We have a wedding at the beginning of June. It is my DH friends (I know the majority of people though) and I am looking forward to it (not the cost however). Anyway last night we ended up having an argument about something unrelated and it somehow turned round to the fact that I was going to embarrass him at the wedding because I am fat. He pointed out he wanted to lose weight (we both acknowledge we are overweight) and I hadn't made any effort to help him or do the same and said that all the other DW and GF will have been making an effort to lose weight as it's what women do and everyone was basically going to look at me like I was a ugly whale in a dress.
I know I'm fat, I wish I wasn't and I go through phases where I do try to lose weight, but it is so hard and I am an emotional eater so when I get down I eat.
I was so hurt and taken aback at this comment I did say that I would just feign illness if he felt his friends were so shallow that they could not accept me as I am. I know I look shit next to the skinny girl, I look hideous due to my thunder thighs and fat feet that don't fit in shoes properly. This is not unknown to me, being fat makes me conscious of how every outfit looks and sits. I know part of this is down to the fact he is self conscious at the fact he is fat too. I did point out to him that if he wanted to lose weight, why was that dependent on me making the first step, he is a big boy and could do it on his own.
I've not said anything further as I don't want to show how much this has actually hurt me and I feel even worse for eating a full packet of cookies, knowing this doesn't help. I'm prepared for the inevitable LTB comments, but this was out of the blue. I know he has no right to say that to me even if he is projecting his own feelings. I've just gone from looking forward to a nice day out, to wanting nothing to do with it. Doesn't help that the bride is a size 6/8, almost 6ft tall could be model.....