad she's back!

Clarathemagnificent · 25/03/2016 22:07

Glad shes back. Unless he has good reason I would be withdrawing contact until set dates and times are in place.

BumWad · 25/03/2016 22:08

Bet she's knackered! Glad she's bacj

HeffalumpHistory · 25/03/2016 22:08

So glad she's back with you!

Lunar1 · 25/03/2016 22:09

So glad she's back.

bornwithaplasticspoon · 25/03/2016 22:09

So glad she's home. I hope he had a bloody good explanation.

Birthgeek · 25/03/2016 22:10

Phew. Ffs tho - he's blown it.

originalusernamefail · 25/03/2016 22:10

Glad she is home, you must have been frantic!

backwardpossom · 25/03/2016 22:10

Oh thank goodness!

Wineisfinebyme · 25/03/2016 22:11

Thank god she's back with you

ThedementedPenguin · 25/03/2016 22:11

Can't believe it. Hopefully there's a genuine reason he's this late but doubt it

Friendlystories · 25/03/2016 22:11

So relieved for you, glad she's back safe.

Wishfulmakeupping · 25/03/2016 22:13

So glad she's back you must have been worried sick. Take time to get your head straight then put plans in place to stop him doing this to either of you again not fair on you or your dd.

LagunaBubbles · 25/03/2016 22:15

Glad she's back!

MaizymousE · 25/03/2016 22:16

So happy to read she is back home xxWine

Thornrose · 25/03/2016 22:16

Oh bless!

GlitteryFluff · 25/03/2016 22:23

Glad she's back op. X

Obliviated · 25/03/2016 22:23

Glad she's back safely.

If you logged this with 101 could you use it to get a prohibited steps order? My ex used to threaten not to return the Dc and I spoke to a solicitor about it. The order meant that the Dc had to be returned to my care etc. Might be worth looking into until you have some sort of formal contact set up.

timelytess · 25/03/2016 22:26

Thank goodness she's home safe.

rosieliveson1 · 25/03/2016 22:29

Poor girl :(

Lolimax · 25/03/2016 22:30

Glad she's back, waiting to hear his excuse! Hope you're ok.

SalemSaberhagen · 25/03/2016 22:32

I read the first page and then skipped to the last...so glad to hear she is home.

Teddy1970 · 25/03/2016 22:34

So glad she's home OP, I bet you were worried sick x