Aibu to ask my partner not to wear this?

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My partner has several items of clothing that him and ex have matching items T-shirts, shorts ect Embroidered or printed relating to various stages in their relationship / Wedding day. I have no issue with him keeping stuff like this. I understand it's a period in both of our lives you cannot just forget.
I myself have a wedding dress at my mothers as well as a couple of wedding gifts which are personalised but have chosen to keep there until I decide what to do.

When we moved in I put them all at the back of the wardrobe neatly when I sorted all our clothes and he questioned where they had gone, I said that where they were and why (I did it basically because I didn't expect him to want to wear them but he obviously does). I know all about the reasons behind them and the backstories he couldn't help telling me and it's made it worse for me when he wears them.

Aibu to politely ask him not to wear these things?

AgentZigzag, I did not. I always wanted to, and would have before I left, but she actually was removed from her position before I moved on to another job. There was a rumor going around that they were kicked out of the local YMCA for being "inappropriate" in the hot tub. :/

I have been to amusement parks, etc., where large families were there, all wearing the same t-shirts, like "Smith Family Reunion 2016," or something, but I always thought it was a means of keeping track of one another in a large crowded attraction. I've never seen couples wearing matching shirts.

OP Are you my Exs OW?

We actually did have a few 'matching' T shirts from a couple of charity fund raising events and he very sheepishly tried to smuggle them back into our FMH after he left because OW didn't like him wearing them.
I wore one of mine when painting the downstairs toilet And no I didn't hide his for him. AFAIK he has them hidden in the garage from her

For some reason I am envisioning 1980s big hair his-n-her mullets, acid-washed jeans and white sport shirts with the collars turned up (around the mullets) - perhaps the shirts are embroidered over the breast pocket area "Cindy and Gary 4EVER" ? Or they are from a Journey concert or some such.

OP is the embroidery due to an event such as "Road Rally in Yosemite 1999" or "Star Trek Fan Con Vegas 2004" etc. that they attended together, or is it really items embroidered with words/dates related to their relationship.

Either way bizarre. I'm not at all a jealous type and this seems weird even to me. Very weird. Tell him to keep these items in his mother's attic or some similar place!

Probably best you didn't ask really steff, because 1- you could never have kept a straight face and it'd be unkind to poke fun blatantly, and 2- more info would have only led to further psychological/sleep disturbance for you/us.

It's a fascinating phenomena though.

And they dressed their dogs up too??

Freaky.

Saw this earlier and thought, "I'll wait until the OP posts photos before I comment", but she still hasn't done it! Get it together OP. I know you're probably building a bonfire out the back but would it really take too much time to take a wee snap before you douse the stuff in lighter fluid?

Yanb unreasonable btw. It's no better than having holiday or wedding snaps dotted around the house and it's bloody weird he still wants to wear them. Unless they're modal cotton or something. That shit is soft.

I need to see the clothes but I don't think yabu, I wouldn't prance about in my wedding dress and I really love it.

- want to know what these clothes are.

And I don't believe 'And nobody gets to dictate to an adult what they can wear or not' for a minute! You'd be fine attending the wedding of a close family member with a bloke in a mankini or Peter Stringfellow speedos? And not for a bet/laugh

Do they still make speedos? Tbh it wouldn't really bother me at all because I don't really notice stuff like that,it's one of the reasons why I go to work in a onsie and my slippers and get hidden in the dungeon away from the normal folk

Does not compute

'Do they still make speedos?'

I'm sure you could get used speedos on ebay if you were that way inclined NeedsA

I wish I could be more like you, I know that my sense of embarrassment is a bit too finely tuned (childhood ishoos) I've tried to unclench but just can't manage it.

Love the image of you being hidden away in a dungeon by your employers though, scared at the havoc someone with no shame could wreck on their organisation

I'm actually the boss but I'm lucky enough to have been able to retain the services of a very sensible admin lady who I poached from where I last had an actual boss who acts as a buffer between me and anybody normal.

Because yes it could bring havoc. In all fairness I'm actually delighted to be able to stay in the dungeon ( office that's out of the way and dingy and full of books and comfy stuff, that other people don't come in). And said nice lady checks I'm decent and appropreate when I have to go anywhere

YANBU but I need to see them too lol

You sound great NeedsA as does your dungeon and buffer lady, but I need to know now where on the scale her sense of embarrassment comes.

At the top end so she measures you against how she'd react if you were out and together, or lower down where she couldn't give a monkeys personally but can gauge how your uniqueness might come across professionally?

I'm just here for the pictures. (salivates)

Reminds me of the pic I see on FB every so often. Elderly man with "I'm with Maureen" (or whoever) on his back and the woman with "I'm Maureen" on hers. Always makes me sad.

She's a shining beacon of utter genius and brilliance a bit like a scary Mary poppins without the singing.

She used to be not terribly bothered but that was back when I wasn't allowed to write my own letters or meet other professionals but she's ramped it up now in the hope that one day I might learn nowadays she follows me about and in meetings stamps on my foot a lot, she does my clothes shopping for me for work stuff and I'm banned from arguing with her about it EVER.

I would say on the embarrassment scale it's probally mid to higher range

He wore matching clothing with his ex?

Are you married to one half of Howard and Hilda from Ever Decreasing Circles?

When I worked for Social Services there was a gentleman who rejoiced in the nickname 'Mad Dog'. When he went out with his wife and son they had customised t-shirts with 'Mad dag' 'Mad dog's bitch' and 'Mad pup' on them respectively.

Are you married to one half of Howard and Hilda from Ever Decreasing Circles?

She can't be - Howard and Hilda would have never split!

You're making it sound creepily abusive now NeedsA

I'm routing for you to break free of her and the dungeon so your uniqueness can roam about in the wider world

Please tell me you work at MNHQ

She can't be - Howard and Hilda would have never split!

True enough, they are clearly devoted to one another.

For some reason I always imagined Howard and Hilda had a fantastic and surprisingly outre sex life.

Actions speak louder than words.

Wearing clothing with 'wedding day blah blah' that's SCREAMING.

Listen to what this is telling you about how he feels about her & you. Then pack bags.

Sadly not, I hear they have lots of gin there and don't need to smile at people.

She's lovely she really is she saves me from all sorts (and I begged her to start sorting out my clothes and stuff) totally not creepy at all its like having your gran looking after you only at work and no bingo is involved

And certainly no matching clothes.

Where has the OP gone? How dare she not elaborate on the matching clothes?!

His and hers 'embroidered' clothing