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Rude woman or just me?

182 replies

zodiackelly · 10/03/2016 19:01

Hi all! Need your opinions.

So I just got back from tonight's yoga class and feel a little odd with the encounter that I just had. Well I got chatting to another woman who had just joined, as she was talking I glanced out the window for a moment and noticed the moon and I out of the blue mentioned how pretty it looked & how it affects my behaviour - no I'm not crazy haha, please mention if this happens to you too!

Anyway she proceeded to snicker at what I had just said and found a way to excuse herself as if I had just said the world's craziest thing or killed her cat or something?? Am I wrong for thinking she was really rude to laugh and excuse herself? I don't know if I want to go back to my class anymore which is a real shame because I really enjoyed going until this woman joined.

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 10/03/2016 20:23

It may be that the woman decides not to return next week herself....

BorderTerrierControl · 10/03/2016 20:23

Maybe she laughed 'cause she couldn't see the moon, and thought you were pulling her leg? It was the new moon yesterday after all, so you'd probably have to really squint out the window to see how pretty it is tonight.

zodiackelly · 10/03/2016 20:23

Thank you Italiangreyhound for your input - I can see where you're coming from and I guess I can see where you're coming from. It was very full on coming from myself as a first meeting with someone, but as I said, the moon can do funny things to me lol. Still, there may have been a more polite way to go about it, no?

OP posts:
MymbleMother · 10/03/2016 20:23

I'm on the app now - do MNHQ still do the moonwatch thing on the homepage?

MistressMerryWeather · 10/03/2016 20:23

Anyone else miss the little MN moon calendar?

I used to check it all the time.

Sparklingbrook · 10/03/2016 20:24

Is it trouble? So that's why I can't see it?

MistressMerryWeather · 10/03/2016 20:24

X post Mymble. :o

No, tis gone.

thetroubleis · 10/03/2016 20:25

It sure is. I don't think there's even a tiny slice, and if there is, I can't see it.

Italiangreyhound · 10/03/2016 20:26

Wonder if this can shed any moonlight on the topic!

www.livescience.com/7899-moon-myths-truth-lunar-effects.html

pictish · 10/03/2016 20:26

Greyhound why have you linked to a children's web page explaining what the moon is?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 10/03/2016 20:26

Stupid bloody moon...

tealoveryum · 10/03/2016 20:27

I wouldn't have laughed but such a random comment would make me think you were joking. In fact my mind would probably go to werewolf and given you were at a yoga class I'd have thought you were hinting your leg hair was.

I know what you mean about the lunar cycle, I used to be very into the idea but your comment doesn't lead directly to that, it's one of a few possibilities including .

I would go back to the class, it would be a shame not to. I suspect she thought you were joking but if it happens again with other things then you'll know if she's the kind of person not to bother with.

tealoveryum · 10/03/2016 20:28

I'd have thought you were hinting your leg hair was long*

PirateSmile · 10/03/2016 20:29

The moon was incredibly pretty tonight and had somebody been with me when I saw it I would also have mentioned it them Smile

paxillin · 10/03/2016 20:29

OP: Are you enjoying the class, new yogi (NY)?
NY: Yes, rather nice, thank you, have you been going long?
OP: Yes. Oh, look, a moon. Full moon affects my behaviour.
NY:
OP: I'm serious!
NY: Oh sorry, must dash

Nobody is rude.

Alchemist · 10/03/2016 20:30

Before meno, and when not using the pill, after a few months I would go on to moon cycle i.e. I would come on at the full moon.

It happened! Is it to do with the tides as well?

I would probably have nodded and smiled and not told you about my period moon cycle.

thetroubleis · 10/03/2016 20:32

Why am I not seeing this moon?!?!?!

Italiangreyhound · 10/03/2016 20:35

zodiackelly laughing is, for many of us, a totally involuntary action! we laugh when we find something funny but also, sometimes, we laugh when something else happens, a kind of nervous laugh. My mum used to laugh when I fell of my bike etc (much to my annoyance), now I laugh much to my dd's annoyance) when the kids hurt themselves.

It's a kind of nervous response and does not really equate at all to how one feels.

I wonder if she (possibly as a new member of the group) was nervous.

So in answer to your question... "Still, there may have been a more polite way to go about it, no?"

No, not if it was a nervous reaction. But she could have apologised for laughing.

Also, I am a bit of a butterfly brain and well established friends would not be offended if I drifted off topic about stuff. But I am 50 and have known my friends a long time!

I remember in my very early twenties meeting a new friend and early on being very put off by the fact she would suddenly say in the middle of a conversation "Oh, I really love that scarf!"

I suggest you just keep going to a group you like, either avoid her or engage with her, if you wish to, keep off topics that you yourself feel may be a bit 'out there' too early on ....and forgive her for her slight over reaction to your comment and she will forgive any flitting off topic from you! Grin

Come back and tell us in a year when you are best buds! Wink

Italiangreyhound · 10/03/2016 20:36

pictish because I liked what it said about the moon.

BitOutOfPractice · 10/03/2016 20:37

I think it sounds like a pretty awkward conversation from both sides to be honest

BorderTerrierControl · 10/03/2016 20:37

trouble 'cause the moon rose in the AM and set around 7ish PM today. It's gone, what little of it there was

Italiangreyhound · 10/03/2016 20:38

pictish or maybe the moon made me do it!!! Wink

BorderTerrierControl · 10/03/2016 20:39

Sorry, that should have been set 8pm ish, I'm getting mixed up.

thetroubleis · 10/03/2016 20:39

Thanks, Border I'm going for a lie down now.

Bloody moon out in the day, whatever next?

BorderTerrierControl · 10/03/2016 20:42

It's often out in the day- bloody moon just wanders about whenever it sodding chooses with no concern for our expectations, or desires to see it in the evening my own expectations may or may not be based purely on illustrations from kids books

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