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to ask DH if he's been unfaithful?

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JustCleo · 11/03/2016 09:56

I name changed and posted in relationships last night because I'm experiencing symptoms which could indicate an std. Apologies for TMI but I have lots of stretchy greeny yellow discharge, tummy pain, lower back pain, nausea and a fever on and off. I also need to wee lots and urgently and feel a bit burny down below. I saw the doctor this morning and he said it sounds likely to be chlamydia and that I need to make an appointment at the GUM clinic.

DH has form for being dishonest when caught out so I don't trust him 100%. When I was pregnant I accidentally saw he'd been watching porn. He'd always said he didn't like porn, never watched it etc. I checked his history and he was watching it and masterbating daily which had been negatively impacting our sex life but he'd still lied and continued to do so until I told him I'd checked his history.

I want to ask him outright if he's been unfaithful and if this could be chlamydia but I appreciate that completely demonstrates I don't trust him and could seriously damage the relationship if it turns out not to be. But I don't think I can wait for the appointment and remain in pain and seething without just saying something. Would I be unreasonable to ask him?

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Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 14/03/2016 08:47

I hope you've managed to get am appointment for today OP, really hoping for you that it's not an STD.

I think you've absolutely done the right thing in not confronting your husband on this, get your results and take it from there.

I hope you are feeling a bit less uncomfortable now too Flowers

Sallyingforth · 14/03/2016 09:59

And OP please don't feel obliged to share the details here if you'd rather not.

shrekislove · 14/03/2016 15:54

I was in a similar situation a few years back with my DP, turns out it was just a severe uti and bv Blush, hope you get some good news today Flowers

GlitteryFluff · 15/03/2016 11:26

Hope you managed to get an appointment yesterday op Thanks

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