AIBU to remind you that there are real people on this forum

[chelle792]

Most things on MN go over my head. Nastiness, I ignore generally. Heated debates, I stay out of.

For the first time my bloody is literally boiling about something I've just read.

Please please remember there is a person behind the screen that you are talking to. Imagine a person close to the edge, a vulnerable person. Someone whose only means of support is to turn to mn.

I've had a hard time lately and have openly posted on here. Tbh, I only ever really post when I am feeling vulnerable. I have had nothing but support and understanding, thankyou

But, would you want to be the person responsible for tipping someone over the edge? Be nice people, please.

Millions I clearly have no life

Don't judge the state of the world from threads on MN. That way madness lies. You need RL for that.

OP completely agree with you. Things do get heated at times, fair enough, but it's the deliberate bitchiness and spite that is so unpleasant. I don't mind people people passionate about something they really feel strongly about.
I think it's quite telling that the first few replies to your post were of the bitchy, snide variety.

Abortion troll is pathetic.
Agreed. However there are people out there who actually believe that nonsense, and picket clinics etc. Given that, it's no surprise some will appear on MN.

I have no idea of the demographics, but I suspect MM pretty well reflects society, and there are clearly some nasty un-hinged people out in the real world, so expect to see them here.

People who post on MN need to be responsible for themselves. MN is just a chat forum, nothing more

Fortunately this, just a chat forum thing, has not been my experience on the mental health board where I have only ever had and seen compassionate and intelligent support.

I think something I read this morning has actually really played on my feelings of guilt so maybe that's why I felt the need to post.

I'm not sure that I really know anyone irl who is nasty. Or maybe that's my rose tinted glasses.

On more than one occasion I've cried over what I've read on mn and I think people, not even exclusively trolls, don't think about the consequences of their actions

Amen. Seen and had said to me some horrid things. Some people seem to loose sight of what is and is not acceptable, kind and certainly not the way they would speak if the person was in front of them crying in the flesh.

Where are MNHQ this morning?

While I agree with what they are saying, that troll is being fed hugely and must be loving it. There must be so many reports and it needs stopping soon.

OP I totally agree

I've not seen millions of posts but I have seen tens at least where normal ordinary run of the mill regular mumsnrtters ie not trolls engage in sport of Kicking Person When They're Down

There always used to be a bit of this but now there's loads

If i had anything wrong and felt a bit vulnerable I'd never dream of posting on here

I agree with you Op.

A few years ago I, and several other MNers, watched in appalled horror while a poster was hounded over the edge by some troll hunters on here. She actually had some kind of breakdown. MNHQ responded quickly to hide the accusations and also tried to get hold of the Op as they were seriously concerned about her. It was shocking.

She came back when it was calmer to update us, but I'm not sure if she ever returned after that.

What is an 'ordinary run of the mill' mumsnetter?

I'd never post here about anything that actually mattered to me. It's a pulic chat forum, not a counselling service.

ie not a troll

It does get a bit lord of the flies imo

People who are probably really good friends irl

I have said that before Pictish. But I always get told some people have literally nowhere else to turn but MN.
Which is a bit dangerous.

Ugh

Posted too soon

In bed phone upside down cant hold fat thumbs

Oh dear god spare us yet another 'Mumsnet has gone to the dogs/MN's got nastier/why can't people be kind/why are there so many trolls' thread!

So many threads on Mumsnet about Mumsnet.

If you don't like a thread or a poster, leave the thread, ignore the poster.

If you don't like Mumsnet, deregister and do something else with your time.

Will people stop seeing MN as some kind of important society and remember it's just an internet forum with tons of individual mainly bored people browsing and commenting. That. Is. All.

You mean MN is not the 4th emergency service?

I saw this on a different thread, and thought it's worth repeating:

"MN is not a safe place. It is effectively a massive anonymous gossip site. Some advice is excellent but many posters post nonsense too."

I think that some things you don't want to post irl though. I've talked lots about some things I've needed to mull over.

I think I make the mistake of thinking that because I'm nice everyone else should be.

Oh give it up with the 'I'm so much nicer than everyone else' OP.

I'm 'nice'. Not all the time though. And neither are you.

And there will be 'nice' and not 'nice' posters on Mumsnet BECAUSE WE ALL JUST INDIVIDUALS ON A CHAT FORUM.