Would you be offended by this - alcohol / chainstore related

[JustAnotherOP]

Most mornings I do a shop for the day / week. I always pick up a bottle of wine or a few beers along the way.

This morning I went to the chainstore (my local), to buy wine. Later today I went back to pick up a few more bottles. The cashier that served me in the morning was standing next to the cashier that was serving me later today. She told her that I was most likely drunk and they called their manager to decide what to do. I was eventually served and left but I asked the manager why her colleague had deemed me drunk. She didn't have an answer. I do look very young so being ID'd is not my concern but whispering among themselves that I'm drunk has really put my hackles up.

I know people will probably jump on me for projecting/reading too much into it or whatever.

But I swear op's posts could have been written by my ex or my mil/fil.

They all follow the same pattern of reassurance/ inconsistency with the facts/ denial and anger don't they?

I never used to believe in 'scripts' but I'm wondering after this thread...

OP you still haven't answered any of the questions about contradictory statements you have made in many of your posts.

As GooseberryRoolz says, the cashier specifically flagged up that the OP was (in her view) drunk. Not that she'd bought too much booze. This is pretty unusual, and why people are asking more questions. The weirdly inconsistent replies are provoking more confusion.

How often do you get mistaken for being drunk too drunk to even serve when you're absolutely sober? I would think it's only really going to happen if you're having some sort of emergency (distressed, incoherent) or someone's misunderstood your medical condition (diabetes, for one).

I can't imagine any 'jumped up cashier'* is really going to risk all the aggro of a refusal, manager being called, etc, simply because it's the second bottle of wine you've bought that day.

(*This is something one of the less sympathetic Jilly Cooper characters would say; probably someone traying fraightfully hard to seem socially superior, but invariably making a tit of herself.)

Well it was rude of the cashier to discuss you being drunk when you were standing there. I would be offended by that if I hadn't been drinking. But had you been drinking?

Did they actually say that you were most likely drunk? Have you ever been in there drunk or after drinking before? It seems a strange thing to say if they had no reason to think you were. If they genuinely had no reason to think that then I would take my business elsewhere after making a complaint.

OP the inconsistencies in your posts ring alarm bells for me too. Wine drunk whilst you're cooking is still alcohol. You seem to doing a weekly shop daily. You don't drink most days because of the DC but you want to cut down.

You may not have a problem at all and you may have been completely sober. But then again a cashier said she thought you were drunk and you are inconsistent in what you're saying. If you have a problem, please tackle it now. Trust me, it won't get easier and alcoholism is devastating for families.

And yes, you can smell people who drink a lot no matter how much they wash. It's quite distinctive.

So is it daily or weekly that you buy wine?

And why did the cashier think you were drunk? They said it right in front of you, which suggests they believed it to be the case.

Don't think the op will be back to answers our questions. I guess she doesn't know why she drinks everyday whilst cooking and eating but at the same time hardly drinks at all. I would be confused too if I found myself drinking daily even though I hardly drank.
The only logical conclusion is that she only counts at least a bottle at a time as actually having a drink. Single glasses don't count? Is it a bit like hardly eating cake if you only have a slice a day but it's only at the weekend that you eat an entire cake of two in one sitting?

I love it when I go shopping on a Friday and buy stocks ......
"Are you having a party?"

"Nope it's Friday and I've got 3 kids"

My colleague was refused a bottle of wine in a small supermarket on grounds of being "drunk" a couple of months ago. He has Parkinson's and doesn't drink at all due to medication, the wine was for his wife. The poor man was mortified as he's very self-conscious about tremors and his medication making his speech "thick" when he's tired. That said, he was gracious about the fact the cashier was just doing her job. (His wife had to buy her own wine though.)

It is illegal to sell alcohol to drunk people. Had you been drunk they risked having the shop fined and possibly losing its license. So while they shouldn't be rude it is reasonable for them to ask the question.

Buttons that reminds me of an alcoholic I used to work with. She told me not to worry if I was still counting my alcohol consumption in glasses but to worry if I started counting in bottles.

I've bought alcohol after having a few drinks a fair few times and not once has the cashier refused me. So either I hold my alcohol extremely well indeed or the op was noticeably drunk. Either way, sounds like she'd been drinking.

Having been a cashier, I can assure the doubters that very few enjoy having to call a manager to deal with an awkward situation and presumably fairly narked customer. Those that do enjoy winding up customers don't tend to remain in customer facing roles very long.

Wish shops would do that with chocolate

'No madam no more chocolate , looks like you've had enough '

Save a fortune on diet fads

Or if the automated tills came up with suggestions such as "wouldn't you prefer a bag of apples?"

Chocolate purchases to be authorised only if you are under a certain weight.

How much the OP drinks is not the issue. She was judged because she had bought alcohol twice from the same store in one day.

How do you know, Scooterloo? It's actually highly unlikely that that was the sole reason - shops are perfectly used to people coming back to make a repeat purchase, e.g. if they realise they haven't bought enough. I can remember buying booze for the second time in a day when I forgot that I needed something to take to a party I was going to, and no-one batted an eyelid. It's much more likely that something about OP's conduct made the staff think she was drunk.

I wish OP would come back and explain that bit about having just got off the phone from the shop's manager.

Why not just buy your booze online and get it delivered? Probably barely any more expensive, saves you having to carry it back, and you can get as sloshed as you like without cashiers having to decide if you are pissed or not.

My neighbours judge me for doing that, I heard them, but I also have too many pairs of shoes and give DD her dinner too late, oh, and also should keep my back door shut.
I call it small town, small minded living.

Omg I can't read that blue on purple bar in the customise section. How silly is that colour choice.

gah, wrong thread. Maybe I'm drunk