Aibu to ask my partner not to wear this?

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My partner has several items of clothing that him and ex have matching items T-shirts, shorts ect Embroidered or printed relating to various stages in their relationship / Wedding day. I have no issue with him keeping stuff like this. I understand it's a period in both of our lives you cannot just forget.
I myself have a wedding dress at my mothers as well as a couple of wedding gifts which are personalised but have chosen to keep there until I decide what to do.

When we moved in I put them all at the back of the wardrobe neatly when I sorted all our clothes and he questioned where they had gone, I said that where they were and why (I did it basically because I didn't expect him to want to wear them but he obviously does). I know all about the reasons behind them and the backstories he couldn't help telling me and it's made it worse for me when he wears them.

Aibu to politely ask him not to wear these things?

I was only half joking NeedsA. It must be great to be your own boss and able to hire people who can bring out the best in you, I'd need a whole army of employees to compensate for all my insecurities and anxieties

Agent, if I have Stringfellow-related nightmares tonight, I shall be holding you responsible. (I need a Paddington hard-stare icon.)

This thread is making me glad I'm single...

I accept that responsibility EBear, and offer a thousand apologies in return.

Ah, now I've compromised my internet history looked, he's actually wearing a thong rather than speedos.

I've made things worse haven't I?

Fortunately, I don't remember having any dreams at last night. And images don't show large enough to see what they are.

Anyway, this thread is about the OP's DH wearing clothes associated with his first marriage, and we're waiting for the disturbing photos from that, not disturbing photos of Stringfellow. And if the OP's husband is Peter Stringfellow, then what he's wearing probably isn't the main concern.

Embroidered matchy matchy naffness is not the point, however much people want pictures.
Stamping your foot because the OP hasn't posted photos is missing the point spectacularly.
OP, as you've said yourself you can't erase those years of your lives. But you can put them in the past where they belong and live in the present and future with your new partner. He hasn't done this. He is still, I would have said, not over her, and he's not therefore fully invested in you or your relationship. For whatever reason they had those matchy clothes in the first place, the facts that
He's kept them
He's made sure you heard the stories behind them
He still wants to wear them
would would make me question whether you will ever have all of him as you deserve, or whether there will always be (to quote Princess Di) three of you in this relationship.

'Do they still make speedos?'

Yes, but we call them budgie smugglers over here.

These clothes are utterly hideous and you would not be unreasonable to ask him to burn them not wear them. The fact that he wants to is really weird and also if he tells you that YOU are weird for finding it odd then he's a minimiser and he still likes his ex.

Ffs op!! You're really leaving us hanging in the back of the wardrobe

Sorry I have been super busy and clingy dc's as well as partner asking what I am laughing at and it was this thread!

I'm not your ex ow Lemonblast no charity event ones!

I cannot post photos unfortunately it's all personal dates surnames first names.

There is one exactly like Novemberchild posted a photo of but so far he hasn't worn that one thank God!
He has worn his version of the his and hers t-shirt but I guess to everyone else it doesn't look so bad but I know!

The main one he wears is his named one (first and last) which is actually not that bad. It's just hers is the same with Mrs followed by his name and surname. To everyone else it means nothing perhaps to him it even means nothing but to me I see it and all I can see is her wearing hers.

Not speedos thank God but just shorts not boxers just normal shorts with personal info on them!

There are matching ie colour matching one which I'm not that bothered about I'm sure half his wardrobe she has bought again have no issue. There are honeymoon places t-shirt which I guess he loved going to them places and lots of matching travel tshirts

I've bought him slogan t-shirt and printed but nothing related to me, us or anything just the usual slogan you see in the shops.

Maybe they all mean nothing but he does have some that are so worn but he says they are comfy maybe it's that? but on the whole it seems like people are agreed it would I would be justified in saying some thing once he's got something on! I don't want him to wear some of the other ones as I would be modified so I may need to nip it he might not even think anything of it when wearing it.

He may be like my Dh who has never thrown anything from his wardrobe away in about 20 years. He holds onto tatty old crap because it's 'comfy' or he 'might do some decorating in it'.
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