Or are all men like this?

[pando]

Have NC for this one. This weekend DP left his text messaging app open on his laptop & I saw a couple of texts (shouldn't have looked I know, stupid me) that made me uncomfortable. I don't know if I am too sensitive (admittedly I have low self esteem, PND, anxiety) or if this is normal for men. They were to a colleague of his saying "have you seen the new starts? That girl with the dark hair is lovely", then "need to find out who she is", then a few days later saying another colleague had added her on facebook & DP was "jealous". Then I saw he was texting her (no name saved initially so he must have given her his number) with just general chat & now I see they are friends on fbook too. Am I overreacting to be upset about him talking like this about other women? Would love some perspective.

I very rarely get jealous about things like this - but this would bother me big time.
Even if it's harmless, it's still disrespectful.

Inexcusable behaviour. So sorry Op that is a terrible way to be treated.

Loving the diet coke stuff too, very interesting perspectives.

I really hope I didn't come across as sexist with my original question, I obviously don't mean all men- I just meant is this behaviour normal & should I be more ok with it than I am. I hope that came across.
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RoboticSealpup* I loved your post, thank you for that I am feeling a wee bit better today- I think DP is being very immature. He said those things to keep up with the guys at work. I don't think he would take things further. I also think he has immature/unrealistic expectations of me & life with kids. I think we need a good chat about all this stuff & I need to sort out my self esteem nonsense.

I feel much better, this has really helped so thanks everyone.

He said those things to keep up with the guys at work.
But texting her is a private thing he's doing, its not in front of his "audience" of mates.

Really glad that you feel a bit better, Pando. Maybe you can draw strength from knowing that your reaction is very reasonable indeed.

pando - I don't think anyone thought you were being sexist, love