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Original poster

Rude woman or just me?

182 replies

zodiackelly · 10/03/2016 19:01

Hi all! Need your opinions.

So I just got back from tonight's yoga class and feel a little odd with the encounter that I just had. Well I got chatting to another woman who had just joined, as she was talking I glanced out the window for a moment and noticed the moon and I out of the blue mentioned how pretty it looked & how it affects my behaviour - no I'm not crazy haha, please mention if this happens to you too!

Anyway she proceeded to snicker at what I had just said and found a way to excuse herself as if I had just said the world's craziest thing or killed her cat or something?? Am I wrong for thinking she was really rude to laugh and excuse herself? I don't know if I want to go back to my class anymore which is a real shame because I really enjoyed going until this woman joined.

OP posts:
TheDuchessOfArbroathsHat · 10/03/2016 23:12

It won't do Lurked . It just won't do. And do you know why? I'll tell you. Crescent moon out there tonight! There can be no real madness tonight. Just slivers of it. Grin

Original poster
zodiackelly · 10/03/2016 23:16

Should probably take a page out of your book NewLife4Me - perhaps I'm far too forward and open about these things Grin

OP posts:
NewLife4Me · 10/03/2016 23:25

zodiac

People will snigger, you can't blame them really.
It is rude, but pretty much expected if you dare to have/do/want something different.

my 3x gm was Rose Lee. Not the burlesque dancer Grin The fortune teller
She used to do Queen victoria's on Blackpool beach when she visited.
Weirdness is in my blood.
Probably should keep that quiet too.

LifeofI · 11/03/2016 01:19

She is rude but dont let it stop you going just ignore her. I think it looks bad on her if i saw a new person do that i would think "attitude problem"

tomatodizzy · 11/03/2016 01:34

That hippy bollox is more commonly known as the lunar affect.

Just go to your class, enjoy it and perhaps stick to small talk in future. You and the new woman are probably just not compatible people.

PerspicaciaTick · 11/03/2016 02:03

OP - if I met you somewhere for the very first time and chose to derail our initial conversation to talk about the joy of databases, debugging and the craft of writing code, you would undoubtedly think I was spouting inappropriate techy bollocks. I expect you would make your excuses and avoid me in future.

This is what you did - only you were spouting woo bollocks.

mathanxiety · 11/03/2016 03:12

Your remark killed the conversation. It was
(1) out of the blue
(2) way tmi
(3) exactly what PerspicaciaTick said
(3) -- what was she supposed to say in reply? Consider that she doesn't know you at all and may not want to share to the same degree in reciprocation, and may have nothing in common at all with your lunar thing.

mathanxiety · 11/03/2016 03:12

(4)
doh

HermioneWeasley · 11/03/2016 07:06

perspicacia except your conversation would be rooted in fact, so while I might think your conversation skills needed work, I wouldn't wonder if you're mad.

mrskim123 · 11/03/2016 07:53

Zodiackelly, don't let this one woman's behavour/opinion bother you. She may have just joined the class and she could just as likely un-join. You are entitled to be there as much as she is. Find another pal to talk to. I'm thought to be a bit strange just because I believe in astrology . . . .

Janecc · 11/03/2016 07:57

I think you revealed what many would consider intimate knowledge of yourself in a casual conversation. With a stranger. I believe in the lunar effect. However, I would still find it rather unexpected and embarrassing for a stranger to go into detail about their intimate beliefs. I would not know how to respond. Laughter is a natural reaction to embarrassment. Imo, the comment about the moon lacked subtlety and so did the ensuing response. Not unsurprising the op walked off. Painful as it was, this was an opportunity to learn something, not to run away from by exiting the group. I make silly mistakes all the time. We are all human.

RichardLawton · 11/03/2016 08:05

Your remark was a perfectly reasonable one to make in the social context. Some people here seem to miss the point that yoga is a bodymind practice-with physical, psychological and spiritual dimensions. Making a comment about the beauty of the moon and the way you are affected by the rhythms of Nature is entirely appropriate!

My response would have been to agree about the moon and to ask you in what ways you are attuned to Nature. Her response suggest she doesn't understand yoga and has little self-awareness and even less interest in developing self-awareness. Don't let it put you off going back - there's nothing wrong with you.

lunar1 · 11/03/2016 08:07

What on earth should her reply have been? I think I'd have just slowly backed away!

dilbug · 11/03/2016 08:36

There is research that backs this up but ask most teachers and they will echo full moon, wet, windy abandon hope. If I was new at class I would have agreed with you. Not everyone has to like everyone. Maybe quick to judge if rude or not just as my son has aspergers hidden disability and struggles with eye contact but is very defiantly not rude, he also has ADHD which mean inside voice is not moderated and he says what he thinks but is not meaning to be rude. Maybe rude is harsh as you don't know intention behind it. I tell dylan he is being rude when then intention is to upset someone.

CaoNiMao · 11/03/2016 09:26

The major lesson to be learned here (and one I have come to rely on) is never speak to people at yoga classes! Saves you from a whole world of pain, let me tell you.

MymbleMother · 11/03/2016 09:49

Cao I find if you don't speak to anyone ever, it works even better Grin

MymbleMother · 11/03/2016 09:49

Apart from MN of course. It's ok to speak to people on MN apart from AIBU

stumblymonkey · 11/03/2016 10:08

Honestly...if you'd have said that to me (about being at one with the moon, etc) I'd have thought you were cracking an amusing joke and would have sniggered thinking I was laughing 'with you'.

It's fine for you to hold unusual beliefs but you surely must sort of expect people to snigger occasionally when you talk about being at one with the moon?

stumblymonkey · 11/03/2016 10:19

I haven't laughed this much for....oh....it must be at least a day since Pippa

PrivatePike · 11/03/2016 10:22

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welcometouniversallychallenged · 11/03/2016 16:42

It does sound a bit like you just outed yourself as a werewolf. I probably would have laughed too, then realised I was taking to someone who could turn into a huge, snarling beast at any second and excused myself as quickly as I could.
YABU if you really are a werewolf. People are entitled to be afraid. If not, she sounds like a bit of a pompous jerk. Ignore and move on,

iMogster · 11/03/2016 19:31

Do go back to the class that you love. And don't mention the moon next time.

mathanxiety · 12/03/2016 02:12

You need one of these for your next yoga session.

tashrap · 12/03/2016 05:29

Ive never posted before but i feel like i could have been OP. Dont stop going to your class, and enjoy the moon. If she cant see the beauty in the moon shes missing out not you.

ReginaBlitz · 12/03/2016 08:30

I'd be pissed off, you look away when someone is talking and then proceed to chat shit about the moon over them, it's rude.